At the last few weddings and even romantic gatherings I’ve been to, I’ve heard the same phrase mentioned over and over again among the guests - well they’ve been best friends forever! - which is why I digress into claiming there are many reasons to pursue and have sex with your best friend. One common fallacy these days is that men and women can be best friends without any sexual tension or promise of a romantic future. But like the classic film When Harry Met Sally, and countless other personal experiences have proven, men and women just can’t make it in platonic friendships let alone as best friends. Therefore there are many reasons to have sex with your best friend and here they are!
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1. They Know You the Best
This may seem like the most obvious reason but in fact it’s actually the most underrated. If you have a best friend who you would consider dating or as a sexual partner, there is no reason why you shouldn’t go for it. After all you tell each other everything, right? The fact that involuntarily your best friend of course knows you the best, there’s no doubt that having sex with them will not only strengthen your connection, but will provide guaranteed pleasure because they really do know everything about you. This is one of the very best reasons why you should have sex with your best friend.
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Having sex with your best friend can be an incredibly intimate experience. Not only are you two already close and comfortable with each other, but you know each other’s likes, dislikes, and boundaries. This can make for a much more pleasurable experience for both of you as you’ll both be aware of what the other person is comfortable with and what turns them on.
Having sex with your best friend can also be an incredibly freeing experience. You don’t have to worry about impressing them or trying to be someone you’re not. You can be yourself and enjoy the moment without worrying about what the other person is thinking. This can make for a much more relaxed and enjoyable experience.
Having sex with your best friend can also be a great way to deepen your relationship. When you have sex with someone, you’re creating an even deeper connection with them. This can be an incredibly powerful experience for both of you and can lead to a much stronger bond between you.
2. They Know Your Family and Friends
Inviting a new beau into your circle of family and friends is always very tricky and complicated. But your best friend has already been exposed to your entire lifestyle including the people who matter most. So forming a romantic relationship with your best friend is almost a better option than searching for a new prospect, considering they have already been included among your family and most likely approved by your parents.
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Moreover, since your bestie already knows who throws the best barbecues and which cousin to avoid at family gatherings, there's a built-in comfort level. Think about it—there's no awkward "meet my partner" dinner or anxiety about whether your friends will hit it off with your new flame. Your best friend is already a vetted favorite, making them the perfect plus-one to any event. And when it comes to intimacy, this level of deep, personal knowledge creates a rich tapestry of trust, making physical closeness feel all the more natural and enjoyable.
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3. They May Already Have a Crush on You
Taking a risk with a stranger is always nerve wracking. But much of the time when you’re hanging around someone so much, it’s unavoidable that you may start to develop feelings for each other. So believe it or not if you make advances towards your best friend you may be very surprised how well received they might be. This is completely the opposite of any type of nervousness you would normally experience with a prospective beau.
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The comfort and closeness you share with your best friend can sometimes pave the way for deeper emotions. It's not uncommon for one or both friends to harbor a secret affection, potentially evolving into a mutual crush. Given this possibility, revealing your feelings might lead to the discovery of a shared attraction, turning what seemed like a gamble into a mutual celebration of feelings. So, if you're feeling bold, your confessions might just turn into the catalyst for an unexpected romantic revelation that's been simmering beneath the surface.
4. They Know What You like... in Bed
Of the many reasons to have sex with your best friend this is probably one of the more overt but nonetheless important ones. Considering you confide in your best friend on a regular basis and talk to them about anything and everything, they probably have a pretty clear picture of your sexual preferences. They heard about the time that you had sex with that awful tourist who was one and done, and the time you kissed your roommate on a dare and enjoyed it, so more than likely they will know exactly what you like and want during sex. This eliminates all that awkwardness you may experience with someone you have only known for 3 dates.
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Your bestie is privy to the intimate details of your romantic encounters and understands your desires—even the ones you blush to admit. They've been there through the cringe-worthy morning-afters, offering a supportive ear or a comforting hug. With this level of knowledge comes the ability to navigate your needs effortlessly, bypassing the usual trial and error that comes with new partners. It's the kind of sexual synergy that can only be cultivated through genuine understanding and deep-seated trust, lending to a more authentic and satisfying experience between the sheets.
5. You Won’t Have to Wait for a Phone Call after
Something about a best friend is that they are usually committed to loving you unconditionally and considering you talk on a regular basis, there is a very slim chance that you won’t hear from them again after sex. And if it doesn’t work out you can go back to being best friends (it is possible).
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Having sex with your best friend can be a great way to take your relationship to the next level. Not only is it a great way to express your love and commitment to each other, but it also has some other benefits. Here are some more reasons why you should consider having sex with your best friend:
It can be a great way to spice up your relationship. Having sex with your best friend can be a great way to add some excitement to your relationship. It can be a great way to explore each other’s bodies and to try new things.
You will have a better understanding of each other’s needs. When you have sex with your best friend, you will have a better understanding of each other’s needs and desires. This can lead to a more satisfying sexual relationship.
You can be more open with each other. When you have sex with your best friend, you can be more open with each other. You can talk about things that you wouldn’t feel comfortable talking about with someone else.
