Have you ever been dating a guy that’s been too shy to make his smooch-move? Or have you had a crush on a guy friend and wanted him to make the first move and kiss you? Whatever the circumstances, you’ve probably tried everything in your feminine wiles bag-of-tricks to get him to pucker up, but if nothing’s working, I can help! Here are 21 ways to get a guy to kiss you.
1. Get an Irresistible Pucker
Do everything in your power to get an irresistible pucker and your guy won’t be able to stop himself from kissing you! Start by exfoliating your lips with a warm, clean washcloth, rubbing gently to remove dry, chapped skin and make them pouty and pink. Then use a lip balm, but nothing sticky or glittery.
2. Get Him Alone
Your guy might be nervous about making his move in front of a group, so do what you can to get him alone! He might kiss you without any further encouragement if the two of you can be alone for a little while.
3. Get Him Close
Draw him close to you, not kissing-distance close, but physically close. Wear a perfume you know he likes. Lose your balance while walking on a curb and grab his hand. Ask him for help with an itch on your back… anything that will get him closer to you!
4. Make Him Pay Attention to Your Lips
Make him see your lips in a whole new light. Eat watermelon, and let it drip onto your lips. Apply a non-glittery lip balm, and let him see you do it. Pout a little. Use a lip plumper. Run an ice cube over your lips if it’s hot out. You get the idea!
5. Use a Ruse
If only there was some way to get him close to you, very close to you… why not make up an excuse, create a clever ruse, to get him within kissing distance? Suggestions: pretend you have something in your eye, ask him what color his eyes are, tell him you’re conducting an experiment to see how close you two can put your faces together before one of you blinks.
6. Make or Break Eye Contact
When he’s close to you, make, then break, eye contact. Drop your eyes demurely, and if you can manage it, blush a little. What guy can resist the flirty/shy eye contact signal?
7. Create a Little Tension
Make him dinner, or make a picnic lunch and feed him yourself. Tell him to close his eyes, and guess what treat’s coming next. Or, if you think he’s up for it, blindfold him to create a little tension. This is a sure-fire way to get a guy to kiss you! In fact, you’ll likely end up with more than just one little kiss!
8. Kiss HIM!
If all else fails, and your guy just doesn’t seem to be getting the hint (the subtle and not-so-subtle ones), why not make the move on him? Kiss him! He might have been waiting for you to make the first move!
9. Flirt with Him
If he isn't great at reading your body language, then you should give him some verbal hints. Try complimenting how strong his arms look or how talented he is at flipping channels on the TV. The more you can make him blush, the better.
10. Have Good Breath
The softness of your lips is crucial, but don't forget about managing the smell of your breath. Brush your teeth before you see him, and if you plan on eating dinner with him, bring along some gum or a mint to pop into your mouth after the meal. You don't want him to pull away, because of bad breath.
11. Establish Long Term Contact
Don't sit on opposite ends of the couch. Now is not the time to give him personal space. You want him as close to you as possible, so try to sit in a position where your thighs or shoulders will brush. If your limbs are touching the entire time you're watching a movie, he won't be able to stop thinking about touching you even more.
12. Ask Him about It
Playfully mention the idea of kissing him. When you check the time on the clock, say, "I thought you would've kissed me by now." Or when you see a make-out scene in a movie, tell him that you bet he's a better kisser than Channing Tatum is.
13. Talk Close
Lean in close while he's talking to you to show that you're listening. When you reply to him, start to trail off while you move even closer. It's the strongest hint that you can give. If he doesn't take the bait, then he's probably not interested.
14. Don't Appear Desperate
It's important to send him multiple signals that show you're interested, because some boys are bad at taking a hint. However, you never want to appear desperate. If you think that he's purposely not kissing you, because he doesn't like you, then don't try to convince him to think otherwise. There are plenty of other guys out there that would love to touch your lips.
15. Hold Hands
Be brave by taking his hand in yours. It's a clear sign that you're interested in him, but it's not as bold as going straight for a kiss. While your fingers are intertwined, there's no way he could be confused about how you feel.
16. Look at His Lips
You already know that you should try to get him to look at your lips, but you should also be looking at his lips. Glance down at them occasionally to show that you're interested in what they can do. Eventually, he'll understand.
17. Pretend You're Cold
If you're too shy to touch him first, pretend that you're cold. He'll either offer to turn up the heat in the house or will wrap an arm around you. Hopefully he does the latter, so you can rest your head on his shoulder and establish that it's okay to touch.
18. Linger on Hugs
When you're saying goodbye, make your hug count. Squeeze him hard and when you let go, keep your hands on his shoulders. You don't want to pull too far away, because he'll miss his chance to kiss you.
19. Keep Open Body Language
If you won't face him, how will he have the opportunity to kiss you? As nervous as you are, you have to stop yourself from crossing your arms and looking at the wall opposite him. You have to appear open to being touched, or he'll think that you want him to keep his hands off.
20. Don't Rush It
Don't expect him to kiss you as soon as he walks into your house. You shouldn't even expect a kiss on the first date. If you try to rush things, you might scare him away. Take things slow and they'll happen when they're meant to happen.
21. Stay Confident
It doesn't matter if he's responding well to your advances or completely ignore them--you have to remain confident. It's the most attractive quality a person could have, so don't get embarrassed. Stay smiling, and keep your calm.
These are just a few ideas to get you thinking… if none of these work, then use your imagination, get creative, and get him to kiss you! The one about the picnic tension almost always works for me… do you have another sneaky way to get a guy to kiss you? Please share!
This article was written in collaboration with Holly Riordan.