Here Are the Dating Rules That No Longer Apply ...

By Holly

You don't need to follow a certain set of rules in order to obtain a boyfriend, especially the outdated rules. Times have changed, which means that you don't have to fit into a certain mold in order to get someone to like you. You can do that just by being yourself. While you're at it, here are the dating rules that no longer apply:

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1

You Should Wait to Call Him

There's an old rule that says you should wait three days to call someone after getting their number. However, that rule doesn't apply anymore, especially now that texting is popular. If a guy gives you his number, feel free to text him right away so that he has your number, too. That way, the lines of communication are open right away. Plus, people nowadays are more impatient, so no one really wants to wait to hear from someone they're interested in.

2

Men Should Initiate Everything

Men are no longer in charge of initiating everything. If you want to ask a guy out, then do it. If you want to kiss him, then lean right in. There's no reason for you to wait for him to make the first move when you're free to make it yourself. If he's more sheepish and shy than you are, then it makes sense for you to initiate everything.

3

The Man Should Always Pay

Men don't need to initiate anymore, and they don't need to pay either. If you make more money than your boyfriend does, then you should offer up your wallet, or at least ask him if he'd like to split the bill.

4

You Should Have Sex on the 3rd Date

Some people say that you should wait until the third date to have sex, but there's nothing sillier than that. You should sleep with someone when you're completely ready, whether it's on your tenth date or before you've even gone on your first date. Hook ups are common in the modern world, so it's okay if you make out with your crush before you go out to dinner with him.

5

Dates Should Be Impressive

Dates don't actually have to be exciting and expensive. If you're with the right person, you'll have just as much fun watching Netlix on the couch together as you would watching a movie in a theater. If you two are both broke, have your date nights at home. Free dates aren't necessarily bad dates.

Famous Quotes

To give oneself earnestly to the duties due to men, and, while respecting spiritual beings, to keep aloof from them, may be called wisdom.

Confucius
6

You Should Play Hard to Get

Playing hard to get isn't as fun as it looks. If a guy asks you out, don't say no just to make him suffer. Don't wait an hour to text him back either, especially if you're dying to type out a response. There's nothing unattractive about admitting your interest.

7

Certain Subjects Are off Limits

You don’t have to avoid talking about your ex, religion, or politics with your partner. Sure, those topics might make things awkward on a first date, but you're going to have to talk about them eventually. If your religious or political views differ, you might not last in the long run. And although you don't want to bring up your ex too often, you're going to have to be open about your past.

There's no set of rules that will help you find love. Just be yourself and the rest will fall into place. What other dating rules of the past do you think are outdated?

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This article was stupid. Sorry. Have sex before you go on the date and then what? You've already set the tone of what's to expect the next time you guys hang out. SEX.

Growing up in an old fashioned home with strict parents find this unacceptable even in todays society. My parents were right this just leads to divorce and cheating.

Its really sad that people actually think that it's ok to have sex with a guy before the first date. And we're surprised that most men no longer respect women these days? How are men supposed to respect women when we don't even respect ourselves?

I think it depends on the guy ladies...some are decent and some not so. Just gotta pick up on which one he is beware of the wolf in sheep's clothing. Some men are very adept at saying one thing but feeling another. If he likes YOU he will wait. If he doesn't then you haven't lost anything.

I don't feel like sleeping with someone before your 1st date would lead to a 2nd. That's just plain easy!

Alka, having a husband isn't the most important thing in the world for a woman, don't be rude.

Agree on everything but the last one...to an extent: talking about your ex is a turn off- the past is the past- live in the now with the man you're with....

This article is ridiculous. There's nothing wrong with modesty. For a woman to get a man, she does not need to act in desperate.

At JP, i agree, people with stable values and self respect educate themselves and value themselves, they make the best long time partners. Only sluts jump from bed to bed

I totally agree with 'playing hard to get', girls if you want the guy, just get him! or he'll just move on to another girl. we all know how guys nowadays are. lol seriously

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