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21 Ways to Get Him to Chase You Instead of You Chasing Him ...

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21 Ways to Get Him to Chase You Instead of You Chasing Him ...
21 Ways to Get Him to Chase You Instead of You Chasing Him ...

Tired of doing all the chasing? It's time to turn the tables to have HIM chase you. You're the definition of cool so why wouldn't he?! If you're looking for ways to get him to chase you, here's how:

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1. Stop Doing the Chasing. Change Your Perspective on the Game

human action,person,human positions,leg,muscle, These tactics can be used at any point in a relationship, from the very beginnings to well into a marriage. If you want to change up the status quo and find ways to get him to chase you instead of you chasing him, it is totally doable. All you need to do is stop. Stop chasing him. There may a bit of a standstill before the tide turns but if he cares about you, rest assured that it will turn.

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Taking the first step back may feel a bit counterintuitive, but it's all about self-empowerment and owning your worth. If you’ve been the one putting in all the effort, it's time to lean back. Create some space for him to step forward. Confidence is attractive—remind yourself that you are worth chasing. This shift in dynamics isn't about playing games; it's about recognizing your value. When you do, he'll likely notice the change in the wind and start moving towards you. Remember, patience is key here; give him the chance to realize what he might be missing out on.

2. Show off a Pair of Killer Heels

High heels can help tremendously to make your body appear leaner, taller and quite often, thinner. Being taller will give you a larger presence physically, and therefore much more noticeable when you’re around them and thus more likely for them to decide to chase you. In this way you can use heels to your advantage; small additions like this are good for planting a seed in his mind to ultimately lead him to chase you!

Frequently asked questions

Girl, it's all about the balance. Give him just enough attention to show you're interested, but keep a little mystery. Go out with your friends, pursue your hobbies, and don't be too available. He'll start wondering about you and chase you to get closer.

Oh, trust me, guys are funny that way. When you stop chasing, you create space for him to miss you. He starts realizing what he's missing out on and that’s often enough to make him come running back!

Keep things exciting! Don't fall into a routine too quickly. Continue to be the intriguing and fun person he was attracted to initially. Plan surprise dates, keep some mystery, and always prioritize your own happiness too.

Stay calm and don't panic. Sometimes, guys need space to figure out their feelings. Give him some time and continue enjoying your life. If he's genuinely interested, he'll come back and chase you again.

Absolutely! Spice things up by changing your routine or doing something unexpected. Show him that you're still the fun, engaging person he fell for. A little bit of mystery and maintaining your independence can reignite his interest and make him chase you all over again.

3. Choose a Focal Point

If you’re around him a lot or you see him a lot, consider ways you can draw attention to certain areas in subtle ways. One way you can do this is to choose an area, such as your lips, and aim to find easy ways to draw attention to them. You might consider glossing them up for a luscious shine, or alternatively a matte red lipstick to secretly seduce him into attraction…then the chase begins!

4. Dress Strategically when It Comes to Colours

We all know how much men are attracted to the colour red, right? Well, knowing this piece of info can make it really helpful when it comes to knowing how to dress and what colours to wear around him. Wear the colour red as often as you can around him, as dressing in a bright, bold and vibrant colour is bound to get you noticed!

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Well, knowing this piece of info can make it really helpful when it comes to knowing how to dress and what colours to wear around him. Wear the colour red as often as you can around him, as dressing in a bright, bold, and vibrant colour is bound to get you noticed! Apart from red, consider other colours that complement your skin tone and highlight your best features. Try mixing and matching different shades and hues to keep things interesting and to express your unique personality. Remember, confidence is key, so wear what makes you feel fabulous!

5. Be Confident. Self Assurance is a Real Turn on

hair,clothing,black hair,blond,hairstyle, Your confidence is most likely the top personality trait that makes you attractive to your guy. There is something about a woman that is self-assured that men find irresistible. Being confident is something that you have to work at. Know who you are and know your worth. Make him work for the prize of you a little bit.

6. Play Hard to Get; a Little Bit of Mystery Can Go a Long Way

clothing,undergarment,underpants,lingerie,active undergarment, This is an old, old trick but it is still around because it works. You don’t want to be too easy of a prize to achieve. Don’t answer the phone on the first ring. Make him wait just a few minutes while you finish getting ready for a date. Most importantly, have standards and actually be hard to get. When you do this, you will be the one that ends up with the prize, a man of integrity.

7. Be Busy. Make Him Feel Special to Have Won Some of Your Time

clothing,leg,muscle,thigh,supermodel, This one is to be handled carefully. You don’t want to be too busy. However, you need to have a life and let him know that you do. Letting him be your whole world isn’t good for him or for you. This will only make you more attractive to him.

8. Have Patience ‘Cos Good Things Come to Those Who Wait!

hair,clothing,blond,human positions,leg, Nothing happens overnight. Like I said, there may be a bit of a standstill before the tide turns. Patience is a virtue, my friends! Give it some time and you'll have him crawling after you!

