Why? Just why do we do it? Why do many women end up dating someone who is really not worth the time and effort and certainly not worthy of us? We are beautiful, we are strong, we deserve love and respect yet we too often settle for the toilet pan of manhood. Why?
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1. They’re Not ‘Boring’
One of the reasons women are attracted to complete jerks is that on the outset they don’t appear to be boring. Sure, it might absolutely be the case that they are not boring, but what a person starts to realize as they grow and mature is that there are plenty of things in a person that are much worse than being boring, and being a complete jerk with your actions in definitely one of them.
2. They Are Confident
Another of the reasons women are attracted to assholes is that men who are assholes are generally quite confident in their behavior and their actions. It is easy to imagine that a person with lots of confidence might seem like an attractive prospect on initial meeting, but you need to be careful because confidence can very quickly turn in to arrogance, which definitely turns a person into an asshole!
Frequently asked questions
You might be drawn to their confidence and excitement. Sometimes, the bad boy vibe can seem more thrilling compared to someone who's more predictable and safe.
It's not uncommon! Bad boys often have a rebellious streak and charisma that can be quite appealing. They push boundaries, which might seem exciting, especially if you're craving adventure.
Absolutely, many people experience this. It can be about wanting to 'fix' them, the allure of their confidence, or even just the thrill of the chase.
Sometimes, yes. It's good to reflect on why you're attracted to someone who isn't treating you well. It could be linked to self-esteem, past experiences, or wanting a challenge.
First, recognize your pattern and understand what you're looking for in a partner. Try focusing on self-love and setting boundaries. It helps to connect with people who treat you with respect and kindness.
3. They Dream Big
One of the key character traits of an asshole is that they tend to dream big. Of course, there is nothing wrong with having a big dream, but the dream will always be held back by the inherent jerk qualities such as not being motivated or serious enough to actually go out and achieve the dream through honest hard work. Big dreams can be attractive, but a lack of conviction in achieving them is a turn off.
4. They Can Be Brave
Sure, somebody who is an asshole can definitely have a brave quality to them, but this bravery often stems from a desire to be the centre of attention rather than a care for helping or standing up for people in need. There is a fine line between being brave and being a show off, and I know plenty of assholes that are complete show offs!
5. They Are Selfish
In the early stages of dating, it can sometimes be quite nice when the guy takes charge are makes decisions for date locations and dinner restaurants. It can feel like he is being assertive and confident in what he wants to do with you. However, this assertiveness can very quickly turn to downright selfishness when you start to realize that he makes all of the decision because he only wants to do things that he likes or that interest him.
6. Do You Have Low Self Respect?
It is a sad fact, but across the world many women end up in relationships with complete jerks because they don’t have enough self worth to demand better. If you have a low opinion of yourself and no self-confidence, you are not going to find yourself in a relationship of equal standing, and this sort of environment is prime for an absolute asshole to get his feet in the door and under your covers.
7. Historical Issues
I hate to refer to them as ‘daddy issues’, but sometimes a woman can have negative relationships with male figures growing up which can then transfer in to their romantic attachments as they get older. They all say that we marry a man just like our father, but if our father was an asshole, where does that leave us?
The reasons we are attracted to assholes are sad and harsh but knowing them I hope will help more women realize they deserve better. There will always be assholes but we don’t have to date them! Do we?
Comments
Bunny: The title made me collapse with laughter :-D
shanianawaz: This was the story of my love life until I woke up and smelt the coffee. Now I have a nice guy.
TorriWyatt: Luckily there is a magic word that all girls have the right to use to get rid of assholes. The word is. NO
Stephanie: I think the last one is very true....
Wendy: Don't be stupid and date an asshole! No! Be smart and date a good man. There is plenty.
Bunny: Ashole are no better than insects loool ! Actually I do respect bees and ants they are hard workers😂😂
Rathod: @Michelle Atchison hello
Mai: it's much better to have someone stable and down to earth etc
TorriWyatt: Assholes get a date because they are too thick-skinned and arrogant to understand your polite refusal. They keep trying, and some girls are impressed by their persistence.
Sarah: I think that maybe they feel good about themselves if they're able to impress jerks.
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