There are certain signs your relationship is worth saving even when things have gotten to be a bit bumpy. All relationships have their ups and downs but you should still be happy overall with the relationship. Ladies if you are wondering whether you should fix the problems in your relationship or whether its best to walk away, I’m going to help you out. Analyze your relationship as you go through the list below of these signs your relationship is worth saving.
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1. What is Your Relationship like?
There are elements in a relationship that are crucial so both people can be happy. Ask yourself if your relationship has trust, respect, loyalty, honesty and commitment. These are the building blocks that all good relationships are built on. If your relatiomship is lacking one of these elements, it spells trouble. One of the best signs that your relationship is worth saving is if you have all those fundamental elements in your relationship.
2. Communication
The next point to consider is the communication between the two of you. Does this guy meet your communication needs? Some of us like to be texted around the clock while others prefer more phone calls and less text messages. Regardless of your specific needs, your guy should be able to meet them. If you are always unhappy because your boyfriend takes hours to respond to a text or goes days without calling, make your needs clear and try to reach a compromise. If that doesn’t work, maybe its time to rethink the relationship.
Frequently asked questions
Look for signs like mutual respect, open communication, and still having fun together. If you both want to make things work and are willing to put in the effort, that's a good sign!
If there's constant conflict, lack of trust, or you don't feel happy when you're together, it might be time to reconsider. Your happiness and well-being are super important.
If both of you are committed to making changes and you've seen progress over time, it's worth sticking it out. Relationships take work, but they should also bring you joy.
Absolutely! Everyone has doubts from time to time. It's good to talk about your feelings with your partner and see if there's a way to work through them together.
Start with honest conversations about what's not working and what you both need. Consider couples counseling and make a plan to address the issues. It takes effort from both sides, but it can be rewarding if you're both invested.
3. Fun Times
When was the last time you had fun with your boyfriend? Consider saving the relationship if you are still able to enjoy each others' company. But if the relationship feels stale and neither one of you wants to make an effort to liven things up, re-examine the reasons you want to stick around. There should be more good times than bad ones in your relationship.
4. Top Three People
Make a list of your favorite three people that you enjoy spending time with. Your boyfriend should be somewhere on that list. You should look forward to spending time with him even if it's just chilling at his place watching movies. Conversations with him should feel comfortable and flow naturally instead of forced and awkward.
5. Are You Still in Love?
There is a difference between fierce in love feelings and lukewarm feelings when it comes to relationships. If you are crazy in love with each other even though there are problems, chances are both of you will want to save the relationship. But if those feelings are missing, its likely that one of you will start looking for the exit door of the relationship. If the feelings aren’t there, you can’t force them. Once you admit to yourself that you aren’t in love with him, it's time to hand him his walking papers.
6. The Reality of Relationship Problems
Think of the issues that you are dealing with in the relationship. Are these minor issues that can be fixed with a bit of effort? Or are you dealing with emotionally life-draining issues that are difficult to handle? Another thing to consider is how much effort is your partner willing to give to fix relationship issues. Both of you should be trying to find solutions to issues and be willing to change if it will improve your relationship.
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Consider the communication patterns between you and your partner. Are both of you able to express your feelings openly without fear of judgment or contempt? Healthy communication is a hallmark of a strong relationship. It's not just about the ability to share what's on your mind, but also about being a good listener. Reflect on whether both of you are able to give each other the space to speak and be heard. If you're finding active communication and understanding within your relationship, this is a promising sign that problems can be overcome with mutual effort.
7. You Work Well Together
Some relationships seem like nothing but work and when a problem arises, it's a huge, messy ordeal. But what if you and your partner truly able to work well together? Healthy couples are able to work well together in good and bad times and support one another through it all. If your partner is the type of person you feel that you can get through anything with, which is a rare quality, it's certainly worth saving.
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Having a partner that you can work well with is a rare and valuable quality that should be treasured and nurtured. In a healthy relationship, both partners should be willing to work together to solve problems and support each other through difficult times. This could include taking turns to help with household chores, providing emotional support during hard times, or even making a plan to tackle a difficult situation.
When a couple can work together and respect each other’s opinions, it can create a strong bond between them. They will be able to come up with creative solutions to problems, and they will trust each other enough to be open and honest with their thoughts and feelings. Working together also helps couples to stay connected and appreciate each other’s strengths and weaknesses.
When a couple is able to work together and support each other, it can help them to grow together and build a stronger relationship. They will be able to understand each other’s needs and wants, and they will be more likely to compromise and make decisions together. This kind of teamwork can help couples to build a strong foundation for their relationship and create a lasting bond between them.
8. Are You Able to Be Yourself?
Does your partner allow you to feel comfortable enough to truly be yourself? Does your partner make you want to be a better person? Those are both very important questions to ask yourself while pondering whether to save your relationship or not. If you're in a relationship with someone who wants to change you or makes you feel as if you're not good enough-it very well might not be worth the fight. It's hard to be in a committed relationship with someone who isn't supportive of and love you just the way you are,
9. Growing Old Together
The years will pass and there will come a time where you won’t be that fresh-faced young girl but more of a wrinkly old lady full of wisdom to share. Now that you have envisioned yourself as a senior citizen, think of the guy you want beside you. Do you honestly see your current boyfriend as the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with? If you don’t, you have your answer right there.
