Are you aware in how many ways living apart can benefit your relationship? When you become a couple you automatically assume that means living together, and most people do just that. But some couples have to live apart because of work or other commitments - and some people actively choose to live in separate homes. Here are the ways living apart can benefit your relationship …
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1. Enjoy Your Time Together
One of the ways living apart can benefit your relationship is by making your time together quality time. Because you're not always together, you will make the effort to get the most out of the times when you are. In a long-term relationship where you live together, you'll probably spend most of your time doing household chores or watching TV …
2. Own Space
Everybody needs their own space, however small - but that's not so easy when you live with a partner. If you're used to independent living there can be a lot of annoying things about sharing your space. It's especially hard to adjust to living with someone if you're used to living alone; this often happens to older people who find a new relationship after divorce or separation.
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3. Different Strokes
Many people would be shocked at the thought of living apart from their partner - isn't that defeating the point of being in a relationship? But relationships are increasingly less traditional. If you secretly really like the idea of living in separate homes then it's an idea worth exploring. What's important is that your situation works for you both, not what anyone else expects.
4. Career
Sometimes you are forced to live apart for job reasons. But this can actually work to your advantage, as if you are happy in your job then you are going to be more content overall. But if you take a job that you're not keen on, you won't be as happy. If it's necessary to live apart for a time, it's not the end of your relationship - there are many ways to keep your love alive.
5. Less Annoyance
However much we love our partner, there are bound to be things about them that drive us insane. We only become aware of most of these once we start living with them. So living apart could be an advantage, because we won't be exposed to those annoyances as much!
6. Time for Yourself
Having time to yourself can really be quite enjoyable. So if you find yourself living apart when you'd rather live together, it's a chance to do lots of things that you enjoy, so make the most of the opportunity.
7. Less Mundane
However much you love someone, seeing their unwashed self in the morning and laundry on the floor is enough to kill the passion. Living apart means that you're less exposed to the mundane facets of a relationship. So it could be argued that living in separate homes will keep the magic alive longer!
Of course, this is not a cheap option; running two households is likely to be more expensive. It also needs to be something that you both want; if one of you secretly doesn't want to commit then it's a problem. But it can work very well. Would you rather have separate rooms - or separate houses?
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kissmebbylove: can't wait for this day to come for me. :)
Lian: I have my own place but I spend most of my time over at my boyfriend's. Been doing that for a few months now that it seems as if we are living together though I occasionally go over to my apartment. The whole idea of living together can work for some people I guess. Just like how it's working for us. We love doing things together and we do not bother each other when we are busy with work. In fact, I believe that living together has brought us closer.
Sab1: I luv having my own space so living apart would suit me perfectly
Slim: I lived with my bf for 2yrs and really didn't like it only because yes I felt too involved, not enough space, annoyed by him at times, and we did end up fighting a lot and eventually broke up...but when he moved out and came over every now and then to hang out now it's sooo much different we get along, we enjoy each other's company, and most of all we get excited spending time with each other knowing that we can live apart do our own thing and still have a really good relationship being together or not. So I do think living in separate homes can work with some people!!
Isabella: Haha thanks AK :) We just booked a holiday to Japan in October - 2 weeks of fun!!
AK: @isabella I enjoy reading your comments on various posts!
AK: I wouldnt like to live away from my man, but would love to share a home with him. Ldr's are hardwork!
Steffani521: I guess that could work out for the first few months or years until marriage.
Isabella: Been with my man for nearly 4 years and haven't lived with him yet, only visits on weekends and the occasional holiday together. Planning to move in together next year, cannot wait until that time comes, everything just feels easier and so much better :)
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