10 Tips to Help You Forgive Someone Who Has Hurt You ...


I created this list of tips to help you forgive because I needed to etch it in my heart as well.

I have this conversation often with my friends and family about forgiveness.

Often the question is, "But HOW do I forgive when...?" That's a great question!

How do we forgive?

What is forgiveness anyway and how do we know that we have truly forgiven a person?

These tips to help you forgive have helped me greatly along the way.

1. You're Not Perfect

You're not perfect and neither am I, no matter how hard we try to be.

We are all human and we all make mistakes.

I remember reading a book about a woman who had a near death experience, and one of the things she wrote about was how she realized how often she had offended people on earth and had absolutely no idea that she had done it.

At some point you will need to ask someone for forgiveness, so humble yourselves and learn to forgive others when they need it… whether they ask for it or not.2

2. You've Been Forgiven

This goes back to my first point in that at some point in your life you will need forgiveness.

I'm sure you can think of at least one occasion in your life, let's think back to high school if your memory is a bit foggy.

I do believe to a degree that what goes around comes around, so if you can get in the flow of forgiving others you will find that (hopefully) you will be forgiven when needed as well.

3. Don't Take It Personally

This can be so hard to do, but it's necessary and so helpful to get through this thing called life.

I can't tell you how many times I have thought that someone was mad at me or ignoring me, when really they were just incredibly busy or dealing with their own drama or pain to even remember me.2

We all do it at some point.

I have learned (and am still learning) to not take things so personally, because often another person's behavior has nothing to do with you.

I guess I should say that my default is no longer to take things personally.2

There will still be times where we are the source of another person's negative reactions or words, but it shouldn't be our default assumption.

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