Unfortunately, people are capable of some pretty crummy things. That's why you should always keep your eyes open for red flags in relationships to avoid getting your heart broken. When you let your guard down, that's when it's the easiest to get hurt. If you're worried that your man might be cheating on you, here are a few little changes that suggest that you're correct:
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1. His Phone is Always on Airplane Mode
The way that your boyfriend treats his phone can be a big indicator of how loyal he is. If he won't let you touch it, even though he hasn't had a problem with you using it in the past, then he's keeping something a secret. You should also be concerned if he suddenly adds a lock screen to his phone, or if he puts his cell on airplane mode when you're together to avoid receiving text messages.
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Airplane mode could be his way of ensuring no unexpected notifications pop up that could incriminate him. It's a precaution that hints he may have conversations he doesn't want you to see. Besides, if his phone suddenly goes from being a shared device to a top-secret vault, that's a red flag. Lack of transparency, especially when it was once there, is concerning. Trust your intuition and look for patterns. If he’s protective over his phone to the point of secrecy, there might be more to his behavior than meets the eye.
2. He Styles His Hair Differently
You shouldn't automatically accuse your man of cheating, just because he took a trip to the barber shop. However, if he changes his hair, changes his cologne, and changes his style of clothing all at once, he might be trying to impress another lady.
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It could be a privacy thing, but if it's a new habit and he acts weird about it, there might be something he's hiding. Trust your gut and have an open talk with him.
Airplane mode can be innocent, but if it’s constant and he seems secretive or unreachable, it might be a red flag. Try to ask him directly about it and see his reaction.
Sleeping with his phone could mean he’s overprotective about it. It might be innocent, but if it's out of character, it could be worth a conversation.
If he suddenly starts hiding his phone or keeps it out of sight, it could be a sign he’s hiding something. Communication is key, so bring it up gently.
Look for changes in behavior, secrecy with his phone, being overly defensive, or spending less time with you. Trust your instincts if something feels off.
3. He Takes Forever to Text Back
If your boyfriend usually answers your messages in five minutes, but it's suddenly taking him hours, he might not think of you as a priority anymore. Even worse, he might be out and about with other people, so he's too busy to look at his phone to check his messages.
4. He Accuses You of Cheating
Some cheaters aren't born to cheat. Instead of enjoying their unfaithfulness, they'll become super paranoid. When that happens, your boyfriend will end up accusing you of cheating, even though you've done nothing to make him worry. He's just trying to place the blame on you, so he doesn't have to carry it all on his shoulders.
5. He Doesn't Kiss You Often
If your boyfriend stopped showing you affection or sleeping with you, for seemingly no reason, then he could be cheating. After all, if he's getting his kisses elsewhere, then he won't be eager to get them when he sees you. If he's not sick or depressed, then a sudden drop in affection is a huge red flag.
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Physical intimacy is a crucial component of many romantic relationships, acting as a barometer for closeness and connection. When he starts withholding those intimate moments, it could indicate that his affections are being directed elsewhere. It's not just about the quantity of kisses, but also their quality. If they suddenly feel perfunctory or passionless, listen to what your instincts are telling you. Emotional detachment often accompanies a stark decrease in physical closeness, so trust your feelings if you sense something is amiss. Keep an eye out for him being particularly avoidant or distant when you attempt to initiate affection.
6. He Hangs out with Friends You've Never Heard of
If you've been with your boyfriend for a while, then you've probably met all of his friends. If he suddenly tells you that he can't hang out with you, because he's hanging out with "George," and it's a name you've never heard before, you should be concerned. He might be making up "George" in order to have an excuse that'll allow him to cheat.
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If you've been with your boyfriend for a while, then you've probably met all of his friends. If he suddenly tells you that he can't hang out with you, because he's hanging out with "George," and it's a name you've never heard before, you should be concerned. He might be making up "George" in order to have an excuse that'll allow him to cheat. Even if George is real, it's strange that someone you've never heard of before suddenly becomes a priority. Your boyfriend should want to involve you more, not shut you out with vague explanations. Keep an open dialogue and ask questions.
7. He Stops Saying “I Love You”
If your man used to tell you how much he loved you every single day, but now he won't return the phrase after you say it to him, then he might be having second thoughts about your relationship. If he really loved you, then he wouldn't hesitate to scream if from the rooftops.
If your man only does one of these things, you shouldn't be worried. However, if he gives you multiple reasons to believe that he's cheating, you should sit him down to have a serious chat. Have you ever been cheated on?
Comments
Wendy: No, I haven't. Cheating is an awful thing to do. If you are not in love anyone, get out instead of hurting him or her.
Agirlhasnoname: I think my boyfriend is cheating on me and every time I confront him I'm the one apologizing.
Laura: Or if he calls you incompetent or any names really.
Summer: Yesterday I found out my boyfriend cheated on me. He told me that he didn't do anything with her but the texts I saw in his phone told me differently. We've been together for a year and a half. And staying strong right now is the hardest things have to do. How can someone easily go and break my heart when I can NEVER picture myself doing that to him? Worst part is, it's not the only time he's cheated on me. Huge eye opener.
Sakshi: Yes..and he is married to that woman..his loss :p
SammyS: Sorry to all the stories of heartbreak Ladies! Like Peony said its an eye opener and we can only try and become stronger from this. I don't understand why Men must do this and what kind of woman continues to happily play 2nd? Especially when you knows he is already involved! So frustrating.
Wendy: Anymore*
Wendy: Oh yeah so true the truth always comes out.
sharon: @ Sarah Zupancic. It's his loss. You're worth much more. I hope you will find a guy that truly loves you from his heart.
Chantal: I've been with my partner for almost 5 years and I found him texting up another chick, I was so mad. I changed his number after he knew that I knew and that I changed his number he got another number and I knew all along I was just waiting for the right time. Anyways the chick he was texting up was from his work and she knew he had a gf as well but being the home wrecker that she is she couldn't leave him alone. I asked him if they did anything and he lied straight to my face. I just found out that they booked a hotel and had sex. He told me he was at home. I'm so disgusted in them both. They went halves on the hotel and I told him they're both disgusting and they pretty much paid each other for sex. I'm so heart broken. He doesn't even feel guilty or anything so 5years pretty much went to waste.
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