15 Benefits of a Relationship Break ...

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15 Benefits of a Relationship Break ...

Relationship break conversations come up in many relationships, even when the two of you really love each other. There are many issues than can lead to a relationship break, and it's important to realize that sometimes, a break is a good idea. It doesn't mean that you'll actually break up. In fact, a break can end up strengthening your relationship – it all depends on what you do when you take a break. By reading up on the benefits of a relationship break, you can see why it might be a healthy option for you.

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Getting Space

One of the most common benefits of a relationship break is getting the space you need. Everyone needs space. If you're not used to being in a relationship or if your partner is very attentive and you're not accustomed to that, you can get antsy. You might just need some space to yourself.

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Taking a pause also allows for personal reflection away from the constant interaction with your significant other, giving you the necessary breathing room to evaluate your feelings and the direction of the relationship. The distance can shine a light on what genuinely matters to you, and at times, it may even rekindle the appreciation and love that got overshadowed by routine or conflict. It's like stepping back to view a painting from a new perspective — suddenly you see colors and shapes you didn't notice when you were standing too close.

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Finding Yourself

When you tell your partner you need a break, his or her first reaction may be to think that you want to see other people; if your partner comes to you, then you might think that as well. However, that's rarely the case. You might just need to find yourself, to reconnect with who you are as an individual rather than as part of a couple.

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Feeling Calmer

Relationships can be tumultuous and passionate. While passion is essential, it can wear you out. A break to calm down, get yourself collected, and chill out can keep things from burning too brightly. This is one of those occasions when a relationship break is really helpful.

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Learning if You're Compatible

Sad to say, if you doubt that you and your partner are really compatible with each other, it might be time for a break. Time apart can give you time to think about all the things you have in common, or whether or not this is a situation where opposites attract.

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A relationship break can be a beneficial tool for couples who are struggling with their relationship. Whether the break is a few days or a few weeks, it can help you gain clarity and perspective on the relationship.

One of the biggest benefits of a relationship break is that it allows you to step away from the relationship and gain insight into what is going on. This can be especially helpful if you are feeling overwhelmed or uncertain about the relationship. Taking a break can help you to evaluate your feelings and determine if the relationship is worth continuing.

During a relationship break, it can also be beneficial to take the time to reflect on the things that you and your partner have in common. This can help you to identify what you both value in the relationship, as well as what is causing tension or dissatisfaction. Taking this time to focus on the positive aspects of the relationship can help you to strengthen your bond.

In addition, a relationship break can also give you the opportunity to assess how compatible you and your partner are. It can be helpful to take some time to think about whether you are truly compatible with each other or if your differences are causing tension. If it turns out that you are incompatible, it may be best to end the relationship.

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Deciding What You Want

Sometimes, two people want different things. In this case, however, a relationship break may not have anything to do with your partner. You may need to decide whether you want a long term commitment, a marriage, or children, true, but you might also need time to decide whether you want to go to school, change your career, get a new job, and so on.

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To give oneself earnestly to the duties due to men, and, while respecting spiritual beings, to keep aloof from them, may be called wisdom.

Confucius
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Figuring out Your Priorities

Couples sometimes have different priorities. That doesn't have to be a breaking point, but the two of you may want to take time to discover what your most important priorities are. If you don't have the same ones and can't compromise, it is better to know sooner rather than later.

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Making Sure It's Love

If you're not sure you're really in love with your partner, then a relationship break can be hugely beneficial. As they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder. If your heart does grow fonder, you'll know your feelings are true. If not … well, like I said, it's better to know this sooner rather than later.

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Learning More about Yourself

While you might reconnect with yourself during your break, you'll also learn about what you like, what you don't like and what you need in a relationship. This is a great chance for you to come back to your relationship with a fresh set of eyes and ears.

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Realizing You Miss Your Partner

When you've been in a relationship for a while, you can just get comfortable. Comfort isn't bad in a relationship, but do you really think that you'll miss your partner during the break? Are you happy the break is happening? These are questions you'll have to ask yourself!

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A Break Isn't Breaking up

One of the biggest misconceptions that people have when it comes to taking a break in their relationship is that their relationship is over. That isn't true at all! A break doesn't mean you are breaking up, remember that!

