There are definitely signs he’s losing interest in you when you feel like your relationship is heading south. It’s sad when someone you care about begins to lose interest in what you have, but if you think it might be happening, you should try to prepare yourself. Talking things out in an upfront manner is always the best option, but if you feel like you can’t do that yet, you can still figure out how to tell he’s losing interest in you. All you have to do is follow these relationship tips.
One of the biggest signs he’s losing interest is if he stops getting in contact with you. If you once talked to him several times a day, he may simply not be interested in chatting with you or he could be talking to someone else. Either way, all signs point to a potential lack of interest.
2 He Avoids Making Plans
Sometimes it can take a while to pinpoint specific relationship tips. For instance, if your guy is busy and can’t spend a lot of time with you for a week or something, that doesn’t necessarily mean he’s lost interest. However, if he consistently tries to avoid making any plans with you, then he might not be as interested now. Betty Confidential also says to keep an eye out for a sudden interest in group dates.
3 He Stands You up
Let’s say you do get him to make plans with you, though. If he does so only to stand you up time and time again, then he may just be fulfilling the promise of a date out of a sense of obligation. If he doesn’t see any reason to fulfill that obligation, then his interest in the relationship might definitely be waning.
4 He’s Not as Affectionate
Affection is important in any relation. Any changes in the affection he gives you can point to signs he’s losing interest. If he’s never been super affectionate or hands on, you likely don’t have to worry. If, on the other hand, you’re used to him holding hands with you, giving you hugs, and kissing you and he suddenly stops or really lags, then there could be a problem.
5 You Stop Having Sex
Sex is on a different level, really; it deserves a point all on its own. If you and your partner had an engaged and exciting sex life and it begins to drag or lessen, that’s not positively a sign he’s lost interest. He could be stressed or going through something. If this behavior lingers for a while and combines with any of the other signs, though, then you can certainly consider it a red flag.
6 He Doesn’t Notice Changes
Sometimes you don’t notice it when your significant other gets a new haircut or a new shirt. If you make really drastic changes, though, and he doesn’t notice any of them, it could indicate trouble. If he doesn’t seem to notice you at all and if he, too, stops doing nice things for you, then his interest may be decreasing.
7 He Acts Defensive
If you’re trying to figure out how to tell he’s losing interest, you have to pay attention to his behavior. For instance, does he overreact to simple questions? Does he seem reluctant to share any information with you? He could be feeling guilty, not even necessarily because he’s cheating or interested in something else. He may just be reacting because of the increased tension that comes from his knowledge that he’s not interested in the relationship but hasn’t said so.
8 He Argues More
Does he seem to start more arguments with you? Does he nitpick, start little fights, and try to get under your skin? This might be guilt as well. However, he might also be trying to push you away. He might feel that’s easier than actually talking things out.
9 He Makes Excuses
If every time you recommend going out he seems to make excuses, you should become more alert of him potentially losing interest. Once or twice might not mean anything, but you can tell when someone is consistently avoiding you. When your partner apathetically offers excuses just to avoid you, you might have to consider that the end of this chapter in your life is near.
10 He Tries to Friend Zone You
People "friend zone" each other outside of relationships all the time. However, your guy might start trying to friend zone you after you've been in a relationship for a while. If he starts talking about other girls around you, he's most likely dropping a hint that he is more interested in being your friend than being your boyfriend.
11 He Sends One-word Responses
If when you're texting or talking to him, every response seems short and like he's trying to just "get the conversation over with", then you're dealing with a pretty bad sign. Guys are notorious for sending short text messages, so don't buy the gallon of chocolate ice cream yet if he sends a few one word responses. But if he doesn't seem to listen or care, and repeatedly sends you a "cool" or "okay" and nothing more, you should probably brace yourself for some changes.
12 He Doesn't Respond
Even worse is if when you text him, or speak to him face to face, he doesn't respond at all. That's a sign of him being mentally distracted and having other priorities over you. Obviously, if you aren't married yet, he probably does have priorities aside from you. But you should be at least in the top three of his list; a sign you might be slipping in rank of his priorities is a lack of response to texts, calls, emails, and within actual conversations.
13 He Gets Short with You
We all have that one person we're always short with. No matter what they say, you just can't wait until they stop talking. That becomes a problem when you're the person your boyfriend is getting short with. If he seems to cut you off a lot, roll his eyes when you're talking, or look impatient, then this might be a sign that he's losing interest in you.
14 You Only Small Talk
Once upon a time, you and your partner would talk about hopes and dreams, memories and secrets, ideas and plans. But now maybe the only conversations you have consist of small talk. This could mean a few things, but one possibility to consider is that he's trying to distance himself from you so that leaving you won't be so difficult.
15 You Can Just Tell
You're a woman! That means you innately have great intuition! You can tell when something feels off. When you sense that awful feeling that he might be losing interest, you may need to plan for a serious talk.
It can be difficult to actively look out for signs he’s losing interest in you, but doing so can save you some pain. You can begin to assess the relationship simply by following these relationship tips, which may actually make things less hurtful for both of you. Have you ever dated someone who lost interest in you, or have you lost interest in a significant other?
This article was written in collaboration with editor Sabrina Yates.