5. Nurturing the Relationship Takes Time

A lot of the time, people just assume that because two lesbians are dating, they are automatically engaged – or that just because they are in a relationship, they automatically want to settle down.

Nurturing the relationship takes a long time and trust me, a girl wants to know her partner inside and out before completely committing.2

Any Cheating is Still Cheating


As for your "rules" question...I feel the same way you do. Being with one person means just that-one person. The way we see it is if you're doing/saying something of a romantic nature to another person that you wouldn't do in front of your partner, you probably shouldn't be doing it at all. I know that's not a "catch-all", but it seems to be a rule common to any kind of relationship, same or opposite sex.
@Alletta Ferreira, I agree, lower drive doesn't hold up for everyone. Sex really doesn't have to be a staple in *any* relationship, gay or straight...it's a matter of what the two partners want.
I'm straight and married, but I enjoy reading about gay and lesbian relationships because it helps me understand my brother's and other friends' relationships better. I do have to ask, though...is the terminology different for men and women? If so, why? I just thought "gay" or "homosexual" could go for both men and women. I want to be sure I'm saying the right thing.
Heather Jensen
Aww! That's so awesome! :) I would definitely say that you should start telling people about you being bi -- when you are ready though.
Heather Jensen
Hi Madalyn! :) Thanks for the comment! Will do -- I really appreciate your interest!
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