Learning some common relationship mistakes to avoid can be the key to having a successful and fulfilling relationship. Many couples have split because they faced these dilemmas and failed to change their ways. So ladies, I’m going to reveal 7 relationship mistakes to avoid so you can lead a happy life.
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1. Changing Your Partner
One of the most classic relationship mistakes to avoid is trying to change everything you don’t like about your partner. If he isn’t willing to change, you are just making him confused and miserable. He isn’t a do-it-yourself project, and treating him like one is damaging to your relationship. When you do this, your partner will begin to feel like you don’t love him the way that he is and may question why you are with him in the first place. You should accept him the way he is; flaws and all.
2. Losing Control of Jealousy
Jealousy can be the kiss of death to a good relationship. When your mind starts conjuring up negative things about your partner that aren’t true and you start believing these things, you can easily lose control of this destructive emotion. The way to control jealousy is to discuss it with your partner as well as becoming aware when your overactive imagination has taken over.
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3. Keeping the Same Routines
When you are with someone for a long time, it's easy to fall into the same daily routines. It's important to keep your relationship fresh so it doesn't fall into a rut. Try new things with your partner such as a mini road trip on the weekend, a romantic night at a hotel or find a new hobby. Each time you share a new experience with your partner, the bond between you becomes stronger. The goal is to spend quality time together while having fun trying something new.
4. Fighting and Keeping Score
Seeing as guys are from Mars and women are from Venus, arguments and problems are inevitable. But it's not the number of fights that you have but the way that you fight that has a massive impact on the longevity of your relationship. Instead of trying to be the one that is always right or trying to be the winner of the argument, focus on fixing the problem at hand. The two of you are a team and should try to come up with solutions to problems together instead of keeping score.
5. Using the Silent Treatment
The silent treatment is a way of trying to control your partner by being cold, ignoring their existence and refusing to talk to him. It occurs when you are so angry at your boyfriend that you want to punish him. The silent treatment is very different from the cooling-off period that is necessary after an argument. Trying to punish your partner this way is one of the most devastating things you can do in a relationship and it’s a form of emotional abuse.
6. Thinking That Your Partner Can Read Your Mind
Believing that your guy automatically knows what you want and need at any given moment is setting your relationship up for failure. He isn't a mind reader. It's best to be up front instead of hoping that he will take the hint. As many women know, most guys are really bad at taking hints, so the more information you give him the better.
7. Have an Emotional Affair
When you feel like something is missing in your relationship, one of the worst things that you can do is to have an emotional affair. It doesn't matter if you haven’t been physically intimate with the other guy, it's still cheating. An emotional affair can cause irreparable damage to your relationship. Instead of seeking others to fulfill your needs, discuss how you are feeling with your partner.
Many relationships have crashed and burned because these kinds of mistakes were made, so don’t let yours be one of them! What are some other relationship mistakes that we should avoid?
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Savannah: An emotional affair will be the death of a relationship
Nadia: I totally agree with the emotional affair one . Good tips but mostly guys are the one doing it. Emotional affair will be the death of my relationship
ea: Is emotional affair includes watching porn? Like e.g, your bf/husband is obssesed with a porn star?
Jamie: I agree with Nicola, my ex made a few of the mistakes. He studied abroad this summer and before he left everything was great, we were talking about moving out west after we graduate college in December. Halfway through the summer he asked for a break saying he just wasn't sure if I was what he wanted anymore. Giving him the benefit of the doubt I agreed to the break till he got back. When he got back to America we had a great weekend and then he broke up with me saying he doesn't want to be with me anymore he doesn't have romantic feelings for me anymore. I'm just very confused, he swears there isn't another girl, I don't know if I trust him anymore though. He says nothing will change between us because he still wants me to be his best friend. I'm just so hurt and confused. He says he still loves me and cares for me. Any advice would be much appreciated
Thisstephsonfire: People change, but they don't change back.
Jamie: Thank you, many people have been telling me the same things. It's just that everything used to be great with us, we were best friends and we were together for two years. He is also in a fraternity and he doesn't really care about the fraternity or me anymore, he said he has mentally checked out of college, he wants to be back studying abroad again.
Stacey: Excellent advice!
Nicola: Just for the record, these seem to be a list of mistakes aimed at females, but it was my ex boyfriend that made these mistakes in the relationship, not me
Ana: Jaime he might actually be serious when he says there is no one else. I don't know your relationship but I can never be friends with my ex. I do not see the point someone will always want it to be more. Your deserve better then to punish yourself with that's type of relationship
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