Having unreciprocated feelings is painful enough, but it's even worse when your crush has no idea that you exist. Of course, it's easy to change that. All you have to do is be a little courageous to let him know you're alive. Here are a few simple things to do to make your crush notice you:
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1. Be around Him as Much as Possible
This doesn't mean that you should stalk him. You don't want to scare him away by following him home or signing up for all the same classes as him. However, if you know he's in an extracurricular activity that you're interested in, you should join. If you know you share a common friend, see if she'll agree to hang out with both of you at the same time. That way, he'll get used to seeing your face and will finally realize you exist.
2. Walk up to Him and Say Hello
Sometimes, the simplest answer is the right one. You don't have to ask him out the first time you speak. You can just ask him his opinion on the food in the cafeteria or say something cliche about the weather. Sure, it's boring, but at least it will get you two talking.
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It's tough when your crush doesn't know you exist, but don't lose hope! Try to create opportunities to be around them more — join the same clubs, attend the same events, or just casually be in the same places. Be confident and approachable.
Getting noticed by your crush isn't about making grand gestures. Start with small interactions — smile, say hello, or compliment them. Show genuine interest in what they say and who they are.
If your crush never says your name, it might be a sign they haven't noticed you yet. Try introducing yourself in a casual way or asking them a question. Getting familiar is the first step!
Absolutely! Instead of stalking their social media, try talking to mutual friends to learn more about their interests and activities. This can help you find common grounds to connect over.
Just be yourself! Authenticity is attractive. Show your crush the real you, be kind, funny, and considerate. Over time, they'll see the amazing person you are.
3. Don't Be like Everybody else
If you see your crush hanging out with a group of girls who all dress a certain way, you might decide to dress that way to capture his attention. However, if you look like a clone of all the other girls in the world, he'll never notice you. But if you dress the way you like, a way that no one else dares to dress, then he'll definitely notice you. Uniqueness stands out.
4. Smile at Him when You Make Eye Contact
It doesn't matter if you've already worked up the courage to say hello to him or if you've never spoken before--you should smile! Think about it. You'll make eye contact with a stranger dozens of times per day. When they don't react to it, you won't remember them. But when a stranger smiles them, you won't forget their kindness. So smile at your crush the next time he looks your way!
5. Speak up in Classes He's in with You
If you have a class together, raise your hand more often when the teacher asks a question. If you work together, socialize with your coworkers more. That way, he'll actually hear your voice and will start to pay more attention to you. If you're quiet, it's easier for him to pass you by.
6. Throw a Party and Invite Him
If you work with your crush, throw a get together and invite everyone from the office. If he shows up, he'll have to say hello to the hostess, and then you two can get to know each other.
7. Add Him on Social Media Sites
Your crush might not know your name, but will recognize your face. In that case, you can add him on a social media site. He'll recognize you by your profile picture, and he can look at your name and information in order to learn more about you. It's a simple way to get his attention when you're too shy to approach him during the day.
If you test out all of these tips and your crush still doesn't seem interested, forget about him. You deserve someone who realizes just how awesome you are! What tips do you have for making a guy notice you exist?
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Kat: Hi ! My name is Kat, and I love a cute boy in the 9th grade. He's new this year and has a small group of friends. I'm only in the 8th grade and I try to capture his attention, and it never works. He's always on his phone! I told him I liked his shirt, he kinda smiled and said, "Thank you!" And went back to his phone. I don't think he knows I exist anymore. What should I do?
Becca: But see, I don't talk. I have like 0 confidence, and I'm too awkward to just go up and say Hi. Yeah. I'm screwed.
Beryl: Turn your back on him. Likely that he will be intrigued as to what your face looks like !
Nicky: In my case my crush knows my name, but I think he might be married. I'm not really sure because he never told me. It's been three years already and I still can't get over him. Everytime I see him he brings a smile to my face. I saw him yesterday again after a long time and I couldn't stop looking at him. What can I do to get over him?????
Sassy121: @nicky three years is a long time. You are probably right he is married. Best advice I can give you is write a letter or e-mail and pour all what you wanted to say him. Don't send it to him just keep it somewhere safe and read it when you start thinking about him.
Kendall: My crush swims on my team, and at first, I don't think he knew my name. But then my coach kept on saying, "Good job, Kendall! Josh, she's 11 and she's beating you!" which made it clear who I am
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