7 Undeniably Horrifying Signs You're Dating a Narcissist ...

Sounds like psychopaths too! I had one charm his way into my life, and I'm now finally good riddance of him.

I have been with my partner 2 years we both have a child each from previous relationships but they have no idea about there biological parents. Its just the 4 of us. My son worships the ground he walks on. My partner has many issues that no one else is aware of. He is certainly a narcissist. I can not put up with it any longer. I have deep depression due to all of this, of course he does not understand any of this which causes problems in its self. We have a joint tenency on our house. He spends all the money so im getting in debt with bills too. He also has a bit of an alcohol problem on top of all the other things. Ive packed and told him i am leaving many times but he thinks i will never follow it through. I dont have the money to get my own place to live. So im kinda stuck in this hell hole. He says ALL the right things like i need to change or i will loose you and the kids has a few good days and then back to how he was before. I just dont know how to leave or where to go. 😢 i cant handle any more hurt my little boy and me are both suffering i wish he could just step up. I went out alone once and still to this day i grt accused of cheating that day so ive not done anything my self since, yet he says he trusts me... i hate how it is at the moment. My son lives with my dad and my other halfs problems means i see my son less and less when he is around. If he goes i can have my son back. I just have no idea how to get out with out making my self homeless and breaking my sons heart he is nearly 4 at the end of October.

Those are the exact traits of ppl I know. Omg.

I agree with most of what you said, but you shouldn't out them to others. My father has BPD, and I have severe depression and anxiety, which is possibly bi polar disorder, (I have to track everything on a calendar for a year to be sure), and I would HATE if someone told people who I only just met. My ex told all his friends about my personal mental health issues, and I told him to stop, but he told everyone, if I took 3 seconds to decide what kind of dinner I wanted, he'd tell the waiter I have severe anxiety and go into detail about what it is. So I left, but we had tons of friends in common and it was incredibly difficult to find someone, I am all for telling my partner, but I want to do it and not have it be a negative thing, which mental illnesses often get stigmatised as. They are not awful, and once you find the person who understands or at least tries to, it can easily work out in a relationship. But if you go into that relationship with the thought that the other person is crazy and is going to be hard to handle, its doomed. After the guy that spilled my life every 5 seconds, I dated a friend who I told, but he had already knew, and he only thought about the horror stories he's heard about "crazy people" in the news, I was doing extremely well at the time, and had everything in my life under control, but he'd ask me if I was depressed if I didn't want to do anything and would (not intentionally in a rude way) threaten to call the hospital and get me committed. But after I met new people, and explained myself how it works and they heard the truth and not exaggerated examples or stories, it worked. I've had two very successful relationships since, one only ended because I don't want children and he did, and I'm in one now with a lovely girl who completely understands, and didn't listen to the stigma around mental health issues. Even if your warning is online and not directed at someone, its still negativity stigmatising mental health disorders. People with BPD and npd can function fully, and even have successful relationships. There's a guy in my hospital who comes in every week for therapy with npd, and he has a wife and a baby on the way, and his whole life he was in committed relationships, and yes, when shit hits the fan he stresses and blames others, but his wife gets that he can't control that, because it's a chemical imbalance in his brain, not something intentional. I may have felt a bit too personal over your response, and I really apologize for that, but I have been on the other side of that "warning" and it made me miserable. You can't take away a chance at a relationship with someone just because (and I don't want this to sound like an attack, because it's hard and there's only a handful of people willing and wanting to do it) that can handle and love people with these types of disorders, but they need to find out themselves, and not have (what could be realistic or exaggerated) negative expectations going into the relationship. It's not always going to fail. But it's like if you get told to try the milk because someone thinks it tastes funny, you're going to taste a funny taste because you were expecting it to be negative. I deal with people with mental health disorders every day, and I've seen professionally and personally how even just a bit of googling can ruin a healthy at least decently happy relationship, and it's horrible for them. So even though you think you're protecting the person going in, you're hurting the person indirectly in something (even those with npd need companionship, even if they aren't happy) crucial to human life, and in what with most cases lead to depression or even suicide unfortunately, even in people who don't feel the need for love, or for those who don't care about others, lack of human companionship is easily the worst thing for any human.

Alyx, I appreciate your last post - very well expressed and no, I don't feel like you are attacking me. I went back and re-read my initial comments and I understand that I was misleading without intending to be. Your self reflection about maybe feeling a bit too personal about my response applies to me as well. I made it sound like ALL those afflicted with BPD/NPD will inevitably sabotage their relationships and that certainly is not true. Sharing my experience along with the comments of several on this thread in order to save the inexperienced/uneducated as I was could save wasted time, effort and $ for the therapy necessary on what will frequently (but not always) become a dead-end experience. If the person with either of these disorders is extremely low-functioning, it won't take long to figure out that something is amiss, even if one lacks the experience to identify some of the red flags. If the afflicted has some degree of self-reflection, or is able to look at themselves objectively and ask for professional help, it is possible to sustain a relationship with a partner who has strong boundaries and is able to hang on during the peaks and valleys on the roller coaster ride. The difficulty, (and forgive me for repeating from one of the earlier posts but I will be more specific and more accurate this time) is when one is dealing with a "grandiose" narcissist or a high-functioning borderline. It can be very difficult to detect narcissistic or borderline traits in the early stages of a relationship with people like this. They are extremely charismatic - intoxicating. For many of the "stealth" narcissists the unsuspecting partner is merely a source of supply, filling up the emptiness of the NPD individual. High functioning borderlines often are lacking a sense of self and will present themselves as someone they believe their new partner wants them to be; almost like a chameleon instead of a true self . . . There often isn't one. In my opinion, you did the right thing to move on from your ex who repeatedly disregarded your requests and was bent on sharing something that should have stayed between the two of you. You were forthright in revealing what your were going through. In order for a relationship to achieve a deeper level of intimacy, we can't fear revealing our "warts" to our significant other at the appropriate times. What a partner chooses to do with what they have been entrusted with, we cannot control. That is part of being vulnerable and most unfortunate that he violated your trust. It was best that you moved on.

Wow it's what I'm currently going through now and I want out !!!!im scared ,,,;( he's worse than everything mentioned!!

Dani - narcissism and bipolar disorder are NOWHERE near the same thing. Please don't spread around false facts and further stigmatise the word for something it's not, and making it sound so much worse. Yes, if youre unhappy, leave. But don't toss around mental disorders just because you think they're not good for you.

Glenda, Please get out of the situation ASAP.

I can relate to you EI ugh I wished I hadn't had 3 kids with him! It's so exhausting but I'm waiting for the right time to kick his ass to the curb, biggest mistake ever !!!!!!

I just got out of a relationship wit a narcissist I'm as happy as can be now. He pulled me so down. I was so depressed all the time and had no idea why and then I realised it was because of him so advice to girls if ur boyfriend has a narcissistic personality or biopolor and u not happy get out and run.