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Taking a breather from your partner allows both of you to reflect on your individual desires and issues outside the relationship's influence. During this pause, understanding and personal growth can occur, potentially leading to a stronger bond if you reunite. It's a period for contemplation, not conclusion, where the space created can foster independence and a new appreciation for each other. Always communicate openly about the parameters of the break to maintain clarity and respect throughout this transformative time.

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Time to Think

If you and your partner have been fighting a lot, you might need time to think. Sometimes it feels like breaking up is the only solution, but this is a great way to take the time you need without losing your partner for good.

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Rekindle the Spark

Sometimes a break might be just what you need to get the spark back. Because of everything previously mentioned in this post, it's not surprising that the spark may have disappeared. Taking a break could let you know how much you want to be with your partner and when you get back together you'll feel like new again. On the other hand, you could try to start to date your partner again which can also rekindle the spark.

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More Time with Your Friends and Family

Relationships can be time consuming and you can sometimes lose touch with the people that were once closest to you. A break might be a great time to reconnect with these people and see that you miss them. If you decide to get back into the relationship, you'll hopefully remember that these people are the ones who will always be there and you won't let them get lost in the shuffle again.

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Help Figure Things out

Unfortunately, you may have been thinking of breaking up with your partner. If that's true, a break might help you figure out what you should do about that. The sad truth is that in the end, you may feel that it's better for you to end the relationship. On the other hand, you may realize that it's the last thing you want.

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Breaks Can Help the Understanding

Finally, a break can bring an entirely new sense of understanding between you and your partner. You'll come back from your break feeling completely refreshed and who knows, maybe you will love each other a little more!

As mentioned, just because you take a relationship break doesn't mean your relationship is over. You and your partner can become even stronger than before. Generally a break isn't about a lack of love – unless, as mentioned, you're having doubts. Even still, a break can show you just what you're missing. If it does lead to a breakup, however, then it's often better to end things sooner, and more amicably. Have you ever had a relationship break? Let us know what happened and what you discovered!

This article was written in collaboration with editor Lydia Sheehan.

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@Heather Jensen It really is hard! How did you end up talking again?

I would like to be with that guy later down the track when we both figure out ourselves but I'm not sure if he wants to. What should and shouldn't I do?

I been with my boyfriend for 6 years and 2 months together, he just recently bought a home, and we decided also to take 2 months of break with absolute no contact to figure out what we both need and want. The thing is, I know I love him, but he wants to know that what he feels for me is really love or he is just used to been with me. Im his first girlfriend he is 25 and I am 25 as well. We have had a tough relationship over the years. Last summer he planned to move out of state to buy a home, these plans he made them with me for us to move together and buy a home together, of course he had plans for us together for a better future. By September 2012 he had trouble transferring in his job and decided to just stay here and get a home. The problem was, at one point he said that he wanted to get this home because deep down he has an obligation to get his mom a home as well. I felt like these plans were no longer about me and him and creating a family but for him to get his mom a house and us live all together. Me and his mother CANNOT live together, I try but she kinda gets involve in things and I hate it. Plus, for all the years in our relationship we have lived with my mother. WE HAVE NO PRIVACY! So I said to him, but what about us? but your mom already has a home we have nothing to start with but your job and my college. So I said is best if I stay here, he obviously got very upset. So when his transfer didnt worked he decided to get a home here, so I said I should get a job and start to help you with all the expenses, he immediately said that he wanted me to stayed in school and home only and that he would rent 2 rooms to 2 people to help him pay the house faster. AGAIN the damn privacy issue. I felt totally out of the equation and useless to him. So I started to back off and treat him like I didnt care anymore. He got approve for a home loan and was ready to start looking for a home, this time he started to do things by himself because well I back my self off him. One day we had a huge argue and he said "lets split is best for both then I cant stand the fighting anymore, is this how I want to live for the rest of my life?" ......By October he met a girl at work, a nice 21 yr old girl who has a boyfriend which she lives together with. He started to bring her up in conversations and I said well Im glad because you are quite anti-social and is good to have friends. He started to bring her up everyday saying things like "shes funny" "shes friendly" etc...so I asked him nicely do you like her? He answered no I dont. But I could not just stay with a "no I dont" it wasnt enough and I was starting to get a bit jealous something that never happened to me with him because I trust him. (This girl is about to get married but she also has a weird tough relationship, my boyfriend met her boyfriend and well it was never a hidden friendship). So the splitting was the original idea at first but.... I was hurt with the split, but I decided to let my anger aside for later on and took the time to treat him with love, care and to be there for him through out his process of buying a home. He had major anxieties and I was there for him to keep him positive. As months passed he always brought her up and I again asked him what he feels for her and to trust me because I wasnt going to judge him. He said " I will be really honest, I used her by bringing her up in conversations to make you jealous, you get your attention and care, but I didnt wanted to tell you because I dont want you to layback and be secure of me, I wanted to wake you up and care for me because you seem to not care" I replied "you seem like you dont care about me sometimes either, Im just here like another of your objects, as an option I feel, so I stopped paying attention to you. Months passed and our relationship with my treatment and his attention changed, we developed a stronger communication and we became much closer. He stopped bringing this girl up because well he didnt like her and at one point he said to me "if I had an affair or crush on her I would have dumped you, left, not mention her name to you, or tell you what we do or talk about, and not care for what you have to say or treat me like. I just wouldn't care anymore don't you think?" At least, we were lucky enough to notice that our main problem was our communication. We had an awful communication. For the past 5 months I decided to change my attitudes and make the best of the time with him and endure our communication by being truly honest to each other before he left. At one point he said, "I didn't wanted to even take the break anymore but I'm tired and scare that if we leave it like this in the future we might go back to the same issues and I'm just tired of that". He said..."plus we need the time I want to see results from your side as of changes and improvements like getting a job and finishing goals that you set for yourself, because you start them and never finish them". He said he knew he was going to miss me and that It was better for me to leave my fb closed because that way since he knows he will miss me he don't get curious to know whats going on with me during the break. He was loving with me until the end, and the day he left he was very sad. He said with a smile and watery eyes "I'll see you in two months" (We both hugged and kissed), and he said: "sorry for all the pain I made you go through specially with that other girl, which I caused on purpose but it worked!, I got you back to prove me you love and care for me and to be that charming loving girl I first met, thank you for everything you did for me"...... so.....what should I do? should I wait? Im so hurt and definitely lost because I have no idea what will happen. I am stuck between moving on, or waiting for him and his decision. Please advice me anyone. :'(

