You don't want to be the girl your ex tells horror stories about. That's why you should try to treat him respectfully after the breakup. That can be hard to do, but it'll make you feel like a better person at the end of the day. So here are a few ways to be a mature ex girlfriend:
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1. Don’t Badmouth Him
Don't go around, telling lies about him to all of your friends. The relationship is over, so try to forget about him.
2. Don’t Badmouth His New Girlfriend
His new girlfriend didn't do anything to you. It's not her fault that you two were interested in the same man.
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3. Return His Stuff
Don't burn the clothes he left at your house. Don't toss them out of your window, either.
4. Don’t Brag about Your New Boyfriend
You don't need to throw your new boyfriend into your old boyfriend's face. He's upset enough about the breakup. Don't purposely try to make it worse.
5. Don’t Stalk Him
Stop looking through his Instagram and Facebook. You're not going to like what you see, anyway.
6. Don’t Make Your Friends Pick Sides
If your friends are also friends with your ex, don't throw a fit whenever they choose to hangout with him. Your breakup isn't their problem.
7. Don’t Argue in Public
If you're going to fight with your ex, at least do it in private. Don't air your dirty laundry for everyone to see.
8. Don’t Try to Get Revenge
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Revenge doesn't taste as sweet as everyone says. You don't want your anger to take control of you, or you'll end up regretting your actions.
9. Break up with Him in Person
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If you're the one ending the relationship, make sure you do it face-to-face. Texting him is too impersonal.
10. Don’t Run the Other Way when You See Him
If you see him in public, don't freak out. Put on your fake smile, walk up to him, and say hello.
11. Never Drunk Text Him
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You don't want to seem desperate by getting wasted and sending him texts about how much you miss him, or how much you hate him. Keep your phone far away if you're going to be consuming any alcohol.
12. Don’t Talk about Him Online
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Don't make vague statuses about him. Don't make statuses that are blatantly about him, either.
13. Don’t Rebound Unless You Really Want to
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Don't sleep with a stranger to make him jealous. Unless you genuinely want to make out with a new guy, there's no reason to do it.
14. Don’t Use Drugs or Alcohol to Cope
These things aren't going to numb your pain. Don't expect them to make you feel better, because they'll only make you feel worse.
15. Don’t Force a Friendship
You don't have to prove your maturity by being friends with him. Sometimes, it's better to delete his number and keep him out of your life.
16. Don’t Try to Get Back Together
Unless you two have changed since you broke up, don't try to get him back. The relationship will just end up failing again.
17. Be Happy That He’s Happy
Try to be happy for your ex. Even though your relationship didn't work out, it doesn't make him a horrible person. You liked him once, so be happy that he's happy.
If you follow this advice, your ex won't have anything bad to say about you. Do you think you've handled your past breakups in a mature way?
Comments
br1tt: I have a really bad habit of throwing guys stuff away lol
Derenda: My husband left me for another woman after I got cancer. I'm over it finally and seeing things clearly. I don't wish him any harm or anything good either. He is just nothing to me now. I can say I tried to be a mature ex because I never wanted to be seen like a bad ex.
BeHsHiD: Absolutely
Sarah: My ex is trying to force a friendship with me at the moment, and I'm trying really desperately to get out before it's too late :(
Nana: He left me without telling anything and he wrote in twitter that he dumped me lol =_="
Ordinary: It's okay to get back with your ex. We had dated for a year and a half when things got rough for me, so we took a break. Now, we've been dating six months strong again. Hey, maybe a break can do a little good for you guys too b
Pinkz: I don't think returning his stuff is essential. ;)
Amandanazim: If you Do nr 4 You're not over him and shouldn't be in a realitionship
Elanor: No, I was shocked, angry, and hurt. But will never let him know this. I happy for his new whore girlfriend!
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