Being comfortable in your relationship is something that is so, so good – but how can you tell when you are too comfortable in your relationship? How can you tell when the manners have gone out the window and when your partner knows that you aren't going anywhere – no matter what? I've got the top ways to tell that you and him or her are too comfortable in your relationship and you may need to spice things up a little bit!
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1. You Miss the Quiet Time to Yourself
Being too comfortable in your relationship is not necessarily a bad thing, but do you find yourself missing the quiet time to yourself? This is something that can actually cause a lot of resentment in a relationship. If you need some alone time, tell your partner. I am sure that they won't mind if you take off for a few hours, as long as they know where you are going.
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Alone time is essential for personal growth and self-reflection. It allows you to recharge and maintain your individuality within the confines of a partnership. When the lines between 'me time' and 'us time' become blurred, it's crucial to set boundaries. Be clear about your needs without feeling guilty. Taking a step back to indulge in a hobby, read a book, or simply enjoy the silence, contributes to a healthier, well-balanced relationship. Remember, it’s perfectly fine to carve out space for solitude; your relationship will likely benefit from the refreshed perspective you each bring after a little time apart.
2. You Both Go to the Bathroom with the Door Open
This is something that is personal to each and every couple, but if you are super comfortable in your relationship, most of the time you don't keep any doors closed, even the bathroom door. While you might need some privacy for some things in the bathroom, a lot of the time, if you are comfortable with your partner, the bathroom doorway is a conversation place versus a barrier.
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3. There Are No Real Manners Anymore
While not all manners go out the window when you are comfortable in a relationship, there are a lot of them that do. Like the not eating messy food? The constant 'politeness'? Those are things that fall away as you show your true colors and if your partner still loves you? That's perfect!
4. The Housework is Assumed Not Split
When it comes to being comfortable in your relationship, the housework isn't something that you typically split up (well, okay, some couples do – but most of the time, it's assumed!) Your partner is probably going to assume that it is going to get done, just like you. For example, if the trash is full – both of you filled it, so why is it one person's responsibility to take it out? It should be a mutual thing and it shouldn't be a fight!
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Naturally, over time, comfort can lead to taking each other for granted. Suddenly, chores become silent standoffs. Who's going to give in first? It's a silent question hanging over unfinished laundry or a sink full of dishes. To maintain harmony, communication is key. It's all about finding a balance – maybe it's alternating weeks on certain chores or divvying up tasks based on preference or schedule. Remember, a chore tackled together is half the chore, double the bonding. Don't let the mundane become monumental; keep the domestic peace with a dash of teamwork and a pinch of humor.
5. You Know All of Their Moods/Faces
I think that this is one of the best parts of being comfortable in a relationship – your partner knowing everything about your moods and faces. Lyndsie (my fiance!) can tell when I am in a bad mood or when I am in a good mood just by looking at me. She can tell by the tone of my voice whether I am having a good day or a bad one and I love that!
6. You've Heard Every Single Joke
Okay, so if they start to look up jokes and start to tell them to you, this one might not apply, but most of the time, when you are comfortable in a relationship, you've heard every single joke, every single story and you love hearing them over and over again.
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It becomes a cozy ritual, where the punchlines are familiar, but still bring out a bubble of laughter. Your partner's quirks, from the corny one-liners to the long-winded "dad jokes," all become endearing trademarks of your shared history. It's those inside jokes that have you both cracking up before the punchline, fueling your private language of love and humor. Sure, a new joke might tickle your fancy now and then, but nothing warms the heart quite like the classics that have been with you through thick and thin.
7. When a Compliment Comes, You Think There is an Ulterior Motive
When you are in a relationship that is super comfortable, most of the time, you don't get compliments every single day. When you do get compliments, often times you think that there is some type of ulterior motive for your partner! It's funny though, most of the time, they just think that you look really, really nice right?
8. You Can't Sleep without Your Partner
While sometimes it is nice to sleep without your partner, as you can spread out on the bed, there is also missing that person next to you. Now that Lyndsie and I have been together for 7 years, I have a really hard time sleeping without her. I realized that when I had to go on a few business trips recently and had to sleep in hotel rooms – it was horrible!
9. They Know when It's Time to Leave You Alone
Finally, the last way to be able to tell that you are too comfortable in your relationship is that your partner knows when it is a good time to leave you alone. They know when you are getting cranky and when it has absolutely nothing to do with them. Isn't that the best?
So girls and guys, this is just a few of the ways that you can tell that you are super comfortable in your relationship – and that isn't bad at all! How comfortable are you in your relationship? Give up the tips!
Comments
splashhhh: No matter how comfortable Its always better to close door
Jasmine: After 10 years of marriage, can you possibly avoid becoming too comfortable in your relationship..?? It\'s inevitable in any long term relationship I say..
Jane: Can you be too comfortable?.. Is it wrong to throw a tanty whilst your partner taunts you until you turn psycho - then both enjoy a laugh at how mental you are???
Shannon: # 2 is disgusting
Angie: What was the point of this article?! Isn't being with a person and becoming one with them the ultimate goal in marriage?! Intimacy comes from being able to be yourself FULLY with the other person ---- I agree with always presenting yourself perfumed, made up, pretty to your spouse. Vice Versa -- but being completely your self--- knowing their faces and not being able to sleep without them is bit a bad thing--- if it is--- this article. Is clearly directed at people who just want to sleep around. --- no REAL relationship
Effy: #2 isn't gross to me at all, I think it's awesome to be so comfortable with your partner and yourself!
Nicole: Too comfortable isn't always a bad thing though
Vennybowvenny: Hahahahaha it\'s all true that these are signs of being way too comfortable !!! Some me time is good too. So keep some of that ladies
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