Hi, my girlfriend told me yesterday that she think it is better to take a break until january when we see eachother again, I know ive not been a good girlfriend lately and alot of nonsens happend. I would just like some advice on how do you just stop contact for 2 months, i love her so much and just want to text her the whole time saying i love her but know i have to give us space. How do you just let it go without crying all day? please really need your advice.

My gf and I have been dating for 3 months and we both fell in love. We call and text one another all the time and things have been going great. She studys for school all the time and when she does she pushes me away. I become very needy and she tells me it irritates her. The other day she came over and sais she needed a break of a week and I felt like dying. She said we were not breaking up but that I was smothering her. I feel heartbroken and miserable but everybody is telling me that if I call or text her it will only confirm her feelings. I don't know what to do I'm now depressed and missing her like crazy! I need help on what to do

me and my boyfriend just took a break from each other like last night I want to call and talk to him so badly but it will mess with the break which means that he will want to break up with me. I cryed myself to sleep last night because I thought our relationship was over but it might not be over yet. I didn't want to eat anything today at all but my parents had to make me eat something I told him that I wanted to kill myself last night and today but I didn't kill myself. I had some friends that had helped me and my parents had helped me out too. I am 15 and my boyfriend is 16. my parents didn't approve of him smoking weed and he cuss a lot too but that is who he is so he unfriended most of my family who was telling him to quit cussing and he blocked them too so we can go out again after he thinks about our relationship some.

@Stephanie ..I think .. BF and I going to break up soon...just the reason ..Im not the right girl that he think before ...now I cant believe I have to move somewhere to live alone. God .. cant believe that before we move to live together ,we hold have and walk into this place together ..and... I have to move out alone...so so hurt.. whatever ... I just want to know what i should do when ... he come back .. after apart God.. I feel scared and fear to hear when he tell me face to face \"I want to break up with you\" T_T

Hii i want help like we broked up 2 weeks before n i m missing him a lot we have a lond distance realtionship n i want him back should i give him time to think about this reln or should i contact him now becoz our fighting was started in half month before we didnt talk properly for 1 month now he didint broked up he said that single lyf is much better than relation one our reln is of 1 n half year . cn i ask one question if he really loved me he will come back or not becoz i made a mistake i hurted him so will he forget that mistake ? n after sometime will he come back

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