You've probably heard that it's "better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." However, there's nothing stopping you from getting back the person you loved and lost. If you genuinely believe that your ex is the person you're meant to be with, here's how you can get back the guy who got away:
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1. Make Sure That Your Situation is Different Now
Most of the time, when you break up with someone, there's a good reason behind it. That's why it's typically unhealthy to pine over your ex and try to get him back. However, under some circumstances, it's acceptable. Before you make any moves to get him back you have to remember why you two broke up in the first place and decide if things have changed enough for you two to work now. For instance, if you broke up because he wanted children and you didn't, you shouldn't get back together if your mindsets haven't changed. But if you broke up because he moved out of state, but now he's back, then go ahead and make him your man again!
2. Reunite with Him
If you two lost touch after the breakup, the first thing you should do is get back in touch with him. Don't kickstart your conversation by telling him you want to get back together. Take things slow by becoming friends again first.
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3. Remind Him of How Happy You Once Were
Once you two are buddies again, you need to remind him of how happy you once were. Bring out old photographs from when you were dating. Take him to the diner that you used to visit together. Do whatever you can to reignite that spark.
4. Forgive Each Other
If you're going to get back together with an ex, you have to agree to put your problems of the past behind you. Don’t bring up old fights and yell about them for the second time. If you can't get over the way he treated you in the past, then you should rethink getting back with him.
5. Don't Force Him to Date You
Don't guilt him into dating you again. You should only be with him if he wants to be with you. If you have to trick him into restarting a relationship, then you should move on to the next guy. A relationship should be based on love, not on obligation.
6. Look Pretty in Front of Him
There's never any harm in looking beautiful. Once you've recaptured his attention with your sparkling personality, you should reel him in by dressing your best. When he remembers that you have the whole package, he'll be dying to go on dates with you again. Then it won't be long until you're an official couple that can live happily ever after.
7. Admit That You Still Have Feelings for Him
If you still think that it's a good idea to go after him after you complete the other steps on this list, then you should admit that you still have feelings for him. You could either initiate a kiss or flat-out ask him to be your boyfriend. Do whatever you feel most comfortable doing.
If you lost the love of your life, there's nothing stopping you from getting him back. Have you been thinking about getting back with an ex lately?
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A: I'm so confused right now this guy says he likes me but only wants to be friends first to take things slow but I can't be with someone who might like other girls even though he says he respects me ?
SarSar: Can someone please tell me how to post something?
The: Okay whatever @cindee
Steph5: It has been 4 years since I was in a relationship with my first ex, and part of me is considering getting back together with him. We've had the time to meet new people since then, but our relationships with other people didn't work out. He & I have stayed on good terms all throughout the years, and last week he messaged me, and we spent the weekend staying up late until 3am talking about a lot of different things; including our relationship from when we were in high school. It was wonderful, we both treated each other with the respect we deserved (which couldn't be said regarding our relationships with other people over the past couple of years), we never felt the need to rush, we just simply enjoyed each other's company. The only thing that was "wrong" with our relationship 4 years ago was the timing. But now, I feel like the timing is a lot better; and I think if we were to get back together we could potentially have a really great relationship again. I just don't know how he feels about the idea; im just trying to take things slow for now.
A: I can't be intimate with someone because what if I fall in love with this person?
The: *without
The: *and tell him
The: *Elisey if he moved on and u r sure about that then u should probably do the same. Look at the reasons why u two had to break up and be clear if u still want him or not. Maybe u just miss having a bf. But if u r sure he has not gotten over u u can try to tell him how u feel a do how much u miss him.
shannon: @Sarsar id like to know how to as well
A: @Mabelle thank you so much! I might talk with him on Wednesday just a chat as tell him that I really like him I just don't want to get my heart broken :,( I don't mind taking things slow and getting to know one another like going out for dinner and movies
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