If you feel like you're a failure when it comes to flirting, there are ways to feel more confident in your abilities. You shouldn't be afraid to introduce yourself to your crush, because the more practice you get talking to boys, the better you'll become at it. If you're nervous about approaching him, here are a few tricks for you and anyone else who feels like they're awful at flirting:
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1. Start by Flirting Online
If you're too scared to flirt in person, you can start by flirting over the internet. Since you won't be face to face with your crush, and since you'll have more time to think of a clever reply, the conversation won't be as daunting as it would be if you did it in person. If you're not ready to message your crush, you can join a role-playing blog on Tumblr. That way, you can harmlessly let your character flirt with another character. There's no risk involved, but you'll enhance your flirting abilities.
2. Watch Youtube Videos about Couples
There are YouTube videos about absolutely everything. You can watch professionals give you advice on how to approach boys. You could even just watch a couple's vlog to see how they interact. Study what you see and you'll learn quite a lot about flirting.
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3. Use Every Piece of Information to Your Advantage
It's easier to flirt with someone once you get to know them. However, if you want to flirt with a stranger, you should try to use the little information you have to your advantage. If he has on a Battlestar Galactica shirt, you might not know anything about the show, but you can assume that he likes other scifi things, like Star Wars. That means bringing the movie up in conversation is probably a great idea.
4. Look at Yourself in the Mirror
Flirting isn't all about what you say to your crush. It's also about the way you look at him. That's why it can help to look in the mirror to see what kind of flirty smiles you can create. Practice licking your lips seductively, practice winking, and practice giving him a sultry smirk.
5. Speak with Confidence
You're always told to keep your head held high and shoulders back in order to look confident. However, sounding confident is just as important. So the next time you talk to your crush, avoid mumbling at all costs. Speak loudly and clearly, like you are positive your words are worthwhile.
6. People Watch Whenever You See a Couple
Couples are all around you. You can watch the other kids in your class flirt with one another. You can watch couples at the mall hold hands and banter. If you have the stomach for it, you can even watch how your parents interact when they're in a lovey dovey mood.
7. Find the Right Person for You
You shouldn't assume that you're awful at flirting, just because you didn't click well with one specific person. Some people get along better than others do, so even though you failed at flirting with one guy, the same techniques could work when you talk to a new guy.
You aren't a failure at flirting, no matter how many times you've been turned down. You just need to work on your technique in order to come across as attractive and intriguing as possible. What other tricks do you have to improve a woman's flirting abilities?
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Megan: Getting to know the person through small talk first, makes flirting easier. I usually just shoot him a smile.
peony: Fantastic then welcome again Daniel Nd it would be great other male point of views but thank you neecey for the info.
peony: You see I am awful at flirting I won't even do it I am scared that the recipient might give me a dirty look or something of say 'what are you making those faces for?'hahaha. I just need to have confidence but on the front I don't. So I avoid flirting at all cost hahaha
Daniel: Guys have the same problem. That's why we try to use those God awful lines that make you ladies cringe. I find the best approach is to find some thing humorous about the situation or the other person to start the conversation. If all else fails, try "hi" or "hello I'm such and such" people in general love to meet new people unless they are preoccupied or total jerks! Which are easy to spot! It become increasingly easier with practice. To quote Winston Churchill, the only thing we have to fear is fear itself!
Samira: I'm not awful but I can like everything else in life become better :)
peony: If that isn't a troll then welcome Daniel. Refreshing to have able point of view. It is still great to I have the gals as well just saying.
Savannah: If you have to try this hard, the guy probably isn't for you anyway. I want someone I can be myself around.
Ash: Why would you try to cover up your shyness? For all we know, he could find it endearing.
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