10 Misconceptions about Abusive Relationships ...


Regardless of how intelligent and confident we are, some of us still have misconceptions about abusive relationships.

I should know - I was in one through most of college.

There have been plenty of times when I've thought of how things could have been had I never met him or listened to my friends when they tried to tell me how hurtful and fake he really was.

I thought his behavior toward me was somehow my fault, but now I know that isn't true.

In fact, a lot of things I thought weren't true.

So you won't make the same mistakes I did, here are a few of the more common misconceptions about abusive relationships.

1. People Who Stay in Abusive Relationships Must Be Stupid/weak

One of the biggest misconceptions about abusive relationships is that survivors (I hate the word "victim") seek these relationships out.2

Perhaps that would be true if you could tell an abuser early, but this almost never happens.

Think about it: if a guy hit or insulted you on the third date, you'd think he's insane and drop him flat.

Abusive patterns usually emerge after some sort of anchor - emotional attachment, legal ties, having children together, etc.

- has been formed.

This is part of what makes abusive relationships so difficult to leave - they affect so many parts of your life that leaving can literally mean starting over.

My ex and I weren't married and didn't have any children together, but we must not underestimate the power of emotional connections and the sort of manipulation abusers tend to employ.2

It's Only Abuse if He's Hitting You


Thank you for writing thus article. .
Reina Caramela
Controlling how I used my money... Even though he earned as much as me and more at times. Then... Having the gall to ask me where my money went???
Patricia Donovaro
Mentally and physically 😓
Patricia Donovaro
I was in an abusive relationship from age 16-22, it was such a waste of years that were supposed to be precious. I learned a lot from that and am stronger now, but it's still painful....
Sam Me
It is the relentless mind games that drive me crazy. He has been in other married relations...one was for over 4 years. They all got divorces thinking he would marry them. I actually attempted to commit suicide because I hated myself so much. It cost me everything. I am still with him and I do not know what to do.
@Danielle Asham contract your local woman's shelter first. Read a book called why does he do that. Re(abusive relationships) talk to your friends.
Danielle Asham
And I have a Question to ask!! I need help for my relationship?? Because I don't want this to help with my man like I ment is I don't want to break up with my man, I just need help how I could fix our relationship with fighting and a huge argument
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