Finding ways to get over your first love can be difficult. They say no matter how it ends, a woman never forgets her first love. The best thing to do is follow your heart. There is no love like your first, so give yourself time and fate will soon take it’s course. If you’re having trouble finding your way, here are 7 ways to get over your first love.
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1. Take Time to Cry
When finding ways to get over your first love, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with crying. In fact, it’s only natural. Bottling up your emotions wont be good later, so letting it all out as much as possible now is most effective. Whether it’s crying alone in your room or to a close friend, in the end, you’re guaranteed to feel much better. Crying will help release any sadness, anger, or confusion you might have.
2. Vent to a Friend
As weak as you feel right now, letting it all out is one of the best options. Talking to a close friend or family member about your first love will most definitely help you feel better. Having a friend by your side at an emotional time like this is what you need the most. Knowing someone will take your pain and carry it along with them should make you feel more confident and give you faith that things will get better.
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3. Dispose of All Evidence
When I say dispose of all evidence, I mean it. Having reminders scattered around about your first love will never help you get over them. Go through all of the letters he gave you, sweaters he’s lent you, gifts he’s gotten you, and get rid of them all. Also, don’t forget to delete all text messages and pictures you have saved on your phone. This may be hard, but eventually you’ll forget about these things and move on.
4. Cut off Communications
When trying to get over your first love, a common question that always arises eventually is "Should I call him?" No, you shouldn’t. You’re only setting yourself up for disappointment in the end. If need be, he’ll call you. Delete his number. Delete all of his voice mails, text messages and past phone calls. Any evidence that he has ever called you should be gone. You may be at the point where you’re just itching to call him however, doing so will only make you feel worse, and getting over him will be much harder. If it’s meant to be, he’ll call you first. Meanwhile, forget he ever existed.
5. Take It as a Lesson
This was your first love and I assume your first heartbreak. Turn the pain into a lesson. Take time to look back and reflect on the things you’ve done wrong/right. Learn from your mistakes, and even learn from his. Think about what you two could’ve done better to keep the relationship going. Keep these things in mind next time and eventually things will get easier and true love will fall into place naturally.
6. Focus on Yourself
After a breakup, focusing on simple every day tasks can be tough. Although you’ve taken plenty of time to sulk in sadness, you can still pick yourself right back up. Now that you’re alone, take some time to focus on yourself, and what you want to do. It’s all about you now. Strive for something you’ve been wanting for a while, or try doing something you’ve always wanted to do. It’s your chance to shine.
7. Remember, This Isn’t the End
This isn’t your last love, or even your last heartbreak. There are plenty of guys in the world who you’ll fall in love with, and many who you’ll even fall out of love with. There are plenty of people whose paths you just haven’t even come close to crossing yet. Don’t lose hope. One guy should not be responsible for controlling all of your emotions for the rest of your life. One day, you’ll meet the one guy who made you realize why it never worked with anyone else. You just need to be patient.
Getting over a first love is one of the hardest things a girl can do. There are plenty of more ways to get over your first love then the 7 I’ve listed above. Can you think of any more? What did you do to get over your first love? The most important thing to keep in mind is to keep your head held high. Love yourself before anyone else.
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Cee: It took me 3 years to get over my first love completely as we still saw each other regularly (university) but now I'm free and able to love the new man in my life. It's really important to learn how to love yourself and not dwell on lost love and emerge yourself in your career n friendships
Lola: I hate thinking about my first love and the good memories we had😔 We were on and off and the last time we dated lasted a year and a half. Most of my friends didn't like him and they would tell me I could do a lot better but I didn't listen to them, I kept telling them he's a good guy but later he cheated on me with a girl that has a kid. He would tell me it was my fault he cheated and I kept believing that it was😞 I got over him by going to the gym a lot and thinking how gross he was and then two months ago I apologized to him about being bi polar when we were together and then we were talking like friends and he made me think that he missed me and he came by my place and we hooked up:/ biggest mistake😣 I felt like he used me big time and I was naive once again😒
Sara: The only way is by ring lucky of having another true love