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Embrace the slow burn of anticipation, ladies! Remember, the most tantalizing tales are those that unfold delicately, petal by petal. Cultivating an air of mystery and playing the long game not only ups the ante but also gives you the time to shine in your own right. Keep busy, stay fabulous, and let the universe do its magic. Before you know it, he'll be drawn to your self-assured glow, wondering how to become a part of your world. Stay confident and hold course - your patience will pay off in the end!

9. Be Mysterious. That Unknown Quality Will Keep Him Coming Back for More

hair,clothing,girl,lady,beauty, This ties in with #7 (Be Busy). Be coy about how you're spending all your free time - let him wonder! If he's curious, he'll start paying more attention to you. Unpredictability is exciting and you'll have him going out of his way to chase you!

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Maintaining an air of mystery doesn't mean you should be dismissive or secretive to the point of discomfort. Simply choose not to disclose every detail about your life. Have your own passions and hobbies, and let him be intrigued by the layers of your personality. The more he has to uncover, the more enchanted he'll become. Remember, being an open book can sometimes close the chapter on attraction too quickly, while a little bit of enigma wraps your story in allure.

10. Claim Your Own Life; Be in Control and Good Things Will Follow

clothing,dress,photography,beauty,long hair, While you're waiting for things to change, take control of your own life. Now that you have so much free time, take up a new hobby! Start going out with your friends and just enjoy your life! Put YOU first!

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Embrace the opportunity to redefine who you are. Whether it's picking up a paintbrush, strumming a guitar, or enrolling in a dance class, let your passions lead the way. Nights out with the gang should be filled with laughter and memories—make them count! When you radiate happiness and a zest for life, you become irresistible. Pour love into yourself, and the rest will follow; life's too short for anything less than fabulous!

11. Keep a Record of How It’s Going

If you’re serious about finding ways to get him to chase you, it might be a good idea to track your progress over the given time. This will remind you of how it’s going and what you’ve tried so far. Additionally, it might also be a good idea to have somewhere to brainstorm ideas.

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Having a journal or a dedicated section on your phone can be helpful in keeping a record. Documenting your journey will allow you to reflect on what's working and what isn't. You'll see patterns in his behavior, helping you to adjust your approach as needed. Additionally, brainstorming and noting down new ideas will keep things fresh and prevent you from falling into a routine. To keep things organized, consider using bullet points or a checklist format. Tracking your progress can also serve as a source of motivation, reminding you of how far you've come and what strategies have been effective.

12. Find Happiness in All Other Areas of Your Life First

face,facial expression,hair,nose,person, The more content you are as a human being, the more likely it is that you will start to give off a confident, sexy vibe that is irresistible to the opposite sex. If you seem like a content and satisfied person in the inside and the outside, he will start to chase after you because he’ll be attracted by your self-assuredness.

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The more content you are as a human being, the more likely it is that you will start to give off a confident, sexy vibe that is irresistible to the opposite sex. If you seem like a content and satisfied person in the inside and the outside, he will start to chase after you because he’ll be attracted by your self-assuredness. Nurture your passions, engage in activities that bring you joy, and cultivate strong relationships with friends and family. When you focus on your own happiness, you become more magnetic, naturally drawing him towards you without even trying.

13. Don’t Be Afraid to Be Sexy. Own Your Body and Your Confidence

clothing,image,blue,footwear,beauty, Being a sexy woman does not necessarily have to mean wearing skimpy outfits and flaunting your body, it can mean more of a subtle inner confidence and the fact that you are well aware of your self-worth. Having this sexy quality will certainly start to bring all the boys to the yard!

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Being a sexy woman does not necessarily have to mean wearing skimpy outfits and flaunting your body, it can mean more of a subtle inner confidence and the fact that you are well aware of your self-worth. Having this sexy quality will certainly start to bring all the boys to the yard! Confidence radiates from within. Embrace your body and your unique features. Dress in a way that makes you feel comfortable and chic. Confidence is incredibly appealing, and your comfort in your own skin will naturally attract attention. Let your inner glow be your most attractive feature.

14. Give Him a Glimpse of the Competition

photograph,clothing,blue,image,footwear, Make him see that it is not going to be a simple task to win your affections. Show him that you are a lady in demand and that he is going to have to do something pretty special to win you over. That is when the true chasing can begin!

15. Don’t Be a Drama Queen. Most Guys Can’t Handle That

face,hair,person,woman,lady, A sure fire way to send him running is being too much of a drama queen. Most guys just do not want that level of stress in their lives. Show him that you are a cool, chilled out girl and he might start to make more of an effort in terms of trying to catch your attention and start something moving.

16. Show That You Are Willing to Leave Your Comfort Zone

car,vehicle,automotive exterior,sports car,luxury vehicle, He will be more inclined to engage in the chase if he feels like you might be willing to embrace some of his interests and passions along with your own. Make yourself open to going to the ball game with him, go and see a movie that he wants to see. Things little things can make a big difference.

