In a relationship there are plenty of rough patches that you have to deal with. A relationship is a roller coaster of emotions most of the time. Sometimes, you are up and sometimes there is a rough patch in a relationship. Learning how to deal with those rough patches is what will make your relationship stronger and will make the two of you closer. If you are going through a rough patch in your relationship and are looking for ways to mend it, I've got them below!
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1. Identify the Problems
The very first step that you need to take when you are trying to work through a rough patch in a relationship is identify all of the problems in your relationship. What is the core problem? What do you think is causing the rough patch? Are you both having the same problems? Once you learn how to identify the problems, you'll be able to work through them together and become stronger because of it.
2. Analyze the Problems
Analyzing the problems can be really difficult, especially if you are bull-headed like me. I don't like problems, I'll admit it. I want things to be smooth sailing all of the time and I hate ups and downs. That is one rough patch that I am constantly learning how to deal with in my relationship. Learning to analyze the problems with your partner though can really make your bond that much stronger and better.
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3. Communicate with Your Partner
Talk to each other girls! You want your relationship be able to work through a rough patch? You've got to talk it all out and you've got to make sure that you can conquer any problems you are facing. Rough patches happen and just because you are constantly fighting with your partner doesn't mean you hate one another – it just means you don't know how to communicate very well.
4. Learn to Forgive
The fighting is hard to get through, but learning to forgive one another is harder. You want to forgive each other because of all of the fights and everything that you said in the fights. Truthfully, it's hard to swallow your pride and just admit that you were going through something or that you've lost your communication skills, but learning to forgive your partner and him forgiving you is definitely one way to get through a rough path in a relationship
5. Don't Blame Yourself
Like I said girls, rough patches happen all of the time. It's nobody's fault, they just happen. I have a rough patch in my relationship at least twice or three times a year. You are constantly around one another, you are constantly in each others space and lives, it's hard to deal with that and not go through a rough patch.
6. Seek a Support Group
When you are going through a tough time in your relationship, you want to make sure that you are seeking your friends, your family and even another support group of some kind. You want to find people that you can run to and talk to when things aren't good – people that understand you don't want to break up, that you just need to vent.
7. Do You Want the Relationship?
Unless, you actually don't want the relationship. Have you asked yourself that? I know it's a scary question to consider, but do you actually want to continue being in your relationship? Do you want to be with him? It's something to think about girls, something to consider.
8. Know when to Leave
Finally, know when to leave. You've got to make sure that you prepare yourself for the worst and knowing when to leave is the worst. If you aren't happy with your boyfriend, why should you stay? It might be more than just a rough patch that you are going through.
Rough patches in a relationship is never easy to go through, but they are necessary. Remember girls, consider your options, think about the fact that you might not want a boyfriend. What other tips do you have for getting through a rough patch? Share!
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Gail: I have read several of your articles and I enjoy all of them. I am currently having some issues at home and do truly want to make it work but don't know if he does and even what to do. I know we have major communication issues and with being a blended family, have those issues as well. Do you have advice on relationships that have substance abuse in them and how to help or what to do? As you can see there are many obstacles but as a christian women I believe that God put me with him for a reason I just need help seeing what to do next. Thank you for being a place to communicate and to share
Dominika: I love your love advices! I have a weird situation now and i would like to ask you for maybe writing a post about it. Well, I'm in high school and i had a boyfriend. He's guardians told him not to date me or they won't let him graduate this year. They are really strict to him and mean. So we broke up but we are somewhere between dating and being friends. I want to move on (or start to) but it's hard because we both don't really know where we stand right now. It's really tiring. Can you write some advices for those kind of situations? I can't be the only one with this problem...
Chametris: My boyfriend cheated on me a couple of months ago and I was devastated. I wanted to hate him, but I honestly couldn't. We were broken up for a month, and one day I decided to call him because I just couldn't take being away from him anymore. We talked everything out and he still apologizes about what he did till this day. We're very happy now and I love him so much. I guess it takes going through hard times to know how much you truly love someone.
Haley: Hi Heather! I LOVE all the articles you write! I have a request. Will you write more articles about love geared towards teenagers like myself?
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