There are a lot of signs it’s time to end your long distance relationship. Some are less obvious than others, while sometimes you just know. If you’re thinking about your relationship and looking for signs it’s time to end your long distance relationship, you’ve come to the right place. These are just a few signs though, when it comes down to it, it’s up to you to decide if your long distance relationship is in jeopardy or not.
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1. You’re More Sad than Happy
If you spend more time sad than happy, it’s time to end your long distance relationship. You may have your happy moments, but if the time you spend fighting outweighs that, it’s not worth it. You deserve to be with someone who makes you happy more than sad. No relationship is made up of 100% happy moments all the time, but if the bad moments are outweighing the good, this might be one of those signs it’s time to end your long distance relationship.
2. You Don’t Care Anymore
It may sound obvious, but relationships require a lot of work. That being said, long distance relationships require so much more work than a normal relationship. If you don’t want to work for the relationship, or if you’ve given up trying to make it work, it is probably time to end it.
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3. You Don’t Try to See Each Other
Sometimes it is next to impossible to see each other in a long distance relationship. All circumstances surrounding a relationship, especially long distance, are different. However, if it is somewhat possible to see each other and you make no effort to do so, your relationship is probably at its wick’s end. For example, if you’re saving up for a train ticket to go see your boyfriend and blow it on a new wardrobe, your relationship probably doesn’t mean very much to you anymore. It might be time to call it quits.
4. One-Sided Effort
My last tip however, goes both ways. If you’re doing everything you can to make your long distance relationship work but your partner isn’t, don’t put up with it. You deserve more than someone who doesn’t put anything into a relationship you’re committed to trying to make work. Relationships are a two-way street, and this is even more important with long distance relationships.
5. Jealousy
Jealousy can become a problem in every relationship, but it’s much more difficult when your significant other is thousands of miles away. Jealousy is an ugly monster, and it can creep its way into your long distance relationship and ruin it. If you find yourself in a fit of jealousy due to anyone tagged in a Facebook picture with your significant other, it’s time to re-evaluate your relationship. Do you want to be in a relationship consumed with jealousy? If not, either find a way to stop being jealous or end your relationship.
6. Avoiding Future
If you have no plans to close the distance, whether they are very soon and concrete or very far off, it may soon be time to end your long distance relationship. Even if you know you can’t close the distance for a while, you should at least have a plan of how you aim to do so, leaving a little bit of wiggle room. Like the old saying goes, the best laid plans often go awry. If you’re purposely avoiding talking about closing the distance between the two of you, view this as a red flag.
7. Your Inner Voice
When it comes down to it, you know when your relationship is over better than anyone else. If your intuition is telling you it’s over, it’s over. Even if you’re experiencing none of these signs, you could just know your relationship is over. You know your long distance relationship better than anyone else. Listen to your inner voice if you think your relationship is ending. In the same way, even if you’ve experienced something on this list, that doesn’t necessarily mean your long distance relationship is at an end. You know if and when it’s time to end your long distance relationship.
Are you in a long distance relationship? Have you been in one before? What are your tips for people in long distance relationships?
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splashhhh: I ended my L.D. Relationship recently I miss him soooo much tough
Hellige: Spot on! I truly believe in #7. My boyfriend and I had been living together for almost 2 years. He lives halfway around the globe right now and we tried to stay friends when we ended the relationship 3 months ago. Yes, we had arguments and those feelings of hurt and frustration kicks quite often, but damn this love is all over us. Yesterday we decided to keep the relationship going and work on something in the near future to get back in each others arms.
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Belle: @Darlene I love him and he feels the same. He is a great guy and consider myself blessed. Jealousy is never an issue for us. I will be joining him in Japan next year so that's something I look forward to.
Belle: My guy is in the Navy and currently in Virginia. I'm in Australia. It really takes hard work. We have our bad moments but always try to work things out. I believe that if two people really put their relationship a priority then anything is possible.
Annab: Hi everybody! I am too in a long distance relationship for 1,5 year. He leaves in a country next to mine. I met him on my first visit there. I have visited him four times and he has never come here. I hate that. We used to be in love, talk everyday, text all the time. Now we talk 2-3 times a week. It's so hard to keep it alive, we fight, we have our own problems, we are both busy. When I complain he disappears, when I am angry with him, I disappear. I love him so much and despite all my worries, whenever I decide to leave him, he never let's me. I try to feel relaxed and focus on other things, because I believe that no one knows what will happen with us? Any advice from you girls??
Sarah: I'm in a long distance relationship right now. Yes it's challenging. But when you truly love each other, then you will try to make it work. My boyfriend has no way of coming up to visit in the near future, but I know he's always there no matter how hard it is. Distance shouldn't matter. And I hope no one ever has to go the conclusion of wanting to end it, because LDR are special. You knew that no matter how far it is, you want to make it work. That's the difference between LDR and a normal relationship
Ulaley: My husband and I were in a long distance relationship for 5 years. He is here in Cali and I was in the Philippines. We saw each other for 3 weeks every year. It was hard but if you put effort in it, everything will be fine. Trust, love and icommunication. We now live together here in Cali. Good luck!
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