It's not uncommon to want to get back with your ex after you've split. Sometimes, you want to get back with your ex even if s/he cheated on you and that's what ended the relationship. It's easy for outsiders to look at your situation and judge or give advice – most of which consists of “NO!” The inside of a relationship are different from what everyone sees, however, and the issues therein are personal to every couple. Maybe your ex just made a mistake. Maybe s/he had lots of affairs. Whatever the case, at least consider these points before you decide to give your cheating ex another shot.
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1. Weigh the Pros and Cons
What do you love about your ex? What do you dislike about her or him? Weigh up your issues, look at the circumstances of the cheating, and reflect on your happiness as a couple. Is it worth potential heartbreak? If it was one night of cheating or a short, purely sexual affair, can you forgive and move on, or is the trust irrevocably broken?
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When it comes to getting back together with a cheating ex, it can be difficult to know what to do. It’s important to take a step back and weigh the pros and cons before making a decision. It is essential to consider the circumstances of the cheating, and to think about whether or not the relationship is worth the potential heartbreak.
When considering the pros of getting back together, it’s important to think about why you love your ex and why you were together in the first place. It’s also important to think about the positive aspects of the relationship and the potential for a better future.
When considering the cons of getting back together, it’s important to think about what you dislike about your ex and the circumstances of the cheating. It’s also important to think about whether the trust can be restored and if the relationship is truly worth the potential heartbreak.
It can be difficult to make a decision, but it is important to take your time and consider all of the factors before making a decision. It’s also important to talk to trusted friends and family, and to seek professional counseling if needed.
2. Consider the Reasons S/he Cheated
This is so important that it deserves its own point. There are different ways to cheat. Most women are certain that they would never, ever get back with a cheater, but when it's your relationship, things are different. There are all sorts of things to think about. If you have an otherwise wonderful relationship, do you want to let a single mistake uproot your whole life? If it was a full-blown love affair, however, can you ever really trust your ex again?
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Understanding why your partner strayed can be a painful but crucial step. It's not about excuses, but insight. Was it a moment of weakness, a cry for help in an unhappy relationship, or the thrill of forbidden fruit? Reflect on the underlying issues: did they feel neglected, misunderstood, or suffocated? Or was it the allure of novelty? Deciphering this can help you decide if there's a pathway to rebuild trust. Remember, mere attraction is human, but acting on it is a choice. Dig deep—knowing why can sometimes show you the 'how' to healing... or letting go.
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3. Are You Able to Forgive Her/him?
This is a big one. See, you can't say you forgive your partner, then continue to bring up the cheating, make it your focus, or let it stand in your way. I'm not saying that it shouldn't stand in your way, either, because some people can't get over cheating and that is absolutely okay. What I mean is that forgiveness means being able to move past the issue. You might not be able to do that.
4. Do You Think You'd Be Able to Respect Her/him?
This is an important question to ask yourself, too. Not only do you lose trust in the person who cheats on you, but you can lose respect for her or him, as well. And can you be with someone for whom you have no respect?
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Absolutely, respect is the foundation of any strong relationship. If it's eroded, rebuilding that sense of mutual regard is essential. It's akin to nurturing a bruised plant back to health—it takes time, care, and conditions conducive to growth. Without respect, the relationship's dynamics shift, often leading to a toxic environment. This isn't just about respecting them as a partner, but as an individual. Reflect on whether you can genuinely look past the betrayal to see the person you once esteemed. If respect cannot be restored, the relationship may continue to falter, regardless of any lingering feelings of love or attachment.
5. Will Your Ex Respect You?
A person can cheat on someone but still love and respect them. A person can get back with their partner after cheating and still respect their partner. Sometimes, however, the person who cheats does so because s/he has no respect for their current relationship, and if their partner takes them back after their indiscretion, they may stop respecting their partner. Pretty convoluted, right?
6. Can You Let It Go?
Think hard. Can you really let it go? Can you trust that your partner isn't going to do it again? Will you be constantly worried and suspicious?
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Forgiveness isn't just a word, it's a process. You need to ask yourself if your heart is truly ready to heal. If you're going to be plagued by visions of them with someone else, it might just poison your future together. Imagine what it will feel like to be at peace—and honestly evaluate if you can ever reach that place with your ex by your side. It's pivotal to your own well-being and the viability of the relationship that you're not just sweeping your feelings under the rug. True forgiveness means no looking back.
7. Are You Compatible?
Maybe that's why the other person cheated in the first place. Maybe the two of you simply aren't a good fit, but s/he didn't have the guts to say so before cheating on you. It's possible that the best course of action is to let your partner go.
Being cheated on is never easy. Never. It always hurts. The urge to get back with a cheating ex is both strong and understandable, but it's not always the best idea. Have you ever gotten back with someone who cheated on you?
Comments
Katy: It is so right, if you ever have been cheated you have to know the reasons and see if you can come back and complete your relation normaly or not and no one has the right to judge you because no one knows your happiness more than you do
Kateclements96: I'm lucky I haven't been in this situation, but don't do it! There are many men out there who are respectful and would walk over broken glass for you, no matter what! Don't waste time on a sh*t sack who cheats! No women deserves that and every one deserves love and respect
Princess: Long time ago my ex had been dating a multiple amount of girls but it hurt me because he told me he loved me then he continued getting with other girls recently he texted me I miss you it really touched me but I don't trust him what shall I do guyss
Diana: I could forgive, but he did 💔 so I couldn't trust him to be faithful
Just: Recently my ex cheated on me and then ended the relationship, it hurts so much to see him everyday in school. However I can never forgive him for the hurt and betrayal
Diana: When my boyfriend cheated on me it was devastating because it was a "one night stand". I chose to end the relationship despite how much I loved him. We stayed friends for many years, and he still wanted "something" with me even though he was with someone!
BlackIsBEAUTIFUL: Don't let love make you look stupid just because you love or in love with someone know your worth at all times
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