7 Reasons He May Be Distant but Why It Doesn't Mean Problems in Your Relationship ...


As for your man, there are several reasons he may be distant at a certain point in your relationship.

Although this can be incredibly frustrating, it may actually have nothing to do with you directly, and it may not mean there are problems in your relationship, besides feeling distant of course.

Although there are a multitude of reasons he might be checking out, there are seven somewhat common reasons he may be distant.

1. He Isn't Feeling Manly

Men need to feel manly.

As the number of jobs dwindle that are traditionally "rugged," men don't always find positions where the day to day grind suits the primal need to grunt, sweat, and fix (or more often break) things.2

Some guys can get that fix through simple things, such as making a few minor repairs around the house.

Others join sports teams or have a "guys night" with friends.

However done, it is important for men to feel manly.

Having him help you with something can make him feel needed.

Although this is a big one, there are still other reasons he may be distant.

Work or Family Life is Strained


A few of these fit my guy. Thanks for the info.
Iman Kamran
Wow, this is one of the best posts I've read here. These are so true yet we forget and think it's us!! Saving this to re-read!! Thank you
I need advice: my boyfriend has been pulling away sexually. he's totally in the relationship emotionally, we see eachother every day since we workout together, but he never wants to do anything sexual anymore. I don't think it's anything I've done. so I can't think of any reason and he says he's gonna go to the doctor because of it, but doesn't want to talk about it further than that. I know it's not an std, he's not a cheater, and I completely trust him. I don't want to drag it out if him but it concerns me. help, anyone's comments will be appreciated!
@Adanna Kobie thank you for that comment. i think it will really help me in my relationship.
Adanna Kobie
Sometimes when his space isn't respected he may feel like that only way he could get that time to think and overcome some of his mental strains is to distance himself from the relationship for hopefully a short period.
Vanessa Alves Mattar Calfat
Can you believe my man has all the reasons above? No wonder he is so distant! Thanks!
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