6. They Won’t Use You
Unfortunately in our melting pot of people found in this world, there are some who end up using others for sex while leading you on with no intention of pursuing a romantic future. One thing you definitely don’t have to worry about when having sex with your best friend, is that they really do love you, no matter what and they aren’t just using you for their own enjoyment our pleasure. In fact they probably care about your enjoyment more than their own, which may be a nice change for people who have regularly been stuck with selfish and controlling partners.
7. They Love You
Last but not least, a best friend loves you. They have seen you at your worst and best and they know all your flaws and attributes. So engaging in sex with them may not only be rewarding but fulfilling and pleasurable. You will be within your comfort zone with someone you also love in return so nothing can hurt you.
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When you're with your best friend, the emotional connection deepens every aspect of the experience, making it more intense and heartfelt. The trust built over years translates into an intuitive understanding of each other's needs and desires, allowing for a synchrony that might be elusive with others. Being with someone who genuinely cares for your wellbeing turns a physical act into an expression of love, nurturing both your body and soul. In these moments, the lines between friendship and love blur, often enhancing your bond in unexpected and beautiful ways.
8. You Can Talk to Them
Maybe you feel like this isn't working the way you wanted or maybe it's working out perfectly, there's no reason to be nervous to tell them! Your best friend already knows your deep dark secrets, so why not add this to the list? Don't worry about how they'll react because they're your best friend and no matter what change is happening in your relationship they still don't want to hurt you.
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Maybe you feel like this isn't working the way you wanted or maybe it's working out perfectly, there's no reason to be nervous to tell them! Your best friend already knows your deep dark secrets, so why not add this to the list? Don't worry about how they'll react because they're your best friend and no matter what change is happening in your relationship they still don't want to hurt you. Being honest with them about your feelings can only strengthen your bond. If anything, this level of open communication can bring you even closer together, deepening your trust and emotional connection.
9. You Can Go Back
If done the right way, you and your friend should be able to continue the friendship. This means that if you guys decide this isn't working for you anymore or you find someone that you want to be in a relationship with then you should be able to make a clean break as long as neither of you got feelings for the other. Yes your intention may have been to start a relationship with your friend, but maybe it just didn't work at least you still have your friend.
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Maintaining the integrity of the friendship is paramount, even if your foray into increased intimacy doesn't pan out. It's essential to approach this with maturity and openness. Communication is key; always be honest about your feelings and expectations. If things take a turn and one of you starts seeing someone else, honor the friendship by being forthright. Remember, transitions back to platonic relationships are possible with mutual respect and understanding. It might feel like a step back, but it's actually a testament to the strength and versatility of your bond. After all, a true friendship can weather many storms.
10. You're Comfortable
You have known this person for however long and chances are you tell them everything. This is great because that means you're comfortable being around them so things will come easier. You don't have to worry about being self conscious around them when you're in the moment because even if it's the first time for you guys, you are comfortable and he likely knows your insecurities so you have nothing to worry about.
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Having sex with your best friend can be an incredibly rewarding experience, as it allows you to explore the physical side of your relationship with someone you already know and trust. You don't have to worry about the awkwardness of a first time encounter, as you already know each other and are comfortable with each other. This comfort level can help you both feel more relaxed and open to exploring new sexual experiences.
The trust and understanding that come with being best friends can also help to make sex more enjoyable. You don't have to worry about your partner judging you or feeling uncomfortable with your preferences. You can feel secure in the knowledge that your best friend won't be judgmental or critical, and that they will respect your boundaries and desires.
Having sex with your best friend can also help to deepen your emotional connection. You already know each other on an intimate level, and being physically intimate can help to take your friendship to a new level. You can explore your fantasies together and build a stronger bond as you explore your sexuality.
11. You Can Skip the Getting to Know You Part
You already know each other really well, so there's no need to feel like you have to get to know your best friend before anything happens. There's no pressure to wait or follow normal dating rules because you already know each other so well. It's ok to skip this part and jump into the next part. Of course you don't know absolutely everything about your best friend, but there's still time to get to know whatever little bits are still hiding.
There are many reasons to have sex with your best friend, so take a chance and you may be very surprised at the outcome. It is an old wives’ tale that sex between friends ruins relationships, but again only you know what’s right for you and your best friend although it is much less risky to be with someone you know than a complete stranger from the bar down the block. Have you ever swapped your best friend into a boyfriend? Do tell!
This article was written in collaboration with editor Lydia Sheehan.
Comments
Xenia: You Feel Dirty & It's So Awkward Afterwards . I Think It's A No No !
Patricia: I married him
Adele: I'm married to my BFF of 14 years. He's still my BFF , and I can't wait for the next 14 years!
Pam: @lynda and @theresa thanks for the advice. I think the best thing to do like you said Theresa is to wait. Thanks again:)
Sammy: I slept with my best friend when I was 18 and we haven't really spoken since. There was a bit of awkwardness and miscommunication that occurred and next thing, ...........
Lynda: I am engaged to him ! :-)
Isabella: I met my boyfriend over a dating site, and wasn't expecting a relationship at all when i first started hanging out with him - i was only 18 at the time, and over time he became one of my favourite friends, my best friend, and now after 2 years of our relationship i know he's my best friend and my special one that i want to spend the rest of my life with (: Save the sex for someone special girls, i never had a relationship during my teenage years and i think it was well worth the wait! (:
douxriens: Erm..this is such an AWKWARD article..Men and Women can remain platonic friends..I have a gay best friend..lol
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