“If only I wasn't taken” are usually the words that frequently go through your mind when you are seriously crushing on your boyfriend’s friend. Although you may really enjoy hanging out with your crush and feel totally comfortable around him, the fact remains he’s completely forbidden. If you are facing this precarious dilemma, I’m going to help guide you when you are crushing on your boyfriend’s friend.
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1. Crush Confusion
Crushing on your boyfriend’s friend can be a sign that you are unhappy in your relationship for any number of reasons, like it lacks excitement, the newness has long gone or you feel neglected. But many times your relationship can be perfectly fine and crushes on attractive people occur just because you are alive and breathing. Having a crush can make you feel a combination of feelings like lust and excitement or guilt and shame because you are having romantic feelings about another person.
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Crushing on your boyfriend’s friend can be a confusing and difficult situation to navigate. It may be a sign that there is something lacking in your current relationship, or it may just be a natural reaction to seeing someone attractive. No matter the cause, it can leave you feeling guilty, shameful, and overwhelmed.
However, it is important to remember that having a crush on someone other than your partner is not necessarily a sign that your relationship is doomed. It may just be a sign that you are human. It is possible to still love and be attracted to your partner while experiencing feelings of attraction towards someone else.
In order to deal with your crush, it is important to first consider the source of your feelings. Are you feeling neglected or unfulfilled in your current relationship? If so, it may be time to take a step back and reevaluate the relationship. On the other hand, if your feelings are simply a result of seeing someone attractive, it may be best to focus on your current relationship and make sure it is healthy.
If you are feeling guilty or ashamed about your feelings, it may be helpful to reach out for support from a trusted friend or family member. Talking through your feelings can help you gain perspective and clarity.
2. Analyze Your Crush
Try to figure out what is making you crush on your boyfriend’s friend. Is it something physical like he has breathtaking green eyes, or is it something more on an emotional level? For example, maybe you are crushing hard on this guy because your relationship is feeling stale. Once you figure out what it is that is attracting you to this other person, you can determine what should be your next step.
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If you’re crushing on your boyfriend’s friend, it can be a confusing and difficult situation to navigate. It’s important to take a step back and analyze what is making you feel this way. Is it something physical like his breathtaking green eyes or is it something more on an emotional level? It’s also important to consider how long you’ve had these feelings and if they are related to your current relationship.
Once you’ve figured out what’s making you feel this way, it’s important to talk to your partner. Explain that you have a crush on his friend and that it’s making you feel uncomfortable. Be honest with him and explain your feelings.
It’s also important to take some time for yourself and focus on self-care. Spend time doing activities that make you feel good and help you relax. This could be anything from reading a book to going for a walk.
Frequently asked questions
Having a crush isn't something you can always control. It doesn't mean you've done anything wrong, but it's important to handle the situation carefully to avoid hurting anyone's feelings.
This depends on your relationship's dynamics. Consider if sharing this will bring any positive outcomes. Sometimes, keeping it to yourself as you work through your feelings might be the best choice.
Try to limit your time around his friend, focus on your relationship's positive aspects, and direct your energy into hobbies or interests that make you happy.
It's important to set boundaries. Politely but firmly make it clear that you are not available, and avoid being in situations where such behavior could continue.
Yes, it can. If it's not addressed properly, it could lead to feelings of guilt, betrayal, or tension between you and your boyfriend or between your boyfriend and his friend.
3. Bring New Energy into Your Relationship
If you feel like you have this crush because your relationship is begging for a jolt of life, look for new things that you can try with your boyfriend. Trying out new things even as simple as having dinner in a new restaurant or getting away for the weekend can bring a sense of newness back into your relationship when you feel like it has fallen into a rut. It can also deepen the bond that the two of you share. Once you turn your focus on your relationship and its needs, your crush will fade away.
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Another way to bring new energy into your relationship is by trying out new activities together. This could include taking a dance class, going on a hike, or even trying a new hobby. By doing something new and exciting together, you can create new memories and strengthen your bond. Additionally, communication is key in any relationship. Make sure to openly communicate with your partner about your feelings and any concerns you may have. This can help address any underlying issues and bring you closer together. Remember to prioritize your relationship and make time for each other, as this can prevent feelings of boredom or neglect.
4. Feeling Neglected
Another reason a crush can develop is because you enjoy the attention. If you are feeling neglected in your relationship, then you need to make your boyfriend aware of your feelings. The two of you need to make your relationship a priority and nurture it if you want it to work out. Spending time together doing fun things that you both enjoy can help remind you that the love that you have for each other is still there.
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If you are having a crush on your boyfriend's friend, it can be a difficult and confusing situation. It's important to take a step back and evaluate why you are feeling this way. One of the most common reasons for developing a crush on someone else is because of feeling neglected in your relationship. It's important to make your relationship a priority and nurture it if you want it to work out.
Spending quality time together is essential to rekindle the flame. Make sure to plan activities that you both enjoy, such as going to the movies, having dinner, or taking a weekend trip. Doing something special can help remind you of the love that you have for each other.
It's also important to communicate openly and honestly with your boyfriend. Let him know how you're feeling and why you are having a crush on his friend. This will help him understand the situation better and can help him be more supportive.
It's also important to remember that having a crush does not necessarily mean that you are no longer attracted to your boyfriend. It's normal to feel attracted to other people, but it's important to stay loyal to your partner.
