7 Bad Habits to Have in a Relationship ...

By Vanessa

No relationship is ever perfect but there are definitely some things we can all avoid doing to help things go a lot smoother! Habits can be hard to break but if you're guilty of doing any of these things, try your hardest to change your ways.

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Spying

Communication is key but so is trust. In a relationship, you should be able to have faith in your s/o and know that he loves you and wouldn't stray. This means you shouldn't be snooping through his phone whenever you see it lying around. Trust him in every aspect because if you do, you'll never feel the urge to spy on him. Trust me ladies, spying/snooping on your man never leads to anything good.

2

Making Comparisons

Whether it's to your ex-boyfriend or to the hunky man in the new Nicholas Sparks movie, stop comparing your man to others. You should be able to accept the way he is, flaws and all. What makes him different from every other man should be what makes you love him! I know, I know, sometimes we all make comparisons without even knowing that we're doing it but that just means you really have to put effort into focusing only on the good!

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Losing Your Self-identity

Being in a relationship is great but don't forget about yourself. Make sure you are still you! It's important to have your own hobbies and your own friends. Thinking that you are not complete without the presence of somebody else is not healthy. Remember, you are yours before you ever anybody else's. It's okay to love someone, just don't lose yourself in the process.

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Lying

This should be obvious but I'll include it anyways. A lot of people try to justify their "little white lies" by claiming that it isn't really hurting anybody. However, even little white lies can snowball into something bigger. Once you feel comfortable telling your loved one a small lie, you might start to feel comfortable telling bigger ones. That's not a good habit to have! Work on being honest with each other.

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Holding a Grudge

Relationships are about give and take. It's never easy all the time and that's why it's a two-way street that requires effort on both ends. It's important to realize that neither of you are perfect. When one of you does something wrong, talk through it and learn to forgive. There's no point in living life being angry about something that cannot be changed now.

Famous Quotes

To give oneself earnestly to the duties due to men, and, while respecting spiritual beings, to keep aloof from them, may be called wisdom.

Confucius
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Keeping Score

This habit goes hand in hand with the previous one. Relationships should not be about keeping score! Arguments happen but there shouldn't be a "winner" or a "loser". None of you should feel like you're in that type of situation; if you learn to talk things out, you'll both be satisfied with the outcome. It can cause unnecessary tension.

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Taking Them for Granted

It's so easy to take the ones we love for granted. We don't say "I love you" as often as we should because we already assume that they know that. Don't continue to make that mistake! Let the person you love just how much you love them while they're around to hear you. Showing gratitude and paying attention that person will only make your relationship stronger.

Can you think of any other bad habits to have in a relationship? Feel free to share your ideas in the comments!

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Also, thinking you're not good enough for them. The problem when we have been heartbroken is that we don't know how to trust that significant other and we lose value within ourselves. We go into relationships trying to find fulfillment but we need to find that within us.

Totally agree @francesca rose

Criticizing him when I'm stressed is a bad habit of mine. When I'm stressed out, overt thing seems like a big deal. Trying to control the other person is never a long-term or healthy solution.

Love this !

I agree identity is important as are the others but if you love n respect yourself so will he! Men live strong assertive women not victim seeking ..

Telling our loved ones that they are soo emotional. I thnk t aint a good habit .

Over emotional i mean .

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I second your thoughts. The most scariest one is lost of identity. If the relationship didn't work out, you will hit rock bottom. Then the issues of lost of confidence, self esteem and self worth.

Guilty

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