Although it might not seem like it all the time, there are many ways to get a guy to commit. You can’t be sneaky or sly, because that’s no way to build a long lasting relationship. All the same, there are many things you can do to get your man to commit to you, as long as those things are founded in love, respect, and honesty. To get an idea of what you can do to strengthen and prolong your relationship, check out the following ways to get a guy to commit to you!
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1. Avoid Exclusivity
Often, the best way to get a guy to commit is not to try too hard. Forcing him to be exclusive too soon can send him running fast in the other direction. Instead, many relationship experts say that it’s better to wait to be totally exclusive until the two of you are ready for a more permanent commitment. Making him feel like you’re pushing him toward marriage too soon, however, can really terrify a guy.
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Building on the concept of avoiding exclusivity, it's essential to embrace the journey of the relationship without fixating on the destination. Allowing things to evolve naturally can foster a deeper connection. Instead of focusing solely on labels and where the relationship is heading, concentrate on creating meaningful experiences together. These shared moments can lead to a stronger bond and may naturally progress into the commitment you're looking for. Remember, patience is key; the right person will be worth the wait, and genuine commitment cannot be rushed.
2. Don’t Try Too Hard
Trying too hard is never a good idea. To this end, you don’t want to act like a girlfriend. I know that sounds crazy, but the thing is that when you act like you’re just a girlfriend, that’s all you’re ever going to be – plus you’re pushing the exclusivity issue. If you’re fine with that kind of relationship, that’s great, but if you’re looking for a longer commitment, you have to act accordingly.
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Instead, keep things light and fun. Show him the spontaneous and carefree side of you that doesn't hinge every hope on locking down a future together. This doesn't mean you're not serious about the relationship, but it does mean you're giving it the space to grow organically. When he realizes you’re comfortable with taking things at a natural pace, he's more likely to feel at ease with the idea of commitment. Create a healthy balance – maintain your independence, while still being an open and engaging partner.
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3. Date around
As you can see, a lot of these issues come down to being exclusive. How will dating other men make him want to commit? For one thing, it will affect your attitude. You won’t feel the same kind of pressure that surrounds you when you’re solely focused on one guy. You’ll be able to see what’s out there, he will be too – and he may realize he doesn’t want you to be with anyone but him.
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By dating around, you're creating a sense of healthy competition. It's not about playing games, rather it's about giving yourself options and avoiding putting all your emotional eggs in one basket. This approach not only builds your confidence but also shows your guy that you're in demand and not waiting around for him. It propels him to think seriously about his feelings and whether he's ready to step up before someone else sweeps you off your feet. Remember, it's not about making him jealous but about valuing yourself enough to explore all possibilities.
4. Voice Your Wants
Letting him know what you want is an important way to get a guy to commit. He can’t read your mind; if he doesn’t know what you want, how can he give it to you? As well, letting him know that you want a long term relationship, that you want something casual, or that you’re looking to get married and have children, will make sure you’re both on the same page (or not) from the start.
5. Be Honest about Your Feelings
This is a little different from #4, but it’s in the same ballpark. You can’t get a guy to commit if you aren’t honest. Even if he commits at first, the relationship won’t be based on truth. Don’t lie and say you want something casual if you don’t, and don’t try to be a person you think he wants to make him give you a commitment.
6. Expose Your Vulnerabilities
Committing himself to just one woman requires a man to expose his vulnerable side, and that can be hard. In fact, that’s difficult no matter what your gender. You can help your guy by sharing your vulnerabilities as well, such as your fears and all your hopes for the future.
7. Be Receptive
You have to be willing to accept your man’s commitment. More importantly, you have to be receptive to his love for you. If you can’t receive or respond to his love, then he won’t feel comfortable making a commitment to you.
8. Don’t Push Labels
If the two of you are committed to one another, sometimes that has to be enough. Labels are often far more problematic than they’re actually worth. In line with not being his girlfriend, a good way to get a guy to commit to you is to let go of the labels. Just love each other and let it be.
9. Let Him Be Himself
Perhaps the most important way to get your man to commit to you is to let him be himself. Don’t force him into a pigeonhole. You have to accept him for who he is and he has to know that. If all you want to do is change him, then you’re better off with someone who already has the characteristics you want.
As you can see, there are lots of ways to get a guy to commit to your relationship. Being underhanded never works in the long run, but as long as you’re honest about your feelings and the things you want, you’ll be golden! How did you get the love of your life to make a commitment?
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I: do you have any specific advice about commitment minus the ring, see im only 15 but if i get a guy i don't want to feel like some puppet tied with strings. I want this guy to be with me, and not look "in the Market"..... Any advice?
Alex: hi, so three weeks ago this guy that i have been hooking up (everything aside from sex because i told him i don't have sex with guys that i am not exclusive with). we were outside and well this was basically the dialogue. me- don't go, come to this other party with me. him- i want to, but i have to say bye to my friend, she is leaving for a few weeks. me- common, stay. him- i'm not gonna kiss her or anything me- uhm...what? i just want you to stay. i don't care about that. him- wait, what? me- i don't care if you're hooking up with someone else him- why don't you care? me- because i kind of already figured you were him- well, i mean that's really smart that you'd just assume that, since you and i have been hooking up for so long, i wasn't gonna hook up with anyone else. me- oh okay, then i'll do that to. (btw the whole convo was a little more playful sounding with a couple kisses here and there) so basically, we ended the night exclusive and then i fucked it up because i tried to make sure it wasn't the alcohol talking when he said those things. i asked him about it and it ended up with him saying "well do you not want me to hook up with anyone else?" and me saying "it's up to you" and then me asking the question back and him saying "well i guess it's up to you too then" we haven't talked about being exclusive since...how do i figure out where we stand without making me seem needy and making him feel like he wants to ensure we're exclusive
skyliner114: Hi, can you tell me if there's a way I can be exclusive to one guy and have him do the same without making it seem forced? I am fully commited to him, and he says he's commited to me as well, but his actions prove otherwise. Is there something I could do or say that would make him want to be with me and just me?
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