5. Respect Their Friendship
If I’ve learned anything in my life, it's that guys may seem really tough on the outside but they are big softies on the inside. So this means that crossing the line and acting on your feelings would devastate your boyfriend because it's one of the coldest things you could do to him. Not only would you gravely jeopardize your relationship but you would do serious damage to their friendship once your boyfriend finds out about it. It’s best to respect their friendship and just be friends with your crush and nothing more.
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It can be difficult to have feelings for your boyfriend’s friend, but it’s important to remember that it’s not a good idea to act on them. This could ruin your relationship with your boyfriend and cause a lot of hurt and tension between the two of them. It’s important to respect their friendship and not do anything that could jeopardize it.
The best thing to do is to try to keep your feelings in check and focus on your relationship with your boyfriend. Make sure you are honest and open with him about your feelings, so he can be aware of what is going on. This will help him to be understanding and supportive of the situation.
You should also try to limit the amount of time you spend with your crush. This will help you to stay focused on your relationship and not give in to temptation. Additionally, try to find other activities that you can do with your boyfriend and his friend. This can help to strengthen your relationship and make it easier to keep your feelings in check.
6. What is Best for You
On the other hand, if you aren't happy with your current relationship and aren't in love anymore, it's time to walk away. Usually crushes are harmless but if you have fallen in love with your crush, it's usually because he makes you happier, you feel he is better suited for you or you found something in him that was lacking in your relationship. If this is the case, it's time to end things with your boyfriend because it isn't fair to him. If you have given it a lot of thought and have figured out that you would rather be with the other guy, listen to your heart.
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Deciding on what's best might not be easy, but it's crucial to consider your feelings and your current relationship honestly. If your contentment and future happiness lie with someone else, it's better to embrace that realization sooner rather than later. Continuing a relationship when your heart has moved on can lead to deeper hurt for both you and your boyfriend. Remember, true love respects all parties involved, and sometimes the kindest action is to let go so that both of you can find happiness that is more aligned with your emotional needs.
7. After the Breakup
If you have ended the relationship, give yourself time to get over the breakup. Once you are ready to move on, evaluate your feelings for your crush. If you still feel like you would make a great couple, speak to him about the possibility of dating. If he is interested in you, then discuss how dating each other would make your boyfriend feel. If you know dating him would cause major drama between the two of them, back away and search elsewhere for love unless you are both willing to deal with the consequences.
A crush on your boyfriend’s friend is a really tricky situation but I hope these tips have helped make things easier. How did you deal with a crush on your boyfriend’s friend?
Comments
Petra: Thank you for putting the break up part. It's best just to tell the truth and not hurt the person further.
Taylor: I need to leave him
Petra: @MarykaImagine, Or she could be autistic
annoyingirl: I am definetelly in the mids of an unhealthy crush on my fiance's friend. It sucks, even when I am having sex with him I can only imagine his friend. I am horrible I know. The worst part is that there is no chance he likes me back and there is no chance I am leaving my fiance, I love him. Is just that I found our relationship so monotonous nowadays. I tried doing new things with him and everything but everything seems the same. Any tips on what I can do by myself to get over this crush and keep going with my relationship?
Raspberry: I have a crush on like...three of my bofriend's friends, and someone I volunteer with. I've lost a lot of weight and my relationship has been unhappy for a long time, unfortunately. Bad, unhappy things happened. I love him very much because, on the friend level, we're amazing pals and I care very much for his well being. I'd just like to stop being confused, understand where this is headed and whether I jumped into a relationship with him becase he was a good guy who loved me for who I was at the time, and I felt no one else as good and sweet as him could love a fatty like me. Now I'm considerably less fat, get a lot more attention and so obviously my confidence has increased. I really don't want to sound like a bitch about this. If any of these crushes came onto me, right now, whilst I'm still in a relationship with my guy, I'd tell them to jog on. That would honestly be enough to turn me off forever, because it would hurt my SO. Other thing is that because of one of the bad things that happened, I ran away from my family but was suffering from traumatic stress, anxiety and depression. I dropped out of uni, had nothing and have relied on him since. I volunteer now (have done for almost a year) and am applying for paid work, but that's obviously something that puts a strain on our relationship. Still though, his friends are morely to offer their jacket or make me a cup of tea or something...
Roaa: Ilove it
caye: #1 like omg yes this is true i am in a perfectly fine relationship and now I am crushing badly on my bf's bestfrieeeeenddd he is soooo cute and he is usually my type
copycat: Lunch
copycat: Hi. My crush's ex girlfriend broke up with him and be with my crush's friend.It's weird that my crush and his friend still are friends that they have linch tgt at school.(i am a student)
MarykaImagine: I know this isn't really the place to post this, but I searched to see if such an article existed and I couldn't find it. I'm having a hard time here and would like to hear some thoughts from other women. I love my guy, and I plan on being with him for the rest of my life, but I feel if that's the case I need to come to terms with something: his younger sister. I love her, she's super great, really kind and caring, but I just can't seem to bring myself to like her and I don't know what I can do. I find myself cringing when she complains or does a baby voices fake cry, and I find her to be conceited and immature at times, but she's only 16, so I honestly Feel she has every right to be! She's still learning! I just can't deal with it, and it makes me really sad because I want to like her. Any suggestions? :(
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