17. Be More Emotionally Independent

Even though guys like to chase, they tend to stay away from girls who have a tendency to depend on other people and lack their own independence in this way. What guys find really attractive in a woman, though, is someone who isn’t out to control him or anyone else.

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Being emotionally independent doesn't mean you never need support; it's about having a solid sense of self and the confidence to handle life's challenges. A woman who can manage her emotions exudes a magnetic energy that is irresistible because she's not looking for a man to fix her problems—she's looking for a partner to share in her journey. When you're emotionally self-sufficient, you allow the space for a healthy, balanced relationship where both partners can flourish without feeling overwhelmed by the emotional needs of the other.

18. Be Relaxed about It; Stressing Does You No Good

clothing,dress,sleeve,gown,cocktail dress, In fact, it can work in the opposite way. Being anxious about making a guy chase you can look slightly neurotic from the outside, so just be as chilled as possible and you will find that he takes a liking to your laid back attitude.

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Remember, stress is not attractive – it emits desperation and can push someone away rather than draw them in. Take deep breaths, engage in hobbies and activities that make you happy, and maintain your usual routine. By focusing on creating a positive and fulfilling life for yourself, you inherently become more desirable. Confidence and self-assuredness are key; these qualities are inherently attractive and can pique a man's interest. Show him that your happiness is not dependent on his actions, but rather a result of your own inner peace and satisfaction.

19. Be Slightly Less Attentive. He Will Miss It!

person,clothing,human positions,sitting,black hair, Take a step back and stop being so attentive to him, he will definitely start to miss the attention and will try to think of ways to be proactive in winning back your main affections. After all, all guys want it somebody to love them!

20. Always Keep Him Wanting More

human action,person,man,male,muscle, Until you have fully sealed the deal, some mischievous fun can be had in holding a little of yourself back until his goes into full on chase mode. This could be physical or it could be more emotional, but he will eventually want to experience every single aspect of you.

21. Know when Enough is Enough

Let’s be honest, you might have tried all of the tactics from above but it still might not have worked in your favour. In other words, he still might not be interested in chasing you. This is a good time to know when to stop trying, cut your losses and move on! Trying to get someone to chase you can be exhausting as a lot of time, effort and energy often goes into trying to encourage someone else to ultimately do something that you want.

There are definite ways you can get him to chase you. What tricks have you used to achieve this? I can’t wait to read your comments!

This article was written in collaboration with editor Neecey Beresford and Lucy Mansell.

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Amen! Great article

I've been seeing this guy for about 5 months and at the start he did all the chasing, but for a few weeks it's been all me.. Need to try this!

My boyfriend and I have been friends for 15 years and we have been dating 4 months. We recently went through a rough time. He asked me to move in and then panicked/got cold feet and wound up breaking up with me. He has never had a serious relationship before (30 years old). We talked and decided to stay together and start over.. from the beginning. However, I have only seen him once in the past 3 weeks (he lives an hour away) and I usually spend every weekend with him. I used to get "good morning beautiful" and "goodnight sweet heart" and "I love you so much".... now.... He seems to only text me if I text him first. Forget "I love you" or waking up to "good morning". I wont hear from him for a while... yet I see on my instagram feed that he is on his phone following half naked girls and liking their photos etc... I feel like if he has time to do that.. he has time to respond or say something to me. How often do normal people talk to their significant others? It is hard on me mostly bc I am used to feeling loved and missed and wanted. I feel like, starting from the beginning would mean starting fresh .. in the beginning we talked and he wanted to see me.. this feels more like im still hanging on the edge at the end of our relationship. Does he just need space? I feel like a loser when I text first all the time. When I don't text for a while and he still doesn't text me.. I fear he just never will and we will be over. The last time I went 2 days without texting he happened to break up with me when I did finally text. What is normal? How do I get him to miss me and want to talk to me? (((without looking desperate, needy, or clingy)))

My boyfriend of almost 2 months seems overly secure with me. He isn't like any other man I've dated before. We are also a long distance relationship. He constantly shows that he cares about me, but at the same time he seems careless about what I do or who I'm with. I feel like maybe he's too comfortable, way too soon. What should I do? It seems too weird for a guy to be this secure so soon lol

Haha i need help. I met this guy and we have been talking for weeks. We finally had the chance to hang out and we had fun and he says he really likes me and as soon as i left he said make sure you text me tomorrow :) I didn't and so he texted me . We have made plans and when i texted to confirm he said he didn't think he would be able to because he needed to go to church with his aunt and uncle. I send him texts and it says he's read them and so now i think i need to pull back. Should I just wait for him to come to me. He texts me back like 4 hours later and says he misses me but I'm just really confused. haha any helP ? #suggestion

Anyone understand with how long you need to pull back? should I wait until he wants to talk to me or should I wait a really long time like a month and talk to him?

how many days should i dont reply to my boyfriend mesage?

Wonderful tricks..! I have used one out of these sometime back on my boyfriend. I stopped calling him or pinging him, It only required a day and he called me back saying that he is missing me a lot n wants to meet.. :) Ohh we gals.. What all we do..

And find someone that does treat you the way you deserve