Do you know where you stand with your man? You don't want to assume that your relationship is heading toward marriage when he's just looking for a fling. That's why it's important to talk to him to really define the relationship. Of course, if you don't want to ask, you can probably figure it out on your own. Here are a few of the major differences between having a boyfriend and having a serious boyfriend:
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1. He’s Bought You Flowers Vs He’s Bought You Tampons
A good boyfriend will buy you flowers randomly, just to make you smile. He might even come home with a pack of your favorite candy. However, a serious boyfriend will go the extra mile. He'll push aside his embarrassment and buy you tampons or pads. He'll never get the wrong ones, either, because he knows exactly what brand you use.2. You've Used His Bed Vs You've Used His Toilet
You might've slept over your boyfriend's house a few times. That means you're used to using his pillows and blankets. However, if you're serious with him, then you've probably used his toilet to do more than just pee. Unless you're in a serious relationship, you wouldn't risk stinking up his bathroom.Frequently asked questions
3. If He Knows Your Dreams Vs if He Knows Your Flaws
A regular boyfriend will know what you want to do with your life. However, a serious boyfriend will know more than that. He'll also know about all of your "flaws," because he'll witness them firsthand. Of course, he won't consider them flaws, because he'll love even the most awkward parts of you.***
your personality. A regular boyfriend might know your ambitions and goals, but a serious boyfriend will accept and cherish every aspect of who you are, from your loud laughter to your habit of leaving dishes in the sink. He won't just appreciate your dreams; he'll embrace the whole package. While a regular boyfriend may see your idiosyncrasies as quirks, a serious boyfriend will adore them as integral parts of your being. In his eyes, your so-called "flaws" become the unique details that make you irreplaceable.
4. He’s Seen You Naked Vs He’s Seen You without Makeup
It's one thing to let your boyfriend see you naked. It's completely different to let him see you without makeup--or even worse, with your acne cream on. If he's seen that, you two are definitely serious.5. He’s Met Your Friends Vs He Knows Secrets about Your Friends
A regular boyfriend will know the names of all of your friends. He might even consider them to be friends of his own. However, a serious boyfriend will know every last detail about your friends, because you'll always talk to him about them. He knows things that he never even wanted to know.6. You Know His Schedule Vs You Know His Passwords
A regular boyfriend will know what days you're free and what days you have to work. However, a serious boyfriend will know the password to your phone's lock screen, and will know where you store the extra key to your house. There won't be any secrets between the two of you.7. He Plans Next Week's Dates with You Vs He Plans Years into the Future
This is the biggest difference of all between a regular boyfriend and a serious boyfriend. A regular boyfriend will make plans with you for next week. However, a serious boyfriend will make plans with you for ten years down the road. He'll talk to you about kid names and apartment locations.8. He Tells You about Big Decisions He Has to Make Vs He Consults You with Big Decisions He Has to Make
A good boyfriend will tell you about the things that are going on in his life but a serious boyfriend will talk to you about the big things. He will allow you to give your opinion so that you two can make an informed decision together.***
A good boyfriend will tell you about the things that are going on in his life, but a serious boyfriend will talk to you about the big things. He will allow you to give your opinion so that you two can make an informed decision together. This shows a deeper level of trust and respect, valuing your insights and thoughts on crucial matters. It's about partnership and being a team, rather than handling important issues in isolation. When he consults you, it signifies that he sees a future with you and wants you to be an integral part of it.
9. You Sleep over at His Place a Lot Vs He Has Space for Your Things at His Place
Spending days or weeks on end together at a boyfriend's place is a great thing. But if he's setting aside a drawer or other space in his home for you to keep your items, he's a keeper.10. He's There for All the Good Times Vs He's There for All the Bad Times
When you're together, it's absolutely amazing. He's seen you during all of your fantastic moments. But if he's there for you when times are tough, he's definitely serious boyfriend material.11. He Knows Your Interests Vs He Participates in Your Interests
He knows that you love photography, pop music, and watching old films, but a serious boyfriend initiates doing these activities with you. He wants to experience things that make you smile.12. You Calls You Beautiful Vs He Makes You Feel Beautiful
Actions speak louder than words. While we all love to be called beautiful, it is also the way in which a guy makes us feel that can determine whether he's a serious boyfriend or not.13. He's Met Your Family Vs He Keeps in Contact and Makes an Effort with Your Family
He's met your family over holidays or big events, but a serious relationship means he keeps in regular contact with your family members and shows a genuine interest in your family.14. He Always Makes You Feel Better Vs He Makes You Better
When you're having a bad day, he's there to cheer you up. But if he encourages you to be a better version of yourself and to achieve your goals, he's making you a better person.15. He Simply Listens when You're Being Irrational Vs He Calls You out when You're Being Irrational
A serious boyfriend is a great listener but also has the ability to tell you things openly and honestly. If you're being irrational - he should be able to tell you.Your boyfriend could always turn into your serious boyfriend, so you shouldn't worry if he doesn't currently do everything on this list. You have plenty of time to grow as a couple. After reading this, do you think you have a boyfriend or a serious boyfriend?
Comments
Allyfedor: I agree with everything but #5, you shouldn't tell him your friends secrets
Rachel: I loved this article especially #1 a true test
Kiryn: Don't agree with this blog, men are so good at deceiving women. Even if he showed all these signs it doesn't mean he's serious. I seem to make this mistake every time. It's not women being open with them, it's about men being open with us. If he's serious he'd be open about his life and you'd know his secrets, friends, family and colleagues. If he does that then it's a good sign. Otherwise he's very quick at deflecting it away from himself and focusing on you, the naive girlfriend who believes everything he says when in reality you're just his "dirty little secret".
Allora: If he knows your friends secrets (even stuff he never wanted to know!!) that just shows how not good of a friend you are being.
David: Pure love or fake love, that is the question :)
McGeek: Somebody likes supernatural... Me too...
Starr: I love that when I read all these they were the serious part. I love even more that when I went into the comments and read @kiryn comment, I knew immediately that he considers me a serious gf because he tells me all his secrets, I've met all his friends and family (wedding). I've even seen him cry over one of the secrets he's told me. Though I try my best from that ever happening again Cus I don't wanna see him cry at all (though I'm kinda happy he cried in front of me). He's definitely the one ❤️ (all of this sounds so corny but I don't even care).
Lolaforte: Ok. It's alright to see a guy out on cream and shave his face but it's not alright for some random twat to see u with acne cream on? Tut tut
Nafissatak: Love the article 👍❤
peony: Interesting
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