11 Reasons to Make the First Move ...

By Holly

11 Reasons to Make the First Move ...

If you’re crushing on a guy, there are some solid reasons to make the first move instead of waiting around for him to do so. Slip him your number, ask him out, or simply say how sexy he is. If he’s not interested, find a new guy that will appreciate your boldness. If you’re still iffy about putting yourself out there, here are some reasons to make the first move.

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1

Won’t Wonder

If you like a guy, you might as well let him in on the information. One of the biggest reasons to make the first move is so you don’t have to wonder what he’s thinking. If he’s interested, great! If he’s not, you have the green light to move on. In the end, at least you’ll know how he feels.

2

Shows Confidence

Confidence is sexy as long as it doesn’t turn into cockiness. By showing a guy you’re interested, he’ll be impressed by your boldness. If you’re worried that he’ll laugh at you for thinking you have a chance with him, then he’s not worth your time. If he’s a nice enough guy, the worst that will happen is that he’ll politely turn you down. Who knows, he just might have a cute friend that’s perfect for you!

3

Make Things Happen

A guy might have a crush on you, but lacks the confidence to ask you out. By making the first move, you can cause something to happen that wouldn’t have occurred otherwise. Some men are shy or just assume that you wouldn’t want to go out with them. Others might not have considered you as an option in the beginning, but will gain interest once they know how you feel. You know what they say: honesty is the best policy.

4

21st Century

Traditions can be great, but so much has changed since the olden days. It’s now socially acceptable for women to be the ones to initiate sex or a relationship. You shouldn’t expect men to ask you out when you’re perfectly capable of doing the same. Anything they can do, we can do better. So what are you waiting for?

5

Go-getter

When you make the first move, it shows that you’re capable of taking charge. What you want, you go for. Asking someone out is a compliment, so at the very least your crush will be flattered by your attention. If you’re lucky, he’ll be attracted to your determination. So go get ‘em, tiger.

Famous Quotes

Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.

Bruce Lee
6

Bragging Rights

Who doesn’t like to brag? If the relationship works out, you get to say that you were the one who initiated the relationship. If it wasn’t for your confidence, the two of you wouldn’t be together. Even if he gained the courage to ask you out one day down the line, the timing might have been off. You get to take responsibility for your happiness.

7

Feel Good about Yourself

Whether or not you get a relationship out of the deal, at least you tried. It feels great to know you were able to do something most consider quite scary. Even if your crush doesn’t appreciate your attempt, you should be proud of yourself. Putting yourself out there is nerve-racking. So give yourself a pat on the back.

8

Not a Game Player

You don't like to wait and you don't like to play games. You make the first move and you will also be the one to make the first call after your date. Why play the guessing game as to whether he is going to call first or you should wait a week or two before you call him. Call when you want to call and don't play games with each other.

9

You Get to Choose

Instead of guys hitting on you and going on a date with someone you're not really into, make the first move so you get to choose. You know your type and you know it isn't the guy who keeps buying you drinks during your ladies' night out. Be in control and go for the one you want.

10

Inspire Others

Your best friend is crushing big time on a guy at work, but is worried he will turn her down. Why not inspire her and show her that if you can make the first move so can she!

11

Practice Makes Perfect

Making the first move in a relationship will give you good practice in love and in life as well. It will help boost your confidence to go after other things you have been meaning ask for, like that big raise at work!

Now put on that gorgeous smile and ask out that hottie you’ve been eyeing! Have you ever made the first move? How did you do it?

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I'm not making the first move anymore. Every time I do I get rejected..

Will some one help me? So this guy I met on a ski trip acted like he was interested in me, and asked for my number. Then a day after we got back from the trip texted me. And we were text each other almost every day. Then my school had a dance and he didn't dance with any girl but at the last song danced with me and I started liking him a lot. The next day we went skiing in a group and he was kind of flirt with my friend witch bugged me. Then a week after that there was a dance at another school we both went to. And he dance with this other girl who was interested in him, then after said he was sad cus he didn't get to dance with me. I got extremely jealous of that girl and told him about it after the dance through text. We started texting each other less, then he finally told me he likes another girl after I had got back from vacation. Then his friend asked me out and he told me to get over him. So I went out with his friend and that did NOT work out. And I was mad at him(the guy I like) because he would flirt with me and text me then go and ignore me. So he said we were good friends. I really like him and I don't know what to do, he try's to set me up with his friends to help me get over him, But I can't stop thinking of him. Sorry it's long but I need help

Go for it, girls! My man was too shy to man so i made him let out his feelings, and then i found out how much he liked me! And every now and then i remind myself of the bragging rights :P

I guess I fell in love so badly... But can't talk to him first...and don't know how he feels about me... I am embarrassed to talk to him first, he's from my work, we work together... Lol

so if i like this guy, i just tell him i like him and wait for a reaction??

I made the first move with a hottie I kept passing by at work. we've been together for 3 years and still laugh about all the missed time when we were too shy to say anything

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