A Girl's Guide to Surviving an Emotionally Abusive Relationship ...


Emotional abuse, like physical and mental abuse, is damaging, dangerous, and a disservice to you.

You deserve better.

Emotional abuse leaves scars that don't fade.3

It can hold you prisoner and keep you captive.

You begin to feel like you deserve every ugly, unkind, disparaging word.

You begin to think you deserve the abuse, that there's something wrong with you, and that this is the best you can do.

You don't deserve the abuse.

There isn't anything wrong with you.

This is not the best you can do.

You can get out of this.

You can survive it.

You can thrive through it.

1. Admit That It's Abuse

Admit That It's Abuse

This is the hard part.

Emotional abuse comes in many forms.

Your partner may outright insult you, may call you ugly or fat, tell you that you're a slut, that you're stupid.

S/he may try to control what you wear, how you think, and who your friends are.

Constant arguments, disparaging your opinions, insulting you, or simply shutting you out, never talking to you, and blaming you for all the issues in your relationship are all forms of emotional abuse.

Mental and verbal abuse may come into play, as well.

This type of abuse, unfortunately, takes many forms, some of which are subtle and insidious.

You have to recognize the abuse and call it what it is.

That's the first step in taking back your own power.

Understand That It is Never about You


Miss Shadows
Can you please tell me how you found the picture for the first step. I read this a while back and I've been wondering about that bathing suit
Ana-Maria Nicolaescu
But how can one know if it's really abusive or maybe just overreacting, as they have been told?
Lol why would you want to survive an emotionally abusive relationship?... Get out! #WhenInDoubtGetOut
Chaya Goffin
@annie not always is it even POSSIBLE for abused people to just get up and waltz out of a terrible situation. Not all circumstances are created equal, not everyone can do the same things. All that can be done is let that person know that they have support outside of that situation. Let them know that if they ever need a temporary venting place, you're there for them! I've been abused, so when I say this please believe me: NOT ALWAYS IS IT THE BEST THING TO RUN AWAY FROM YOUR PROBLEMS!!! If you are forced to stay in that situation, adapt. Deal with it as well as you can, knowing that you have the support of others. Don't be that person that thinks that their way is the only way. Know that everyone has their own special set of circumstances that dictate what they do in every situation. Basically: don't judge others until you've been a mile in THEIR shoes.
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