10. Want the Same Things
Do you two want the same things out of life? If you dream of a future with children and a house in LA, but he wants to remain childless and unmarried, you have a problem. It's rare for two people to want the same things, so if you're on the same page, you should try to save the relationship.
11. Can't Live without Him
Try to imagine your life without him. Sure, tomorrow it would be hard, but would it still be hard ten years after the breakup? If you don't think you'd live a happy life without him, then you should attempt to save the relationship. You two owe each other that much.
12. Opinions of Others
You two know your relationship better than anyone else, but some close friends might have some good advice for you. If your BFF tells you that she knows you've never been happier than when you're with your man, it's a sign you shouldn't give up. If everyone around you considers your relationship worth saving, then maybe you should, too.
13. A Long History
Studies have shown you shouldn't just "stay together for the kids," because it's healthier for them to live in a divorced household than an unhappily married one. However, the more history you have, the more important it is to try to save the relationship. If you own a house together and have several children, you shouldn't leave without trying to make things work first.
14. All of a Sudden
Are you unhappy all of a sudden, because your man did something small you didn't like? If the problems are new, then you should try to fix them. On the other hand, if the same problems have been popping up again and again for months or even years, it may be time to end it.
15. What Will You Regret?
What would you regret more: leaving him or staying with him? While it's important to think of your needs as a couple, it's also important to think about your needs as an individual person. If he's holding you back from achieving your dreams, it's time to leave. But if he's helping your dreams come true or simply supporting them, try to make it work.
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Reflect deeply on the emotional footprint of your partnership. If the thought of enduring years filled with 'what ifs' and missed opportunities brings you distress, then it may signal a need for change. On the other hand, if you envision a future tinged with regret for losing a supportive partner, consider the unique ways in which the relationship enriches your life. Balance is key – harmony between personal aspirations and mutual growth can often lead to the most fulfilling outcomes.
16. Back Together
Ask yourself if you think the breakup would only be temporary. If you assume that you'll get back together after a month or two of anger, then there's no reason to split in the first place. Making it work now will save the both of you a whole lot of trouble and heartache.
17. Outside Influences
You need to figure out why you're thinking about ending the relationship. If it's because your parents have been telling you to end it, ignore them. This is your life. If you're happy, stay with him. No one, except for you and your man, should have any say in your relationship. Don't listen to others, because they don't know your relationship like you do.
18. You Don't Want Anyone else
If you've been eying other attractive men, then it might be a sign that you're ready to move on. However, if your boyfriend is still the only one that you want to be with, you should try to save the relationship. There may be other fish out in the sea, but you've already gotten a great catch. Don't lose it if you don't have to.
19. Major Life Changes
If you've recently moved to a new location or if he just got a new job, you need to give it some time before you decide whether or not you should break up. When you go through a major life change, you need time to readjust. Things are always messy in the beginning, but they might go back to normal soon, so don't give up just yet.
Hopefully these points helped you clarify if you should fight for your relationship or just let him go. Although it's difficult to say goodbye to the wrong guy, the right guy will offer you all the great things that a relationship consists of and more. Ladies can you share other signs that a relationship is worth fighting for?
This article was written in collaboration with editor Lisa Washington and Holly Riordan.
Comments
Daiz: Thanks heather! You think i'm not ready yet or i might misleading a great relationship. I thought of that too.. I actually told him i think i need space to figure things which he didnt allow me. He said he'd help me cope with it and want us to deal with it together. Without my fears i would think he's a keeper but sometimes i just cant help it i fear too much. I hate me.
Takeanotherlilpieceofmyheartnowbabe: My husband n I r going thru harsh times dealing with his all of a sudden child support from his baby mama (from a one night stand) years ago.. She is trying to get more money and it's hard on us and is tearing me down bc he doesn't deal with the papers or stress or look for a solution to fix our oh so slow crumbling home.. I explain my feelings and he jus gets upset.. He doesn't deal with these major issues in life and since he doesn't I have to be the one dealing with things.. Another problem is his family never liked me and I was awkward around them and he never once confronted them about that until I brought it up.. He is changing. His actions and values of our life n future seems like it has no hope bc he doesn't like to take charge..we love each other so much and I love him but I can't help but feel he is only happy when we happy n r not talking about the things in life that need to be dealt with..
semperfiMilso72912: i feel like i have a relationship worth saving..i dont always have time with my boyfriend because he is a marine whos deployed but i love the guy..i mean maybe am worried it might not last because he is deployed and i fear he might be talking to someone else but i have a strong feeling it is just me being paranoid...we have till august for him to visit but till then ...idk i just miss him soooo much:/
Crystallee: Please help
Mabelle: when you two want to change to save the relationship
Babygirl: When someone loves you too.
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