5. Be Unavailable

When a guy asks you to hang out, tell him you have plans.

Be too busy to hang with him more often than not.

Let him realize other people want you around them, and you aren't at his beck and call.

You just became ten times more appealing to him because you now are a chase, wanted by others, and making him feel and be unimportant.

Have the ball in your court when it comes to making plans.

Go ahead and even ignore his texts.

You can respond in a few days when you are ready to go out with him.

Make sure to not come off prissy and throw it in his face that so and so wants to hang out.

It's not attractive.

Remember, you are a woman of mystery!

It gives the guy a chance to realize how much he enjoys your company when you aren't there to give it to him all the time.

Be the Cool Girl


Heather Jensen
Exactly! I completely agree Lana!
Heather Jensen
Hi Ashleigh! Sometimes, you gotta play hard to get just to ensure that the guy stays interested. I don't think you necessarily have to give him the cold shoulder all the time, but sometimes can be good!
Heather Jensen
Hi Ariana! I think that texting a guy first is okay! That way, you can get the conversation started!
Heather Jensen
Agreed! :) Thank you for the comment April!
April Anderson
Men are hunters! If you laid a dead deer at their door it wouldn't be exciting! So yes play a little hard to get! I met a guy that I texted all the time . One day I stopped and within a week he was blowing my phone up saying he realized how much he had missed me and he liked me
This sounds like kinda bad advice, no offense. If you're trying to get out of the friend zone with a guy (or girl) and you keep purposefully making yourself unavailable when time doesn't preset itself and keep giving them the cold shoulder, they're just going to be turned off by that. I'm not saying wait outside their house every night blasting "bleeding love" by Leona Lewis (or sitting by the phone if you're not an extremist kind of person) but when the opportunity actually presents itself, take it! Don't be stupid and play coy.
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