Gaslighting is something that I hadn't heard about until recently, until I started doing it.
I admit it, I am a frequent gaslighter and it is not a good thing.
In fact, it's abuse and until this article, when I was really reading up on it and I was seeing myself in a lot of the tactics, I didn't realize it.
That is not an excuse, I should've been educating myself, however, it is one thing that everyone in a marriage or relationship should be aware of.
If you aren't aware of what gaslighting is, don't worry, I got you.
1. Firstly, What is Gaslighting?
The thing that you need to understand first, is that gaslighting is emotional abuse.
The gaslighter spins their negative, harmful and even destructive words and actions in their favor.
They deflect all of the blame and they turn it around and point the finger at you.
This can really make the person that is getting lit feel paranoid, overly-sensitive and even silly, unhinged and mentally unstable.