9 Alternatives to Traditional Marriage Many Women Are Embracing ...

Living Together • Long Distance Relationship • The Bread Winner Wife • Just Friends • Multiple Marriages • More ...

By Crystal • Jul 3, 2014 MD

Marriage may seem pretty straight-forward, but many women are embracing several alternatives to traditional marriage. The traditional couple getting married and settling down isn't right for everyone. After all, if you're happy together, that's all that truly matters. If regular marriage isn't right for you, you might want to consider one of these alternatives to traditional marriage.

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1. Living Together

By far, one of the most popular alternatives to traditional marriage is to simply live together. I see marriage as being a commitment two people make to each other. Choosing to live together and commit to each other is really no different. Many previously married individuals opt for this alternative because marriage didn't work for them in the past. Others just enjoy skipping the hoopla of a big ceremony.

2. Long Distance Relationship

I know this is a deal breaker for many, but some couples have no problem embracing a long distance relationship. The key to success is trust. Whether you're married or not, living apart and not being able to see each other for weeks or months at a time is hard. Military couples do it all the time. Others are finding it works great for them as well, especially when jobs are located hundreds of miles apart.

3. The Bread Winner Wife

In today's society, it's not all about the man bringing home the bacon and the wife staying home with the kids. In fact, many marriages now reverse those roles. Stay at home dads are more common than ever. To me, a couple should work out the roles they play for the best of the marriage, kids and themselves. It's always kind of sweet to see a guy cooking dinner and changing dirty diapers.

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This shift in domestic dynamics reflects a progressive mindset where gender norms are fluid and the notion of providing is not tied to one's sex. Couples are defining success in terms that resonate with their personal values and situations. Having a female breadwinner often means that financial flexibility and career choices are re-evaluated for the benefit of the household's overall well-being. It's a supportive, egalitarian approach to partnership, where both partners share responsibilities and strengths in a way that nurtures family growth and individual satisfaction.

4. Just Friends

Many people say their spouse is their best friend. Some women have decided to fully embrace that and marry for friendship instead of romantic love. While love-making may or may not be a priority, these couples are often extremely happy. They each are free to go off with other friends and when they come home, it's to someone they truly enjoy being around. Basically, it's a roommate that you trust completely.

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5. Multiple Marriages

While traditional vows say “til death do you part,” many women have discovered couples often grow apart. The person you're compatible with now may very well change several years later. Instead of forcing themselves to spend their lives in a miserable situation, they divorce and remarry later. Multiple marriages are nothing unusual and they help people stay happy throughout their lives.

6. Gay Marriage

While it's still highly controversial, gay marriage really isn't any different than traditional marriage. Still, for women who don't have a supportive family, it may be hard to consider marrying another woman, no matter how much they love each other. The fact is, marriage means being with the one you love. Gay or straight, it doesn't matter.

7. Marriage of Convenience

Marriage isn't always about love. In fact, it's often about convenience. From health benefits to a better living situation, some women marry to make life easier on themselves and the person they marry. For instance, a guy may get married because he needs a stable babysitter for his daughter. The couple are close friends, but they're not in love.

8. Open Marriage

I guess this is one of the hardest for me to understand. After all, why get married at all if both of you want to be with other people? Still, this alternative works for some couples. The key is communication and letting the other know who you're with. For these couples, it's not cheating because they're honest with each other and don't form romantic attachments to anyone else they're with. I suppose you'd call this a marriage with side benefits.

9. Polygamous Marriage

Sometimes it's hard to find just one person. Polygamous marriages aren't nearly as taboo as they used to be. Usually women in these marriages start out traditionally. The couple then decides to marry another man or woman or both. It's kind of a play on open marriage, except with a commitment.

As you can see, marriage isn't quite as black and white as we've been led to believe. If tradition is right for you, do what makes you and your partner happy. You have plenty of options to choose from. Have you ever embraced any non-traditional marriage alternatives?

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  • Leilah

    2014-07-03T18:17:20.319Z

    I agree with iloveparis624. First of all, there's no difference between a regular marriage, and a gay marriage. Marriage is between two people who love each other, want to make a commitment to each other, and be together for the rest of their life. of course that's rarely how it works nowadays, and if you don't want to get married that's fine but marrying your child's babysitter for convenience is quite sad.
  • Samantha

    2014-07-09T16:33:12.866Z

    I say as long as they love, respect and trust one another and all are on the same page than who am I or anyone to judge others on what they see as marriage.... Plus I'm an out & proud lesbian myself and can't wait to marry the woman of my dreams someday...:)
  • iloveparis624

    2014-07-04T01:40:29.751Z

    @drjgelb... the fact is that we do live in the 21st century. Our life expectancy is twice what it was 200 years ago. Love, respect, laughter and happiness have been prioritized over merely procreating and not getting scurvy. I don't claim to know what the best situation is for everyone, but I do not believe marriage for health insurance or a babysitter honors what modern marriage is. This is not a religion issue for me, rather a personal one. Knowing that being happily married can be achieved makes my heart break for those who would consider marriage for any reason other than love.
  • iloveparis624

    2014-07-04T01:45:00.263Z

    furthermore, polygamy in the United States is primarily restricted to the Fundamentalist Latter Day Saints. These marriages are arranged. Often between teenage girls and men old enough to be at least their fathers. It is a terrible situation for the women involved.
  • Ashley

    2014-07-03T23:40:42.611Z

    thanks for posting this. as a woman who very nearly married the wrong person, I have come to the realization that marriage means different things to different people. I agree with some of the posters that regular marriage and gay marriage are the same, but don't understand the vehement protests to this article. half of married couples get divorced, and who knows how many stay together for religious or other reasons. that means less than half of married people are actually HAPPY. if traditional marriage isnt functioning, who are we to judge people that find a form of relationship that works for them?
  • Abigail

    2014-07-03T20:19:42.781Z

    This is such a disturbing article.. an "open" marriage? Polygamy? Marrying so you can have a baby sitter? How can anyone consider these as alternatives to a marriage.. it's terrible
  • Consciously

    2014-10-20T20:54:25.592Z

    First ppl need to keep religion and God out of it. Marriage or what we know as the institution did NOT always exists as woman with dress walking down the isle... Marriage was really a business arrangement where many of you were sold off for a dowry or a cow or to merge some land or property... Do your research and stop thinking that the word commitment only belongs to the institution of marriage...Commitment is what you do with each other... marriage is a contract and combining of assets. That's like saying long term couples without merging their assets are not committed. No they are... when you have nothing tieing you together you have a lot to lose and work harder to keep it. Unlike marriage...many women especially think 'oh we married now, where's he going?'
  • Sam

    2014-11-18T03:47:34.098Z

    This is absolutely horrible
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