7 Pieces of Advice for Engaged Couples from Long Married Couples ...

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Advice for engaged couples usually centers around wedding advice.

While that is certainly helpful for wedding planning, it does not do a lot for the coming marriage.2

I love a beautiful, romantic wedding as much as anyone but I tend to agree with the statement that too much emphasis is put on preparing for the wedding and not enough emphasis is put on preparing for the marriage.

Advice for engaged couples is valuable when it can help them prepare for the realities of marriage.

I hope that the following pieces of advice do just that.

1. Find a Mentoring Couple

Long married couples would tell you that you need a mentoring couple to help you along your way.

This is good advice for engaged couples because you do not know it all when you first get married.

A mentoring couple should be a couple that has been married a good length of time and has a happy, stable marriage for starters.

It is good if they share your faith and a lot of your beliefs.

A mentoring couple can coach you and guide you through some rough patches in your marriage as well as help you learn about marriage in day to day living.

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Rachel
Ive always wished my boyfriend and I would work things out before we go to bed, but honestly sometimes we just need the space and Im realizing thats fine too. If I try to push the subject, it just ends up backfiring. Im realizing its totally okay to let us sleep on it, and we always work in out and talk first thing in the morning. Every couple, and every disagreement is different, treat it as such.
Alicia Fannin
Hi @Kortni, Thank you for your comment. I always felt exactly like you and still think that it is best to work out your difference before you go to bed. But I have been reading a wonderful book "The Surprising Secrets Of Highly Happy Couples" and one of them is go to bed mad because you are calmer the next morning and things do not seem as big of a deal to either of you. The key is that you DO resolve the issue. Just another perspective. You may enjoy that book- completely Christian based. It also gives a bible verse to back up giving yourselves time to think over things overnight. (Psalm 4:4)
Kortni
I really don't think going to bed angry is ever a good option. I'd rather stay up all night working things out than go to bed with my man on different pages. A lot of time the things we are angry about are just misunderstandings that don't need as much compromise as explanation. Even the Bible advises us not to go to bed angry.
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