30. The Whole Relationship Feels like an Obligation

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Spending time together, being intimate, having a conversation, even being in the same room – everything feels more like an obligation than a relationship. You have to be there. It's something you have to do, not something you genuinely want to do. Obligation is definitely not a healthy emotion in a relationship.

Relationships are not black and white;

everyone I know has had doubts about their love relationships at one time or another in their lives. We don’t always know without a doubt that the relationship we are in is the one for us but there are signs that indicate which way things are going. Often our bodies, moods and emotions tell us what we are really feeling before we are ready to face it ourselves. Does anyone have any other telltale signs that you no longer want to be in the relationship you are in?

This post was written in collaboration with editors Lyndsie Robinson, Lisa Washington, and Holly Riordan.

Comments:

Sera Non
Garbage
Christina
Mines deff on the outs and it's sad
Heather Jensen
That's great advice! I actually did that. You've got to fix yourself before you can even go about fixing anything else.
Anya
If you're on the fence about your relationship, seek relationship counseling for yourself first, then couples therapy if the therapist thinks that would help.
Heather Jensen
That is so true!! With my girlfriend and I -- it's all about the little things that cause fights.
Heather Jensen
That isn't good! Are you annoyed with your boyfriend?
Oronda Washington
I get annoyed very easy..Ugh!!
Anna Waite
The Little Things!! For my very recent ex there were no major "deal breakers" so i stayed with him thinking i needed to just put up with the little things. But a million little things built up resentm...
Heather Jensen
Aww, I've actually done that to my partner before ... and it's not appreciated at all. Talk about it with him, see how he responds.
Heather Jensen
Aww Jesse, I'm sorry!
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