It takes time to get over splitting with your ex, even if he's the wrong guy for you. Eventually you'll look back and wonder what you ever saw in him, or realise that you no longer have any feelings for him. But for some time afterwards you'll miss him and certain things about him. This is what you'll miss about your ex …
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1. His Nickname for You
Picking a nickname for your partner is one of those cute things that couples do, and your ex's name for you probably won't be used by anyone else. So you'll really miss hearing him saying it. It may be a little thing, but it's something you've got used to. But you'll have to let go of it; your next boyfriend will think up another fun little name for you.
2. Places You Went Together
You're also going to miss the places that meant something to both of you, such as the place where you met or where you went for your first date. You might not want to go back there for a while, because it will remind you of him. Or perhaps you're worried you might bump into him there. In time, though, the association will fade and you'll be able to go back there without feeling sad.
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3. His Family
Sometimes you realise that you're going to miss his family more than you'll miss him (I certainly do!). You may have built up quite an attachment to his family, especially if you were with him for a long time. But you don't have to lose touch with them; if everyone behaves like adults, it's possible to remain friends with your ex's family.
4. The inside Jokes You Shared
Every couple has an inside joke that always makes them laugh, and nobody else finds funny. It's one of those 'couple things' that nobody else will understand, since it comes from the intimacy between you. Losing this inside joke makes you sad because it's one more sign that your relationship is over; it's a break with the past.
5. Your Plans for Your Future Together
One of the bigger losses that you feel is having to let go of the plans you made together. You may have intended to do fun things like travel together or go to a festival. Or you may have talked about long-term plans like buying a home together or starting a family. It's sad realising that these plans will never be accomplished now - at least, not with this particular guy.
6. How He Looked after You
Just because a guy isn't the right one for you doesn't mean that he's not a decent guy. Maybe he looked after you when you were sick or had too much to drink. Maybe he made an effort to cheer you up when you were feeling down. You're bound to miss being looked after, it's so sweet.
7. His Unique Qualities
And then you're going to miss his unique qualities, the things that made him 'him.' You can love more than one person in your life, and probably will, but you love each one for a different reason. So when you split, they will leave a hole in your life, because that person can never be entirely replaced.
What do you miss most about your exes - and have you ever wondered why you dated them?
Comments
Sapna: This is a very bittersweet article but I thoroughly enjoyed I always believe " never hate something that once made u smile " after years I'll remember things but not long for them as even if the guy was good for u in some ways he wasn't the right one
Gaby: This is so true! I was just talking about my ex today, and I always think...💭 I still love my ex but my boyfriend currently has made me a better person. Even though I miss things about my ex I don't miss him.
Wanda: Inspire of the hurtful, disrespectful way my ex did me, there are some things I miss. I hate that. He cheated, he was abusive emotionally. I wish I didn't miss anything about him.
Steph5: I'm still having a lot of trouble getting over an ex of mine from 2013. I've been in a relationship since then, but it was really bad & gave me extreme anxiety. Oddly enough, I rarely think about the bad relationship I had, and still too often think about my ex from way back when. I don't know why I do, but it just happens, and it's giving me a lot of anxiety now, even though it didn't used to when we were together. I know that I can't move on until I get over them completely, but I can't stop thinking about my old ex... *sigh
Ana: @Adea R. Ademi 🔙 she has a reason the kast two just made me hurt more and burst into tears.. 😖 Horrible article!
Alex: I don't miss my exes one bit. They did nothing for me after I did loads for them. They were so ungrateful for everything that I did, to this day I wonder why I went out with them in the first place. Oh, I know now: they were good looking and up for anything but they were not nice or decent people. And they were losers. My family noticed their bad qualities quicker then I did. The only thing good about them is that it made me grow up loads, become more streetwise to the world and stronger as a person. Lessons learnt and now I'm with a great man who treats me like a princess and is also my best friend. Looks aren't incredibly important to me anymore but it does help that my man is easy on the eye and his wonderful personality wins hands down and has made me appreciate that I can just be me and not to please everyone. So far, he's made me a better person and I couldn't have it any other way.
LaReina: Any single guys and gals out there. RUN fast as you can if a guy gal is married!!!! RUNNNNN! ✌️
Kendall: Poor you, @mermaidvictoria!!!
She: This is soooo fuckin true. Going through it now.
Megan: Going out with. Married Man is NEVER THE RIGHT THING TO DO! You set yourself up for failure and destroyed a marriage. Cheaters suck!
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