7 Tips on How to Deal with in-laws That Don't like You ...

By Alicia

7 Tips on How to Deal with in-laws That Don't like You ...

Many of you are looking for tips on how to deal with in-laws that don’t like you because you have found yourself in this position. It is definitely a difficult and hurtful position to be in. It is hard to understand why there has to be such friction. But if there is, you need to turn your focus to learning how to deal with in-laws that don’t like you so that it doesn’t disrupt your life and you can have peace again.

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Make Peace with the Fact

One of the very first things to realize when you are figuring out how to deal with in-laws that don’t like you is that you can’t make them like you. You can try to let them see you for the beautiful person that you are but they may still miss that. They may dislike you no matter what you do. If that is the situation you are facing, you need to accept that. Make peace with the fact that you are dealing with someone who may never like you and that is okay; it is their problem.

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Realize It Doesn’t Matter

Do not make the mistake of allowing an in-law that doesn’t like you become important in your life. They aren’t. Yes, they are a member of your husband’s family. But your husband chose you for his wife and you are his life partner. This supersedes all other human relationships. Many times this is why an in-law doesn’t like you; they know that your importance is greater than their own in your husband’s life.

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Allow Your Husband to Deal with Them

One of the best ways to deal with in-laws that don’t like you is to just not. Why should you? They aren’t your family. Allow your husband to deal with them; after all, they are really his problem because they are his family. Many times this will help keep things under control because most in-laws don’t want to alienate their blood family member. Additionally, once in-laws find out that your husband will not tolerate you being mistreated, often the mistreatment stops.

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Confront the Situation

This is a recommendation I give only if you have no other option. Allowing your husband to deal with them is a much better option but there are times an in-law may corner you and you have no choice but to confront the situation. Even then, I would try to avoid a confrontation unless what you are dealing with is open and blatant mistreatment. Then, you may just have to stand your ground and let your in-laws know that you will not be run over. Sometimes after in-laws see they cannot push and manipulate you, they back off.

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Be Kind

Two wrongs don’t make a right. Just because you have in-laws that are unkind does not mean you have to respond the same way. You have probably heard it said that you can kill others with kindness and that is true. It disarms them and catches them off guard. If you are lucky, this may even help them learn to like you.

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Let It Go

You know, it isn’t uncommon to have in-laws that don’t like you. It happens. It is not worth getting yourself all upset over or carrying a grudge over. Let it go. Look at it from the viewpoint that they are the ones missing out. They are missing out on knowing what a wonderful person you are.

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Rest in Your Husband’s Love for You

Lastly, don’t let in-laws steal your confidence. Your husband loves you or he would not have married you. Rest in that love and remind yourself that he chose you for his life partner. Your in-laws know how much you mean to your husband; that may very well be what is driving them crazy. But that is their problem to sort out, not yours.

In-law problems can be frustrating but they don’t have to be that big of a deal. Have you dealt with in-law problems? How have you overcome them?

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A big time thanks for sharing this.... Really needed it.. Now I no how to deal wid it...

My MIL is a really difficult person to understand . I just do not get her . But this doesn't stop my husband from leaving me , me and him are so happily married and crazy in love . No matter how hard I've tried to get along with her , I just up ! It's her problem if she doesn't like me . I really don't care anymore.

Glad I don't have this problem

Bravo!

These seem so simple to live by. But my husband still feels tugged in his parents direction. He was blind to how, no only his parents, but his brothers as well, treat me. I'm sure from their perspective they aren't. However, when his mother pulled me aside during the reception to tell me she finally feels at peace with us getting married, what am I supposed to do with that? I just don't know... we haven't even been married a year and I'm just so unhappy anytime his parents get mentioned, if we have to get together with his family and/or brothers.

My future Grand daughter In Law was a sweetheart to me for a year. About 7 months ago she started being short with me, ignoring me, won’t look me in the eyes. I have confronted her nicely about what I could have done. But even though she says I did nothing she continues to behave this way. It really hurts. I want to just not let this bother me but it hurts. I only have one grandchild and he has always said I am more his second mom. I am trying to figure out how to not make this about me, but I feel very sad.

Great advice. Me and husband are newly married and his mother & sister are already a problem for us. I see it like this, their both unhappy with their lives and marriages so they try to intrude into me and my husbands happy marriage. At any rate, I've accepted if they don't like me, who gives a flying flap. Me and my husband are our own family now.

My in-laws have hated me for over 25 years. They even offered my husband a huge sum of money to get a divorce from me, not once, not twice but three times! We're still happily married. I ignore them. I tried most of the things in your article. Their loss!

I made the mistake of making it an importance that they didn't like me . The funny thing is they were all acting like they didn't like to me to cover up they're own endeavors . My husband never said anything and let them hurt me over and over . After 26 years I learned that I don't care what they feel anymore and they can act however they want . It's funny when they complain about their in laws treating them ways or they're child's ways . They think that The silence makes it ok . Not acknowledging what they've done . It has hurt because I was so innocent . Now that I'm older - I have no respect for them . I will not request off work for their family get togethers and I don't care if I'm talked about anymore .

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