Being a player in the endless dating game can be super fun, but it can also be super depressing and dispiriting if you develop feelings for someone only to realise that you have completely misjudged the signs and the status of the relationship. There are definitely some signs you're just a fling that you should be watching out for.
It is a human flaw to jump into things too quickly, and that includes emotional attachment, so it can sometimes be tough to realise that the guy you have been hooking up with sees you more as a quick fling than a long-term prospect. To avoid that kind of heartbreak or embarrassment, these are some key signs you're just a fling.
Have you noticed that he has never asked you to meet his friends? If he’s not interested in integrating you into his social circles, then it could be a key indicator that he doesn’t see his time with you as being anything beyond physical pleasure and one of the biggest signs you're just a fling.
You requested to be his friend on Facebook, but the invitation is still sitting there unanswered. Why isn’t he willing to let you see more of his social and private life? Could it be that he wants to keep you as a separate, disconnected part of his life and you’re just there as a stop-gap or sexual fulfillment?
Does he always turn up to dates late? Sure, some people are just prone to bad timekeeping, but if it happens every time, it could just be that you are not his priority and he might even be juggling more than just you in his personal life at the moment. Don’t let yourself be treated like that.
Is the only time you receive a text message from him a midnight booty call? If the only topic of discussion that you share together is sex, then it’s a clear sign that he isn’t particularly interested in you in an emotional sense, and doesn’t want to get to know you better.
If your time spent together is mainly physical with very little real communication, then you can be sure that he isn’t trying to lay down a deeper foundation to get the ball of a real relationship rolling. Also, if too much time passes between the two of you without seeing each other, then it means he’s not eager to be with you.
Is he reluctant to make any sort of plans that relate to the future? Even just booking a vacation or attending a formal event together? This could be a sign that he simply doesn’t envisage himself sticking around long enough to complete those plans.
Have you noticed that he never intends to inquire about your life and your feelings like other previous boyfriends did? The less he knows about you are a person, the easier it is for him to cut loose when he wants to, so that might be why he is being elusive and disinterested.