Hi! My name is Monique. This site is AWESOME by the way :) and I wanted to ask for some advice since that’s what the others were doing :D I am a very shy person ...See more at my new school. I don’t talk to the other students very much. There was an incident in English during roll-call last week when the teacher called my name and everyone said, “Who’s Monique?” I’ve decided enough is enough, and that I need to start speaking up and becoming the smart, funny girl that I am behind closed doors. But the problem is.. I don’t know how to begin, and I’m an 18 year old Senior in high school already. To be honest, I’m not very outspoken (though I wish I were), I’m not confident, I’ve never fallen in love, or had a boyfriend. I’ve never even been kissed (hahah so Drew Barrymore).
What I’m asking is, could you please give me some advice on how to be more confident, and how to make friends? (And possibly how to be less nervous around guys?) I’d really appreciate it :]
Anonymous :
I had the same problem as you when I was in 9th grade. The trick is to pick someone who’s friends with everyone (but not hostile or judgemental to people outside of their social group) ...See more and talk with them once, ideally when no one else is paying attention. A new student would work, too. It’ll be awful, but they’ll probably remember you and try to talk to you again. It’ll be awful the second and third times, too, but you just have to stick it out, and eventually it’ll get better.
Alternately, you could play up the social anxiety aspect and get a prescription. Talking with people on the internet works according to some of my friends, but I have no experience there.
I haven’t a clue about boys, but that’s probably because I’m 1) a lesbian and 2) closeted. It seems that “girl talk” involves discussions of the men one finds attractive, including classmates, so becoming more social could lead naturally to finding a boyfriend, but IDK.
Wish you luck and happiness!
maritha :
sure, just don’t change who you are. some don’t see you, but some out there that you don’t know might fall for you. just be what you are. get comfortable to it. and don’t close ...See more yourself from letting others get into you. good luck !
Hi! My name is Monique. This site is AWESOME by the way :) and I wanted to ask for some advice since that’s what the others were doing :D I am a very shy person ... See more at my new school. I don’t talk to the other students very much. There was an incident in English during roll-call last week when the teacher called my name and everyone said, “Who’s Monique?” I’ve decided enough is enough, and that I need to start speaking up and becoming the smart, funny girl that I am behind closed doors. But the problem is.. I don’t know how to begin, and I’m an 18 year old Senior in high school already. To be honest, I’m not very outspoken (though I wish I were), I’m not confident, I’ve never fallen in love, or had a boyfriend. I’ve never even been kissed (hahah so Drew Barrymore).
What I’m asking is, could you please give me some advice on how to be more confident, and how to make friends? (And possibly how to be less nervous around guys?) I’d really appreciate it :]
Alternately, you could play up the social anxiety aspect and get a prescription. Talking with people on the internet works according to some of my friends, but I have no experience there.
I haven’t a clue about boys, but that’s probably because I’m 1) a lesbian and 2) closeted. It seems that “girl talk” involves discussions of the men one finds attractive, including classmates, so becoming more social could lead naturally to finding a boyfriend, but IDK.
Wish you luck and happiness!