Girls Guide ๐Ÿ“• to Discussing the Future ๐Ÿ”ฎ with Your BF ๐Ÿ’ when You Don't Know How ๐Ÿค ...

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Talking about the future of your relationship is a big step.

Itโ€™s when you find out if youโ€™re on the same page and share the same dreams.

And you have to be prepared to learn that you might be looking to walk different paths.

Itโ€™s not easy to walk confidently into a conversation that is shrouded in uncertainty but you can be sensible in how you approach it.

1. Think about Timing, Pick the Right Moment

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When thinking about how to talk about your future with your partner, itโ€™s really important to judge the mood and pick the right time to bring it up.2

You donโ€™t want to discuss the long term when you are doing something that will artificially elevate your mood like being on holiday, and equally you donโ€™t want to discuss when one or both of you are going through a tough time at work or has recently experienced something sad or traumatic.

Timing is everything.

Wait until you are grounded and unburdened.

2. Be Open โ€˜Cos Neither of You Are Mind Readers!

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Donโ€™t expect your partner to be having the same feelings as you if you do not discuss them: nobody is a mind reader.2

it is all about clear communication and the ability to express your feelings.

If you want to have a frank discussion about the future, you need to let him know, otherwise you will start harboring resentment because he has failed to pick up on your microscopic signals!

3. Donโ€™t Be Afraid to Be Afraid Even Though Life is Daunting!

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When it comes to having a big discussion like this, it does no good to pretend that you are completely fine when there might be elements of the future that scare you.

Again, it is all about honesty, and if you are afraid of something, the only way to effectively deal with it is to voice the fear and let your partner help you get through it.

Be Realistic and Donโ€™t Ask for Too Much Too Soon
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