7 Amazing Ways to Get Closure after a Breakup. ...


Believe it or not, after a messy breakup there are plenty of ways to get closure. Many times throughout my life I have searched and searched for some way to feel normal again, and even just feel okay knowing that the meaningful relationship I was just in is completely over. It’s hard to expect this from your now ex, and you can’t really force it out of them if they want nothing to do with you. But at the end of the day, every relationship is different, and every person is different. So if you’re eagerly searching and needing some closure after a breakup, here are the ways to get closure.

1. Form a Friendship

Some people don’t believe me when I say this, but if the last 3 years of your love life only surrounded one person, and now all that is coming to a bitter end, one consideration is to stay friends. If you think about it I’m sure there are numerous people that you know who have managed to stay friends after breaking up and it’s probably one of the best ways to get closure. If you can’t think of any, here’s one couple I can think of: Elaine Benes and Jerry Seinfeld on Seinfeld remained best friends after breaking up. And although you can argue that Seinfeld is a fictional sitcom, the creators admitted to mirroring most episodes on their own life experiences. So there you have it, stay friends after breaking up and at least some closure may be achieved considering you will now have to work on building a healthy friendship instead of a toxic relationship.

Give It Time


This was published at the right time. I just broke up with my now ex boyfriend. I needed to read this. Thanks 😊
Michelle Coleman
And when it's your first love and been together for 23 yrs and have 2 kids one 21 and one 9 its very hard to just walk away and not see them and very hard when you spend that many years with somebody...
Getting back together might be an option, but it's not necessarily closure for a breakup. If you just get back together because of love and not because you actually worked through the reason for the breakup, not only is that a big problem, but it doesn't "close" the situation either.
All I know is that it definitely takes time.
I can vouch for the friendship route. My ex and I had a very civil break up with no animosity. We were together for 5 years and love each other like family. But we are not in love. Both of us are with new partners and get along great!
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