I’m sure many of us have been in a relationship where our partner hurt us, or betrayed us, which makes a girl crazy wondering of all the reasons why people cheat when everything just seems perfect. I’ve been there not once, not twice, but three times, girls, and I’m here to tell you there are legitimate reasons why men and women cheat on their partner, even if they seem like nothing is wrong to begin with. There are tons of possibilities for reasons why people cheat, but usually it boils down to one of these reasons below. Cheating hurts, no matter what the reason, but it can at least help to understand why in the midst of the madness it creates in your heart.
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1. They’re Not Ready to Settle down
Even if someone may love another person, one of the main reasons why people cheat, is they are afraid to settle down and commit. Even if they say that they are, inside they have a fear of being vulnerable enough to stay with a person long term, or they are afraid of only being with one person for a long period of time. They may even date whomever they’ve cheated on you with for awhile, but eventually, usually they end up cheating on them too.
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Cheating is a complex and often emotionally charged issue. It can occur in any relationship, regardless of how perfect everything may seem. People may cheat for a variety of reasons, such as a fear of commitment, a desire to explore other options, a need for attention, a lack of communication in the relationship, feeling neglected, or even a need for revenge. Cheating can have serious consequences for both partners, such as feelings of betrayal, guilt, and shame. It can also lead to a breakdown in trust and communication, as well as the potential for further infidelity. Ultimately, it is important to be honest and open with one another in order to build a strong and lasting relationship.
2. They’re Insecure
This reason is exactly as superficial as it sounds, but one that should be considered when thinking of why people cheat on someone they seem to love. Many people are insecure with themselves, and having a side fling makes them feel wanted, sexually desired, and as if they still have what it takes to play the dating field. Even if you do everything possible for them, some people are just excited over the idea of having someone on the side. It boosts their ego, which is insecure, and cheating helps them feel better about themselves. It is crude, disgusting, and really sad, but also very true.
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The insecurity of the cheater is often rooted in a lack of self-esteem and self-confidence. This is especially true if the cheater is in a relationship with someone who is more successful or attractive than they are. The cheater may feel that they are not good enough for their partner and that they can only gain the attention they need from someone else. Cheating can also be a way of distracting oneself from other issues in life, such as financial stress, work problems, or family issues. Cheating can also be a sign of a lack of communication in the relationship, as the cheater may not feel comfortable communicating their feelings or needs to their partner. Finally, cheating can be a sign of an underlying mental health issue, such as depression or anxiety.
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3. They’re a Habitual Liar
There are tried and true habitual liars in this world, and most them end up cheating on whomever they date. They don’t just lie in relationships, but in every part of their life. It is a habit they don’t even realize they’re doing because they are so used to living this way. You definitely want to stay far, far away from these types of people, because no matter what they say, you can’t trust them. Remember, they’re also really good at lying, which will make their alibis even harder to spot. Sometimes, no matter how much someone says they care about you, deep down, they’re so good at lying they don’t even know the truth anymore.
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Habitual liars often lack the ability to be honest in any aspect of their life, and this trait carries over into their relationships. They are often not aware that they are lying, as it has become such a natural part of their behavior. Cheating is more likely to occur with this type of person, as they may not even be aware of their own dishonesty. In addition, it can be difficult to detect their lies, as they are very good at covering their tracks. It is important to remember that even if someone is professing their love and commitment, they may not even know the truth themselves. It is best to stay away from these types of people, as it can be difficult to trust them.
4. They’re Unhappy with Their Life
Others who cheat that don’t really intend to hurt someone, or who may actually be in love, are just unhappy with their life and cheating becomes the outcome. People who are unhappy with their lives will make poor decisions because they’re not thinking clearly from the start. Depression can lead a person to do many things they normally wouldn’t do, with cheating being one. If this is the case, for starters, you can’t blame yourself because you weren’t enough to make them completely happy. Sometimes it takes more than a relationship to help a person through an unhappy time in their life. If this is the case, you need to decide if the relationship is repairable. If they are honestly sorry and have no record of cheating or lying, it may be worth a second shot. If you know this has happened before, they’ve lied to you before, or don’t seem as if they want to be in a relationship, you may want to consider moving on without them.
