7 Rules in a Lesbian Relationship People Don't Understand ...


No matter what type of relationship you are in, there are rules, but rules in a lesbian relationship are something that a lot of people don't understand.

I've been in a gay relationship for 6 years and there are rules in a lesbian relationship that none of my friends get – but that's okay!

I've got all of the rules below that can really help you understand how a lesbian or even a gay relationship works!3

1. There Are No Gender Definitions

When it comes to lesbian relationships, one of the top rules in a lesbian relationship is that there are no gender definitions.

Just because I work outside of the home and my partner works inside the home, doesn't mean that I am suddenly the 'man' in the relationship.

It just means that I work outside and she works in.

There aren't automatically roles that lesbian relationships follow, it depends on the participants.

Not Every Relationship Has a Butch/Femme


Heather Jensen
Aww! That's exactly what we do! :) My girlfriend and I are homebodies too, so we do a lot of sharing and experience a lot at home.
Barbie Miles
That's so true, i've been living with my partner for almost a year now, we are not obliged to have a nightly routine, just to make ourselves happy or complete. We act as normal couples do but instead of nightly woohoo's, we tickle each other, we tell jokes, we fondle, we cuddle and tell stories till we fall asleep.
Alletta Ferreira
Oh wow, surprised that people don't get this! I treat gay relationships with the same respect as straight relationships. Everybody is different. And btw, in my straight relationship I'm the one who initiates sex most often... The idea of girls having lower sex drive doesn't hold up for everyone.
Heather Jensen
So true! :) Thanks Shelly for the comment and congrats!!
Shelly LaVange Kilbury
My sister Traci and her partner, Jayne just got married today in the UK. She has run into this numerous times over the years. I think guys just think lesbians must be into kinkiness because they are gay!!
Heather Jensen
Aww! Thank you! :) I agree. Guys are always asking my girl and I if they can get in on the action. NO -- that's not the way it works! :)
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