7 Rules in a Lesbian Relationship People Don't Understand ...


No matter what type of relationship you are in, there are rules, but rules in a lesbian relationship are something that a lot of people don't understand.

I've been in a gay relationship for 6 years and there are rules in a lesbian relationship that none of my friends get – but that's okay!

I've got all of the rules below that can really help you understand how a lesbian or even a gay relationship works!

1. There Are No Gender Definitions

When it comes to lesbian relationships, one of the top rules in a lesbian relationship is that there are no gender definitions.

Just because I work outside of the home and my partner works inside the home, doesn't mean that I am suddenly the 'man' in the relationship.2

It just means that I work outside and she works in.

There aren't automatically roles that lesbian relationships follow, it depends on the participants.2

Not Every Relationship Has a Butch/Femme


People don't know that it's the sane LOVE as we know .
As for your "rules" question...I feel the same way you do. Being with one person means just that-one person. The way we see it is if you're doing/saying something of a romantic nature to another person that you wouldn't do in front of your partner, you probably shouldn't be doing it at all. I know that's not a "catch-all", but it seems to be a rule common to any kind of relationship, same or opposite sex.
@Alletta Ferreira, I agree, lower drive doesn't hold up for everyone. Sex really doesn't have to be a staple in *any* relationship, gay or straight...it's a matter of what the two partners want.
I'm straight and married, but I enjoy reading about gay and lesbian relationships because it helps me understand my brother's and other friends' relationships better. I do have to ask, though...is the terminology different for men and women? If so, why? I just thought "gay" or "homosexual" could go for both men and women. I want to be sure I'm saying the right thing.
Heather Jensen
Aww! That's so awesome! :) I would definitely say that you should start telling people about you being bi -- when you are ready though.
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