5. They Don’t Love the Other Person
Some people don’t mean harm, but can cheat on someone because deep down, they just don’t love them. While this isn’t a good reason to have to cheat on someone, it is a very common one that many relationships experience. You should never be with someone just to have a partner, and you deserve someone that will truly love you where cheating won’t be part of the picture.
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Cheating is a difficult situation to be in, and it can be even harder to understand why someone would cheat on their partner when things seem to be going well. Other common reasons for cheating include a lack of communication, a desire for more excitement in the relationship, and a feeling that the relationship is becoming stale. Cheating can also be a result of a person's past experiences, such as being cheated on in a previous relationship. Additionally, some people may cheat because they don't feel emotionally connected to their partner, or they don't feel loved or appreciated. Cheating can be an indicator of underlying issues in a relationship, and it's important to address these issues before they become too difficult to manage.
6. They Enjoy the Playing Field
This reason is similar to not wanting to settle down but differs because some people actually just like having multiple things on the side and appearing as if they’re a one-relationship type of person for their friends, family, co-workers, etc. However, secretly, they just enjoy playing the field. I don’t know about you, but I sure hope I don’t meet anymore of this kind. I’ve had quite enough of these for my lifespan so far!
7. They Can’t Confide in Their Partner
This reason is another really common reason that happens at the office place and school most of the time. If a person in a relationship can’t confide in their partner, they will ultimately end up finding someone else, usually of the opposite sex, to talk to about things. This could start out as a harmless talk with a co-worker or classmate, but eventually, they feel so comfortable talking to this person that a relationship develops. I know many, many people who have been cheated on for this very reason. Though it might not be directly your fault that your partner isn’t talking to you about things, you should do everything you can to create an open line of communication. If you have done this and they still cheat, you can at least say you did everything you could.
I don’t know about you all, but when you’ve been cheated on, it can leave your head spinning wondering what in the world happened when things seemed so perfect? Don’t fall into pity or start blaming yourself. Cheating is wrong, no matter what the reason. Have you ever been cheated on and if so, what was the reason?
Comments
rainie: My guy cheats on me with drugs. When I read this article I thought " that is him, only the other woman is cocaine". We just got married two months ago....sigh
Buffy: I think the number one giveaway of a cheater or potential cheater is a persons constant need for validation and praise. Wives/girlfriends often stop validating because it's hard to validate someone when you TRULY know them. Married women can't compete with the "mistress" because the mistress doesn't really know him so she is able to make him feel amazing about himself. A cheater would welcome that over the truth about who he really is any day. Cheater/Liars spend a lifetime looking for the next thing or person to fulfill them. Avoidance of self is key to these people.
Anonymous2013: I was once in that situation. Unfortunately I was pregnant, yes pregnant. It hurts me, it puts me down, emotionally mentally I didn't know what to do. I asked for a divorce that time but he begged not to leave him. I asked why and he said he was truly sorry. I felt so disrespected up until now. It's been three years and I'm calmed down a bit. It wasn't easy. I was so paranoid after that. But I did said to him that I will never ever forget it. The reason was I wasn't affectionate to him. And hear me out, out of nine months of pregnancy 7 months I was in hospital because of bad sickness. I still don't understand what should I do that time. Everything I was eating it wouldn't stay. This mistake or whatever should called it costs my relationship and to be honest it's not the same. Although I tried a lot to make it as of never happen.
Wabbit: This article is the most informative on the topic of cheating that I have seen. Great advice! I couldn't agree more to those reasons behind cheating.
Henna: I was saying, I can not forgive anyone who cheated on me. I've been cheated on by this guy and he was playing around with loads of girls: I'm usually good at judging people but I didn't expect it from him... If this guy has hurt you after 21 years, I'm pretty sure you and him need to move on. It's not going to work, you'll be trying and trying but eventually you'll be in the same situation again.
ludeah: He left me for another girl. He says the girl was his friend , " next day on Instagram she post a picture saying him and her are unbreakable " he says he broke up with me for me being jealousy, always accusing, and insecure. But had a girlfriend the whole time he wanted break. But he was cheating and didn't know how to be honest
Reem: When not gave him sex he or her will cheat
julie: im so nervous my bf is cheating deff something is up but idk what to dooo
JD: HI Ladies. Can i join
adriana: I love this article!!! Thanks!!!
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