A toxic relationship isn't something that you can spot right out all of the time, that's why you've got to watch out for some warning signs of a toxic relationship. Picking and choosing all of the warning signs of a toxic relationship can be hard, especially if you've been with your partner for a really long time. Remember, a toxic relationship can ruin you and really cause you to have extremely low self esteem.
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1. Lots of Hostility
Is your relationship filled with hostility? Is it something that is constantly flowing between you and your partner? This is one of the top warning signs of a toxic relationship. There shouldn't be hostility in a relationship, there should be something fun and a relationship should be something that you enjoy being in, not something you dread.
2. Dirty Fighting
Is there constant name calling? Constant insults? Is the past constantly being thrown up? That's all dirty fighting and it isn't something that should ever be in a relationship. If you are with someone and you love them, you need to discuss things, not scream at each other and be ugly to each other.
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3. Criticism
Is there a constant snide criticism that seems to always be in your relationship? That isn't right! There is a time and place for criticism and it shouldn't be in your relationship. Remember, the person that you love is someone that you should accept too, the good and bad. If you have an issue with your partner, talk about it!
4. Avoiding Problems
Do you constantly avoid the problems that rise up in your relationship? Do you just put them off and don't bring them up again until you are fighting about them? That's a pattern and one that isn't healthy and that you shouldn't keep up. You should attempt to work out all of your problems as they come up. This is where the discussion piece should come in!
5. You Aren't Yourself
Do you change your opinions and constantly switch up how you feel when your partner does? That isn't being you! You need to be your own person, even if you are in a relationship. Don't ever lose that. Never, ever change your opinion for anyone! If your partner can't accept you for you, why are you in a relationship with them at all?
6. Your Family Doesn't like Your Relationship
Does your family see how you and your partner treat each other? Do they like the relationship that you have built together? Do they constantly tell you that you can do better and that you should be able to do better? Well, that's a warning sign! Your family should like your relationship, how your partner treats you and how you treat your partner. There should be some kind of mutual respect there.
7. Lots of Guilt Trips
Finally, as far as the guilt trips, do you have a ton of them in your relationship? T hat could be one of the major warning signs that you and your partner are in a toxic relationship. I know it's hard to believe, but you shouldn't ever have to feel guilty in a relationship.
Toxic relationships are hard to get out of and even harder to identify. Have you ever been in a toxic relationship? Have you tried to get out of it?
Comments
hilsim22: My last relationship and my "first love" was a toxic relationship. I was in it for four years and finally got the courage to end it about a year ago. It was the best thing I ever did for myself and I encourage anyone who is in a relationship like this to get out as soon as possible, waiting does not help. I won't miss the dirty fighting, name calling and criticism that's for sure. It's shocking how someone who you're supposedly in love with can do so much damage.
assholeasshole: I'm in one now
Lauren: I'm afraid that I am in one. I have been married for almost 3 years and he is a seemingly nice guy, but he can be a total jerk. I don't know what to do because I know he loves me, and I'm not sure he feels the same way but I don't want to bring it up because I think he'll get mad
Melissa: 13 years in one but I've reached my breaking point and have had enough. My kids and i deserve better. I just hope I can be strong enough to see it through.
Alison: My last relationship had so much guilt-tripping and hostility it was ridiculous. Five years with that douchebag. I'm still getting over it, I wish I had seen this article sooner.
Diamond: I know and have known for quite a while that my two year relationship is toxic. I love his sweet side and our good times, but my guy has serious anger issues. He yells at me at least once a week. What I don't understand honestly, is why do I stay when I know this kind of relationship is very unhealthy for me.
Angelica: These are pretty true. But also quite obvious. I think it's the subtle things which lead to toxicity that are the most damaging....
Mercedes: I don't remember being involved in this toxic relationships. If we have such demand of emotional world, we all need time to realize the best way to explore emotions, and that doesn't mean understading our partner fucked up insecurities and unrealization in life that can hurt us. or standing by until the good moment comes. just learn to be happy with yourself.. it is achievable.
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