Alejandra: My sad story started three years ago. I went to a new school and my lifetime friend introduced me to his best friend, whom he had been talking about all the time for months. I didn't really care about this guy but since I knew no one else there I spent most of the time with them and my brother who became friends with him too and I started feeling a slight attraction to him. On November 2011 I went to get my brother on a pool party and he was there. He grabbed me and threw me into the pool. As soon as I was in the water I saw him with two other girls, one by each side. I was so jealous I wanted to kill them. That day I knew I was in love with him. On February 11, 2012 he called my mom's phone asking for me. I almost had a heart attack. I grabbed the phone and he said: "I have no time for you in my life" and started laughing with some friends. I wanted to cry so bad but my mom was there so I just hung up. I was getting home and BOOM! The tire exploded... I was so anxious I was about to explode too. As soon as I got home he called again saying he was sorry and that I was sexy and stuff and I was just so mad I told him I didn't want to talk to him... I didn't know what to do, I was just 15. The next day my lifetime friend got mad over the situation and told him I had a crush on him. That day at a party he was flirting with me a lot and he even tried to kiss me a couple of times but he was drunk and I didn't let him. After that he started ignoring me in school. He acted like he didn't know me at all and my friend and my brother kind of like broke up with him. I felt so guilty for ruining their friendship... That kept going on for some time. He flirted, I flirted and then we drifted apart for a couple of moths. Somehow every day I loved him more. On January 2013 I had the courage to express myself to him and I told him by chat that the next day I needed to talk to him in school. He accepted and the next day I saw him cuddled with another girl and told myself I needed to get over him and not talk to him so I didn't. I got home and locked myself in my room to cry for hours. The next day I was convinced in avoiding him, so I waited for everyone to go to class for going to my locker. Suddenly he appeared. He grabbed my hair and got really close and said he needed to talk to me. We talked for an hour or so before his grandma came pick him up and hit him in the butt (literally) , hahaha. He said we had to go out and he liked me back, but what made me fall for him the most was that he described the day we met. He remembered every detail. I spent the whole weekend next to my cellphone waiting for a call, a text, something... But he didn't. I was devastated. After that, we went back to the flirting and ignoring stage. Honestly I had lots of boys wanting me and I seriously don't mean to be presuming or anything :/. I wanted none of them. They were good, cute, sexy, brilliant, and at least I can say one of them really loved me and was willing to deal with my heartbreak, but the only one on my mind and soul was the one who had my heart going like a roller coaster. On November 2013, he started talking to me out of nowhere. He even sent me snaps of him taking a bath and making hairstyles with shampoo xD. I asked him out to a movie night my class had planned and he said yes. He got there early and waited for me alone on a corner and as soon as I got there we talked a lot and he sat next to me. While everybody was watching the movie we were lying on the grass looking at the stars (I know, it sounds like a movie! But its not :/) i had the best night ever (nothing sexual) and he texted me as soon as I left. I felt he cared about me. Then, everything started fading away again. Again we went back to flirting and ignoring. On March 2014 I went to the beach with some friends and someone told me he was going to be there so I kept waiting for him. After some hours I knew he was not coming so I went in the water and this other guy came. I have always been attracted to this other guy but never liked him or anything. We were alone together at the beach for hours. We talked a lot and even sat on the sand to see the sunset. I started to feel something for him. A friend told me he has had a crush on me for some months and lately we are starting to become a couple. He treats me like a princess and we have an awful lot of things in common, but mostly, I feel he likes me for who I really am. After all, I can't seem to get over the guy I once loved. Now that he sees me with him he won't talk to either one of us and they were friends. He tweeted: "the girl whom I fell in love with doesn't care about me now" "that girl stole my heart". I seriously don't think Im that girl, but what if I am? The worst part of this is Im graduating this summer and I probable won't get see any of them ever again. I don't think I will ever love someone as much as I love him. What I feel about him is so pure. I think I should talk to him before I go and confess everything but I don't want to hurt the other guy. Do you think I'm that girl? What should I do? If you dared to read this incredibly long story I just wrote please answer. I'm desperate... :,(
Mwhitealright: In all honesty, cutting off all ties may not be the best advice. Refraining from contacting him or her initially is a good idea so that things have time to cool down, but to burn that bridge may not be as healthy as you think.
Boss: Does any have advice on how to get over two heartbreaks that happened around the same time. It's kinda of hard to express my situation. But I was involved with two guys one was my boyf and the other one we were friends w/benefits .& that's the one I was in love with. Long story short he broke my heart and the other guy betrayed me && also broke my heart. I've been nothing but stressed out ! Any advice on how I can get over these losers
Serenity: Cutting all ties is so important. One look or listen to my ex's voice brings back floods of emotions. It makes it harder to let go
Piccolina: Wanda I agree you will never be able to move on with you life if you are still holding on to an ex . It's healthier.
Alina: It's quite impossible to be real friends with someone you dated, at least at the beginning. Frankly, you won't like hearing about his new relationships,especially when it takes you longer to date somebody. Hard as it can be, it's much healthier to move on and focus on a different thing meanwhile. Sometimes the best achievements in your life are made while you are single and focusing totally on your goal
Sophia: Wow... I would absolutely love to just cut all ties and get on with my life! More than anything. But I feel like I'm going to be the one losing out even though he betrayed me so badly and disrespected me, and never prioritized me the way I did to him. I wish I could say this is normal.. But I don't even know what to think lately.. He comes to me with the 'it's Gods will' but I still want to be your friend and maybe we will cross paths again.. I just cannot understand! help!!
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