7 Reasons Why Your Life Shouldn't Revolve around Him ...

More than likely you have a guy in your life and I would like to tell you why your life shouldn’t revolve around him. It is never a good thing when you make the choice to focus too much of your life around your boyfriend or husband. There are much better ways to have a relationship with him. Let me tell you some specific reasons why your life shouldn’t revolve around him.

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He May Leave

One of the reasons why your life shouldn’t revolve around him is that he may leave. Hopefully that will not happen, especially if you are married, but it is possible. He cannot and should not be your whole life. If you allow him to be and he does leave you, what have you got left? Nothing but a life in shreds.

You Could Lose Your Friends

If you revolve your life around your guy, you could lose your friends. They are eventually going to stop asking you to go out with them if you always say no. Now, a romantic relationship should be very important to you. If you are married, it should be the most important relationship you have. But you still need friends in your life and time to nurture those friendships.

You Could Lose Yourself

If you make your guy your everything, you may very well lose yourself. What do I mean? You may get so wrapped up in him that you forget who you are and what an awesome person you are. You may stop thinking about your own personal interests and hobbies. You are nothing but his accessory which is not attractive.

You Get Very Boring

If you get so wrapped up in your guy that you think about him or do nothing else but spend time with him every available minute, you can get to be very boring. This is not good for you or your relationship. Your guy fell in love with you because you were an interesting person. When you stop cultivating your own private hobbies and life, you are no longer interesting. You are suddenly only boring.

You Become Clingy and Needy

Ladies, listen up. When you revolve your life around your guy, you are more than likely also very clingy and needy, too. This is not attractive. If you want to make your guy run for the hills, be a clinging and needy girlfriend or wife. Confidence attracts men, not clingy neediness.

Famous Quotes

Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.

Bruce Lee

You Lose Balance

If you revolve your life around your guy, you lose balance. Things will feel off in your life. You may think it is okay but it really isn’t good for you. You cannot be your best self if you do not have balance. Try to be a little more balanced and see how good it feels.

It Isn’t Healthy

It is not healthy to revolve your life around your guy. You certainly want to make the man you love and time together a priority, but you do not want to make him the only thing in your life. This is not healthy. It is also not a healthy choice for your relationship. Branching out and keeping him and your relationship in perspective is what is healthy.

Many of us have made this mistake before and learned from it. Have you made this mistake in your life? What did you learn from it?

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our honeymoon stage is over, and it's getting hard to balance our lifestyles again lol this was a good read.

I guess almost all girl are like that.. Because when we love someone or something we forgot other value things in life.. Am married for almost a year... Just in less than a year im already losing myself.. And more we always fight just because im too needy... Never before in my life I care so much about a guy but I thought I want to give the best for my husband, but it backfired me!

Everything written here is soo true. I've sadly learned it the hard way. Ladies, please listen up and never forget who really are. Stay true to yourself!

this is what's happened to me:( don't do it, they lose interest and start looking somewhere else for entertainment.

Have you ever noticed its never the guys who become needy but the girls! I wonder if it has something to do with our emotions

I think im heading this way. Now we need a follow up how to article please!@

They are all so true! Ive been in this relationship for almost 3 years. At the beginning its all perfect and passionate and then evolves to a more companionate relationship. Apperantely girls always get stuck in the passionate phase. Its really difficult. You expect the same things that you had in the first year of your relationship and that wont happened. Being with him or not, you gotta move on and keep yourself doing your thing like you were doing before you met him

I feel like I am currently in this spot. I get anxious every now and then and I want to find my self again. I used to be so independent and now I feel too dependent on him and as much as I love my bf I hate the feeling of being dependent. tips on how to fix this? or what to do??

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