Breaking up is hard enough without having friends that are mutual between the two of you. How do you keep those friends? How do you avoid talking about your ex or asking questions about him? Well, take a look below!
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Spill All Your Thoughts to Your Mutual Friends …
They don't need to know your side, but they do need to know your feelings and that you'll need time apart from them to get over your ex.
You Might Need to Take Some Time Apart from Those Friends
Yes, it'll be hard, but when you come back to your friends? It'll be easier. Don't take too much time, but a little distance will be good.
Do Not Gossip about Your Ex
Yes, I totally agree that your friends should listen to your ex problems, but if they are friends with your ex? You can't gossip about him to them, it isn't fair.
Ask Your Friends if Your Ex is Going to Be There...
...when you hang out with them, so that way you can avoid that particular party or that outing.
Do Not Expect Your Friends to Take Sides
That wouldn't be good for anyone!
You Can Tell Your Side of the Story
Just don't expect them to take your side (see above!)
You'll Need to Act with a Bit of Tact
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Which is NOT going to be easy.
Ask Your Friends Not to Talk about Your Ex
No matter how much you want them to talk about him.
Accept That Sometimes, It Could Slip out
Yes, they might talk about him sometimes, but it'll be an accident most of the time.
Be Careful What You Reveal
That doesn't mean you want to hide everything from those friends, but it could get back to your ex if you reveal everything that you are feeling.
Stay in Touch, Even Though It's Hard
Yes, yes, I know I said to distance yourself, but that shouldn't last forever, so make sure you stay in touch with those friends after you've taken your time.
Don't Bring around the New Guy
Don't be that girl. Seriously, just don't.
Take the High Road in All Things
If they start to trash talk your ex, don't give into it, just take the high road.
Let Time Take Care of the Rest
Time will heal all of your pain if you let it.
Limit the Time You Spend Talking about Your Ex
If you DO talk about your ex, limit the time. Seriously, don't keep the conversation going and ask about him.
Do NOT Ask Any Questions about Your Ex
Seriously. Don't. Do you really want to know the answer?
Don't Freeze Your Friends out
Sure, you'll have to be careful what you say, but you do need to share your life with your friends too.
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