30. The Whole Relationship Feels like an Obligation

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Spending time together, being intimate, having a conversation, even being in the same room – everything feels more like an obligation than a relationship. You have to be there. It's something you have to do, not something you genuinely want to do. Obligation is definitely not a healthy emotion in a relationship.

Relationships are not black and white; everyone I know has had doubts about their love relationships at one time or another in their lives. We don’t always know without a doubt that the relationship we are in is the one for us but there are signs that indicate which way things are going. Often our bodies, moods and emotions tell us what we are really feeling before we are ready to face it ourselves. Does anyone have any other telltale signs that you no longer want to be in the relationship you are in?

This post was written in collaboration with editors Lyndsie Robinson, Lisa Washington, and Holly Riordan.

Comments:

Brandi
I'm sad I had to read this article. Been together 3 1/2 years. Last year has been horrible, especially the last few months. We both still love each other which is why we haven't broken up. 3 1/2 years...
Jazminez
Hello every one ..I would like your guy give me some opinion and exchange to help me improve to decide what I should do for next ? we have been together 1 year and one day he told be he want to break ...
missappropriate
@Christina , IT IS SAD. :(
missappropriate
samesies :( for like 1 year and a half and I AM NOT EVEN SURE............ =.=
Jay Cowell
Probably worth mentioning that most, if not all, of these signs could also be indicators that you\'re passive aggressive.
Raj Eteng
Really great advice. www.raajusblog.blogspot.com for 7 reasons why you should date married men
Sera Non
Garbage
Christina
Mines deff on the outs and it's sad
Heather Jensen
That's great advice! I actually did that. You've got to fix yourself before you can even go about fixing anything else.
Anya
If you're on the fence about your relationship, seek relationship counseling for yourself first, then couples therapy if the therapist thinks that would help.
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