How to Text a Guy First - the Best Tips ...

You're a take-action kind of girl, not willing to wait around for something to happen TO you — you want to be the one to make things happen! That's why you're dying to text the guy you like, but how? I've got some stellar you-text-him-first tips to share... ready? 😆

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1. Get It Going

You've got his number, you know he likes you, it's time to act! Send him a short but direct text. If you haven't texted him before, identify yourself and say hi in a way you'll know he'll recognize it's you. For example, say, "Hi Hans! This is Anna from your math class. How did you do on that exam yesterday?"

2. Ask Questions... LOTS of Questions

First of all, asking questions will keep the conversation going... but it also lets him know you're interested in him, and by looking at his responses, you'll be able to tell how HE feels about YOU.

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3. Keep It Upbeat 😊

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It's REALLY hard to express tone in a text, even with emojis. So when possible, keep the tone light and upbeat, so there's no confusion.

4. Flirt a Little 😏

Why is it so much easier to flirt over text than in person? Hone your flirting skills by being coy and cute, and don't be afraid to put yourself out there a little bit.

5. Be Prepared

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He may ask you some tricky questions, so take advantage of the pause-to-think texting can give you to actually pause and think before you just fire off a text you might regret later.

6. Sign off Sweetly

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When it's time to go, keep it light and maybe even slightly mysterious. Something like, "It's been great texting, but I've got to go. See you in math on Wednesday?"

7. Why Not...?

You're bold, you're brave — why not ask him out? The trick is, now that you've been clever and asked lots of questions, to be specific. Rather than saying, "Want to hang out sometime?" text him something like "Want to catch some Pokemon downtown on Friday? We could meet at Starbuck's on 5th after class..."

Do you have any other texting-him-first tips to share?

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Hha :P

Think it's towards the end the guy I'm talking to & he just rejected my hangout so I could talk to him,

Honesty is always the best approach- if you keep acting like you need a plan every time you talk you end up in a fake relationship and then after 8 months go by you'll find that you and he can't communicate on the same page cuz it's harder to be natural.

Does anyone have any good flirting tips?

I need advice

What is the best way to ask a guy how hua weekend at the lake with his friends and two kids went? He's active duty airforce

Just tell him something nasty

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Go slow. Get to know each other. Really know each other; likes/dislikes, turn ons/turn offs, deal breakers & things you generally look for in a partner. Become best friends. It's how the best & lasting relationships start!