When it comes to improving your skills and abilities in the bedroom, the more different things you can master, the better time you will be able to provide your partner! I happen to think that people get so consumed with the act of penetrative sex that they can often forget just how important it is to be good at plenty of other things as well, especially more foreplay based things. Out of all those things, something that really adds something to your repertoire is the erotic massage! Here is how to give an erotic massage yourself.
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Set the Scene
It is important to begin by setting the perfect scene for the massage. Turn off TVs and phones, put on some nice low volume music, close the curtains, and get some mood lighting on. Make sure to take off all your rings and your watch to eliminate the risk of any mood killing scratches and scrapes!
Before you start, ensure the room temperature is comfortable—neither too hot nor too cold, which can be distracting. Lay out fluffy towels or a soft blanket to make the massage space inviting. You might also consider lighting a few scented candles to engage the olfactory senses and incorporate an element of aromatherapy. Select essential oils like lavender or jasmine for their relaxing properties, adding a few drops to your massage oil to enhance the sensual experience. Remember, attention to these small details can significantly elevate the intimacy of the encounter.
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Warm
Make sure that the room is nice and warm and cosy. There are going to be body parts out on full display so you don’t want anything to shrink away in the cold!
Creating a temperature-controlled environment is essential for relaxation and sensuality. Cold rooms can tense muscles, which is the opposite of what you want in an erotic massage. Consider using a space heater if your central heating isn't sufficient, or a soft, plush blanket that can be draped over areas not currently being massaged. The warmth will also help massage oils glide more smoothly across the skin, enhancing the tactile experience and ensuring that every touch is received with a shiver of pleasure, not cold.
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Candles
Not only do candles make for the perfect mood lighting, but scented ones can add to the overall sensory experience. Check you have some special wax ones that can be drizzled on to his body for extra sensual effect! One quick tip, make sure to pour the wax into your own palm to test its temperature first as you don’t want to cause any unexpected accidents!
When choosing candles for your erotic massage, opt for soy-based or massage-specific candles, which typically melt at a lower temperature, making them safer for skin contact. Essential oils in candles can also enhance the atmosphere with their aphrodisiac properties. Scents like vanilla, jasmine, or sandalwood could heighten the intimate experience. Remember, the flickering of candlelight can also play with shadows and create an inviting ambiance that can stimulate both visual and olfactory senses, making the massage an unforgettable journey.
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Liquid Oil
The key to a great erotic massage is in the oil that you use. You need something water based that can easily glide over the skin with snagging, something that feels really luxurious and can easily cope with any body hair that your partner might have in places. You will find that by using oil, your hands will glide over his body more naturally, and you can do things without even thinking about it and therefore avoid getting embarrassed.
When selecting an oil, opt for one that warms gently on the skin, enhancing the sensual experience. Choose scents that are known to be aphrodisiacs, like ylang-ylang, jasmine, or sandalwood—these can increase the intimacy of your touch and amplify the romantic atmosphere. Importantly, check for any allergies, and always ensure the oil is edible, just in case it comes into contact with the lips. The right oil not only enables a smoother massage but also nourishes the skin, leaving it soft and irresistibly touchable post-session.
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Sex Toys
When you have worked him up into a frenzy, don’t be afraid to introduce a few sex toys into the mix. This whole massage is about giving him feelings and sensations that he doesn’t usually feel, and using sex toys is something extra to add to his pleasure!
Sex toys can be a thrilling addition to the experience, offering unexpected pleasure points and intensifying the connection. Whether it's vibrating rings, prostate massagers, or feather ticklers, ensure you choose toys that he's comfortable with. Don't forget the importance of lubrication – it can make all the difference, ensuring that the toys provide a smooth, sensual experience. Use your intuition to guide you; the key is to be attentive to his reactions and go with the flow, adding a dynamic layer to your massage that'll leave him breathless.
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Silence at the proper season is wisdom, and better than any speech.
Breath
Get close to him and use your breath as a way to stimulate his skin too. Hot breath can be a really sexy weapon to use against someone when their body parts have already been manipulated into a really sensitive state.
